Still love him but not "in love"

Had the most amazing relationship with my boyfriend. We were the best of friends and I was madly in love with him. He'd be on my mind constantly. And I was so happy with us! Then one day I just randomly thought "I don't love X anymore." It was the most bizarre thing as the month leading up to that I'd started daydreaming about us getting engaged. That was several months ago and I haven't felt the same since. It's the oddest thing and I feel so sad and miss how we were so much. I don't want to let him go, or want anyone else, but at the same time I feel so sad/guilty when I'm around him or speaking to him because I just don't get that feeling anymore.

I know how you feel, the difference was that I let him go all together because I can't stay mates with him. I can't say too much about myself, but I do get what you mean.

That's really sad I think you should give it some more time, did anything trigger it or was it completely random? Give it time, if nothing changes, then end it. There's no point in being with someone you don't feel anything for anymore

That is really sad

You described how I feel about my ex. It caused her so much pain but I had to let her go. Now she hates me. Wouldnt see me for a year.

Oh that's really sad. Did you just wake up one day and stop feeling anything for your boyfriend? It's weird that it was that sudden, I mean you did say you were daydreaming about being engaged to the guy so it seems it wasn't gradual.

I'd say the only thing you can do is let him go. It'll prolong his suffering and yours if you stay with him. You need to tell him the truth and break up.

The worst thing you can do to yourself is to just give up on the spot. Sure you will have some hard days but giving up on the first few days it happens shouldn't be the deciding vote. Sure you may have changed but are you really a different person overnight and has much really changed between you?

It wasn't even that I woke up one day. It was 1 second I was madly in love, then I moved to one side of my bed and suddenly I had this feeling.

I keep thinking that would be the right thing to do, but neither of us want that. I don't think I'd want to love everyone after him. He's my best friend. I've never felt so connected to anyone else. I'm so upset because this has no reason about it.

I refuse to. To be honest, it's been several months but we both want to fight indefinitely. I didn't change overnight, no. What has changed is that I haven't been very happy since the day this happened.

That's sad. I hope you're ok!

I don't think that's something you can fight or control. If you don't feel anything for him it may not be logical, but it happens. I'm really sorry it has, but I think it would be best if you guys did break up. You may hope for those feelings to come back, but what if they never do? I don't think it's fair to him to carry on the relationship knowing those feelings aren't there, just for the sake of security and stability. Yes you guys have been together a while and are really close, and you can still try to make a friendship work after the break up if you want, but it's better to think of the other person in this situation and move on.

How old are you, if you are quite young then your feelings will change quite rapidly.