attending parties

Im 21 and have been invited to this birthday do by a guy who goes to football, im gonna have to go as I need to start getting out more I only have one mate other than this im a social recluse (sp) as my mum puts it. The thing is he told me to bring a mate but really I have none apart from one but they all know him and are not keen on him he was kicked off the team. Plus they will think I only have one mate if I turn up with him won't they? Should I just not go? Can't you tell I have no social skills! Im just really sensitive to what people think of me its probably why Ive no friends.

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Reply 1

username72629

I'm sure they wont care if you don't bring a mate.

Reply 2

Anonymous #1

Hixxy

I'm sure they wont care if you don't bring a mate.

They won't care but I fear being sat in a corner on my own like I usually do when everyone is in groups.

Reply 3

godfather

i totally understand wat u mean... ur worried someone will ask who did you come with... if someone asks you that u can say the person who called you... all it is is a bit of confidence (which i know is easier said then done)... what id try and do if i was you is go, relax, meet people have a good time.... im sure you'll enjoy it mate... good luck

Reply 4

Shake 'n Bake

Just bring the guy and ask him to bring a friend

Reply 5

Anonymous #2

Hire an attractive escort :biggrin:

On a serious note, try going on your own, you probably won't be the only person who didn't bring anybody. You obviously know the guy who invited you so you can chat to him and he might introduce you to people. If not wait til everyone gets drunk (including yourself) and chat to randomers. The drunker they are, the more happy they'll be to talk to strangers (works in my case).

Reply 6

happydinosaur

If you do go, don't worry about not having brought anyone else, just say that nobody was avalible or that you didn't want to bring anyone.

Reply 7

Anonymous #1

k, thanks, I'l try and take my mate anyway but am just worried he'l say he can't then I'l just have to turn up alone like you said.

Reply 8

iz_a_bell

Well, I think it doesn't matter whether you bring a friend or not. No one is there to judge. If you're uncomfortable about it, and ppl ask who you've came with, you could jst say, it was a last minute decision and no one was up for it.

Reply 9

hippieglitter

They're not gonna mind if you don't bring a friend. Go for it, have fun and try and talk to new people gain some more friends.

Reply 10

Vampyrcorn

could you take a brother/sister?

Reply 11

BlackHawk

The people who invited you must like you, so just go alone and chat to them. See it as an oppertunity to make friends. If you do decide to invite that guy, check it with the party organiser first if there are bad feelings between them.

Reply 12

Jonesy_LJ

Isn't 'bring a mate' usually an optional thing anyway, as in, you're free to invite whoever you want, rather than, you must bring someone?

Reply 13

prettyblueeyes

People usually say "bring a mate" so that you have the option to if you want, if you don't know many people, want to go home with someone, or just think a friend would have a laugh too. It's not a requirement. Just go.. have fun!

Reply 14

Sunofnight

Jonesy_LJ

Isn't 'bring a mate' usually an optional thing anyway, as in, you're free to invite whoever you want, rather than, you must bring someone?

yes but thats not the point.

Reply 15

Sunofnight

Jonesy_LJ

How is it not the point? The guy's worrying because he's not sure he has anybody he can invite, so how is pointing out that bringing somebody isn't a necessity not the point?

I thought he was more worried about looking like a loser/loner whatever for not bringing a mate, I think he knows that he doesn't have to bring one as he said in his post he is considering going alone.

Reply 16

HipsAndHearts

Take me.

Reply 17

Anonymous #3

you could take me....If you really want to go then go whether with a mate,family member or solo. And this could be an opportunity to make more mates however there would be no point of you going and sittn in the corner the whole night. Better off staying at home watching MTV