My ex....

The boy who i was in love with, who split up with me last wednesday has just told me that he is seeing somebody else... and feels far more strongly about her than what he ever felt about me... although he told me stuff like "he can see him self marrying me" "he wants to have kids with me someday"... i dont think i can get through this, this is the final bullet in the long line of things that have been going wrong in the past few weeks, and i feel like the most unwanted person in the whole wide world... i am just physically shaking...

Reply 1

Yellowmarshmellow

I find it strange how he told you he could see himself marrying you, then split up with you and got with another girl who he suddenly felt extra strongly for within a week... he sounds.. confused? seriously though, as much as you love him if he's going to treat you like this then he really isn't worth it and it's a blessing in disguise that he is out of your life. I know it is hard for you to see this at the mo because you still feel very strongly for him, time will make things better i assure you. Maybe talk to someone about the other things that are going wrong because as you don't say what they are i can't really comment but you don't deserve to feel this upset. Hope stuff gets better though, just try to focus on positive things :smile:

Reply 2

everylittleting

1

awww

that really sucks

When did he tell you about her? He's not worth it though if he can treat someone like that, there are so many nice guys out there, and they'll make you so much happier than a guy like that.

Reply 3

SuperDaz

13

What a ******. It sounds like he is just trying to wind you up, don't let it get to you :frown:

I would stop contact with him, he doesn't sound like hes worth even keeping as a friend.

What else is going on in your life? Anything else you want to talk about? :hugs:

Reply 4

Anonymous #1

OP

well i txt him saying i still loved him and i think we should meet up and sort stuff out... and he txt back saying "just get over me, im over you, im seeing someone else, and i feel far more strongly about her than what i ever felt about you"
Im at home, and im trying to pretend to my family and everyone that everythings fine, when i really just want to breakdown and cry my eyes out.

He is the only person who i have every loved, and i would do anything for him, and i was certain he felt the same... and now im just devestated...

Reply 5

HistoryStudent

13

He's being extremely cruel to you, I feel for you. *hugs*

Reply 6

Emma_lu

1

just for starters, i have recently fell out with my best mate for like 10 years, and althogh we have made up she has got new friends (which includes me ex as one of them)... i fell down my stairs on friday, have two black eyes covered in bruises...im constantly expected to look after my little cousin cause her dad has cancer... im so lonely... im behind with uni work...

Reply 7

chocol@tte

oh babe... dont worry... my bf has broken up with me a few day ago, cos his mate hated me n told him smth that made him dump me... i was shaking for a few days as well, but its better now... imagine how mistaken i was when i thought that my ex actually cared about me more about some stupid rumours.. (even though everything was ABSOLUTELY perfect between us, just PERFECT)
i know how it feels trust me... like the whole world disappears at once n u feel like theres no point in living... but it will get better :smile:

Reply 8

Sezkin

11

Anonymous

The boy who i was in love with, who split up with me last wednesday has just told me that he is seeing somebody else... and feels far more strongly about her than what he ever felt about me... although he told me stuff like "he can see him self marrying me" "he wants to have kids with me someday"... i dont think i can get through this, this is the final bullet in the long line of things that have been going wrong in the past few weeks, and i feel like the most unwanted person in the whole wide world... i am just physically shaking...

I was in a similar situation though I wasn't in 'love' but I had true feelings for him and never felt so happy around him than any other lads I went out with. But when we broke up, I wanted to remains friends but he couldn't accept that. Then a few months later, he texted me saying ' I've got a gorgeous girlfriend, she's hot' and I was abit hurt by it BUT now... I think I'm so glad he is out my life and you start to realise the bad things about him :biggrin:

. He still tries to bother me by email/text but I ignore it and show that I'm the better person.

To be honest, I think he's trying to make you jealous and hurt, he's not worth the hassle if he acts like this, if he says anymore about his girlfriend, just reply ' oh I'm busy at the mo, getting ready for a date! :biggrin:

I'm seeing this lad. XxX C ya later!...etc Show that your the stronger person and that you're not bothered about his life. Then he'll stop texting you and realise that you also moved on.

I'm sorry to say but you might have to delete his mobile number, email addy...etc any possible contacts you could have with him.

And don't think that you can get back with him because he's not worth it if he ditches you for another girl, there is a chance that he would do the same to the girl anyway.

Reply 9

Emma_lu

1

i just tried to phone him and his best mate answered...then he phoned me back and said apperently hes parking his car and will ring me back

Reply 10

chocol@tte

and i SO know how hard it is acting as if your fine in front of your family!

Reply 11

Emma_lu

1

ooo and btw i am the same girl that posted saying 'is my boyfriend gay' but we sorted out that who situation and everything was fine again...

Reply 12

Sezkin

11

Flowergirl1989

and i SO know how hard it is acting as if your fine in front of your family!

YUP definitely, I tried to keep a straight face and not think about it; but it's soo hard!

I had to spill it out in the end because my parents were like ' you havn't been yourself recently, is something up?' and I just told them everything blubbering all over the place haha... :redface:

It helps though! They make you feel so much better! But... then again they do go through their experiences in the past of handling emotions and at that part I was thinking ' YOU had boyfriends/ girlfriends ... :eek:

... you're joking...'

I'm mean. :redface:

Also you start to notice little things that reminds you of him which doesn't help because memories starts to flood back.

Reply 13

IndianDiva

Try not to think about him and keep yourself busy with other things. The sooner you get over him and move on in your life, the better.

Reply 14

Anonymous #2

My ex did something similar. He dumped me and a week later got with some girl. Made a point of being all over her whenever i was around. I think that's when i realised what a ****** he was. I thought if you can do that and go to those lengths to upset me you really are a spiteful person.

I thought i would never get over him but i've never been happier since meeting my present boyfriend. Cheer up...even though you love someone don't let them control your feelings and make you feel unworthy. You're a star :smile:

Reply 15

Anonymous #3

Look i have been in too many of these situations and i advice to KEEP YOUR HEAD UP, yeah it hurts like hell but you know what you are strong enough to move you and im sure in no time you would have moved on..ALL you need is will power and REAL MATES to be there for you. Forget him, next time he calls, there will be no need for hostility,just act all normal and let whet he says go out the other ear!! Go out, have some fun and stay beautiful.
HE isnt worth all your tears just 0.76% of them save the rest for a real man when he walks you down that aisle.

Reply 16

Emma_lu

1

ive just been speaking to him, although he keeps putting the phone down... and he said the reason we finished was because of other people **** stirring... and he will speak to me again in a few weeks... i really really love him and care about him... im acting like a crazy woman and im embarasing my self infront of all of his friends... i just cant leave it like this...

Reply 17

IndianDiva

You've gotta stop chasing him... he really isn't worth the time of day.

Reply 18

Emma_lu

1

I know... everyones saying the same, but i saw a side to him that no one else has ever saw... and thats what i want back... :frown:

Reply 19

poppyache

come on lass, it time to be brave!! He's not worth it!
just remeber, you were fine without him before- soon you WILL feel ok.
go boy hunting with your friends.

xxx

My ex....

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