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just wanna b wanted
hi all,
Well it all really started off with this guy at work, ever since i started workiing last summer, this guy has just started fancying me n he is like 10 years older than me. We text etc each other quite often and he is really sweet to me, and is serious about me. However, i have never had a bf before and so this is like the closest im ever gonna get to having one. He makes me feel wanted and that makes me happy, and also probably b'cos i have such low self-confidence he makes me feel like i actually have something to offer, tbh i dont know what he sees in me..but at the end of the day he is well older than me! and thats what i cant deal with. Everytime we stop texting or whatever for period of time, i sorta miss him, but i shouldnt feel like that cos nothing can happen between us cos of the age thing.
On one hand, he tugs on my heart strings n on the otherside i try and convince myself that nothing can happen b'cos it cant..my parents would go nuts if anythigng happens with a guy 10yrs older than me!
I know its easy to just stop speaking to him, but i dont want to hurt him (but i guess thats inevitable) and at the same time he makes me feel like im worth something, like im worth loving or whatever. Ive had no other guys show interest like that in me b4. Ive never had a bf like i said b4 and for some reason atm i feel like i really need one, i just want to be with someone. Maybe im just settling for second best with this guy at work??
What do people think of this, i know its rather confusing, but im really just writing it as i feel!
Thanku!
Well it all really started off with this guy at work, ever since i started workiing last summer, this guy has just started fancying me n he is like 10 years older than me. We text etc each other quite often and he is really sweet to me, and is serious about me. However, i have never had a bf before and so this is like the closest im ever gonna get to having one. He makes me feel wanted and that makes me happy, and also probably b'cos i have such low self-confidence he makes me feel like i actually have something to offer, tbh i dont know what he sees in me..but at the end of the day he is well older than me! and thats what i cant deal with. Everytime we stop texting or whatever for period of time, i sorta miss him, but i shouldnt feel like that cos nothing can happen between us cos of the age thing.
On one hand, he tugs on my heart strings n on the otherside i try and convince myself that nothing can happen b'cos it cant..my parents would go nuts if anythigng happens with a guy 10yrs older than me!
I know its easy to just stop speaking to him, but i dont want to hurt him (but i guess thats inevitable) and at the same time he makes me feel like im worth something, like im worth loving or whatever. Ive had no other guys show interest like that in me b4. Ive never had a bf like i said b4 and for some reason atm i feel like i really need one, i just want to be with someone. Maybe im just settling for second best with this guy at work??
What do people think of this, i know its rather confusing, but im really just writing it as i feel!
Thanku!
Reply 1
Firstly, how old are you? If you're under 18.. it's not a good idea at all. If you're over 18, 10 years still quite a lot but parents don't have to know that 
anyways, i think firstly you should try to understand feelings for him. If you don't like him (like A LOT) then id say wait for the right guy. however cheesy it may sound
anyways, i think firstly you should try to understand feelings for him. If you don't like him (like A LOT) then id say wait for the right guy. however cheesy it may sound Reply 2
If you are looking to have this guy for a partner just because you feel you ought to be with somone, or you just want to be with anyone, then it probably isn't the right time.
You seem a bit vunerable at the moment, and if you are not happy with yourself, then getting into a relationship is not going tp help. It can only cause friction.
With the age difference, for some people it isn't a big deal, but I think that does depend a lot on age. When I was 17 I dated somebody 7 years older than me, which was ok at first. However we ended up wanting different things out of the relationship and it broke off.
Finally, you need to understand that you are worth something, probably an awful lot! You don't need only a partner to make you feel loved. Take some time to start getting to know yourself, and what you need at the moment (not just what you think will make you feel good in the short term). And as was said before me, make sure you wait for the right guy. He always pops up somewhere, trust me on that one!
You seem a bit vunerable at the moment, and if you are not happy with yourself, then getting into a relationship is not going tp help. It can only cause friction.
With the age difference, for some people it isn't a big deal, but I think that does depend a lot on age. When I was 17 I dated somebody 7 years older than me, which was ok at first. However we ended up wanting different things out of the relationship and it broke off.
Finally, you need to understand that you are worth something, probably an awful lot! You don't need only a partner to make you feel loved. Take some time to start getting to know yourself, and what you need at the moment (not just what you think will make you feel good in the short term). And as was said before me, make sure you wait for the right guy. He always pops up somewhere, trust me on that one!
Reply 3
swirled_peacat
If you are looking to have this guy for a partner just because you feel you ought to be with somone, or you just want to be with anyone, then it probably isn't the right time.
You seem a bit vunerable at the moment, and if you are not happy with yourself, then getting into a relationship is not going tp help. It can only cause friction.
With the age difference, for some people it isn't a big deal, but I think that does depend a lot on age. When I was 17 I dated somebody 7 years older than me, which was ok at first. However we ended up wanting different things out of the relationship and it broke off.
Finally, you need to understand that you are worth something, probably an awful lot! You don't need only a partner to make you feel loved. Take some time to start getting to know yourself, and what you need at the moment (not just what you think will make you feel good in the short term). And as was said before me, make sure you wait for the right guy. He always pops up somewhere, trust me on that one!
You seem a bit vunerable at the moment, and if you are not happy with yourself, then getting into a relationship is not going tp help. It can only cause friction.
With the age difference, for some people it isn't a big deal, but I think that does depend a lot on age. When I was 17 I dated somebody 7 years older than me, which was ok at first. However we ended up wanting different things out of the relationship and it broke off.
Finally, you need to understand that you are worth something, probably an awful lot! You don't need only a partner to make you feel loved. Take some time to start getting to know yourself, and what you need at the moment (not just what you think will make you feel good in the short term). And as was said before me, make sure you wait for the right guy. He always pops up somewhere, trust me on that one!
Nice advice. I'm going through a similar problem. Thanks that helped
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