Date on Sunday, dad is worried, is it risky?

I recently posted anon about my b/f taking his anger out on me, I was advised quite a lot to break up with him and I've taken a step I never thought I would do and I've broke up with him.

No sooner than I had done that, a guy I have been talkin to for a few months on the internet asked me out for a drink to celebrate his b'day, and although it is a bit soon, I said yes.

I told my dad and he flipped saying I don't even know him and anything can happen to me and now he's no talking to me because I'm still going ahead with it.

I know my dad is just worried about me and bad things happen but I've explained I'm basically 19, not 9, and I've got common sense and I'll have my wits about me but he still won't listen.

What should I do?

Any advice would be great, thanks in advance. :biggrin:

Reply 1

loopymeg

13

It's upto you, and considering I met one of my best friends on the Internet I can't really say that something bad is definitely going to happen.

So if you go ahead with it, which you probably will, then just be careful. Don't drink too much, keep an eye on your drink, remain in a public area and just don't do anything silly.

I know it sounds mean but until you get to know this guy well enough you're still putting yourself at risk.

Reply 2

la fille danse

17

Ask him how it's any different from going into a bar normally, meeting someone there, and having a drink with them.

Reply 3

rosetinted

2

Meeting up with people you know online isn't a big deal as long as you are careful. I would advise speaking to him on the phone before you meet up with him though. You can get a better sense of what someone is like when you talk to them on the phone.

Obviously meet him in a public place, tell people where you are going and get them to give you a call after an hour to make sure you are ok. I don't think it's any more risky than meeting up with someone you danced with in a club or going on a blind date.

Reply 4

black-cat

7

obviously meeting someone you only know online is gonna be risky, but maybe you could get some friends to be there as well, not necessarily with you but have them in the same pub/bar whatever, just in case things don't turn out well?
it could turn out ok, as people do meet online and then meet up in person all the time, but perhaps it is wise to be a bit more cautious than you would normally.

Reply 5

*starry_eyed_*

14

Is it actually his birthday on sunday?

Reply 6

L0RA

9

If your Dads really that worried then get your friends to sit in the same pub or something? Ask him to ring you after an hour or so to check you're okay.

I cant really think of other ways to put your dads mind at rest, my dad would flip out if i even mentioned meeting someone from the internet :eek:

Reply 7

username47781

20

I think it's understandable that he's worried, by all means go for a drink but don't do anything that you are not comfortable with.

Reply 8

~x~Claire~x~

OP

Yeah I know it's risky and I'm gonna be really careful but I have been talking to him for around 4 months now and I have spoke to him on the phone a lot and yes it is his actual birthday on Sunday.

Reply 9

*Mike*

11

meeting someone online is always risky, but im still gonna be doing it during easter and my parents are fine with it :ninja:

Reply 10

~x~Claire~x~

OP

yeah i just feel like telling my dad to shut up! Coz just the other day he told to go out and enjoy myself and now I'm going to and now he's giving me a lecture!

And tbh I don't think it is that much different from going on a date with someone I've just met in a club or something similar, yet he'd be ok with that!

Reply 11

dogtanian

16

It's good you've told him. He's not stopping you from going, so perhaps go (and keep safe!), and hopefully he'll come round to the idea. It's much better that you've told him and he's upset now than for him to find out you've lied to him.

I lied to my parents about meeting some internet people a few years ago. It wasn't pretty when they found out. The next time I did the same thing, I made sure my parents knew before I went. And it ended out OK.

Reply 12

*Mike*

11

The person im meeting up with hasnt told their parents and although i would prefer them to, ive been told they probably wont be able to meet if their parents find out ;/

Reply 13

Legyviel

Im not encouraging you but thats how i met my boyfriend... Not everyone is serial killer here you know :P be careful, enjoy.

Reply 14

~x~Claire~x~

OP

lol yeah I mean I'm never gonna know if he's bad or good news if I don't go, it's just I don't want my dad to be angry coz there's an atmosphere in the house and I hate it.

And he can't say anything coz he was 32 when he met my mum when she was 18 so that wasn't exactly orthodox was it!

Reply 15

Sticky

*starry_eyed_*

Is it actually his birthday on sunday?

It's very strange that he'd want to celebrate his birthday alone with some stranger from the net. It just sounds really lonely...

As for meeting up people on the net, it's never lead to anything worthwhile for me. It's all a bit messed up in my opinion. I'm sure some people deal with it a lot better than I ever did.

Reply 16

~x~Claire~x~

OP

Maybe, yeah I mean he's going out tonight with his friends and none of his family live near him, he's in London, they are in Leeds, I spose he just wanted to spend his actual b'day with someone and it just seems like the perfect excuse to ask me out.....and coz I'm confortable on the trains and I don't have to be home for work etc so maybe I'm just the right person, right time? Who knows!

Reply 17

Quintanium

Just be careful but I would say there's nothing to worry about. I've met plenty of people over the net and a lot of them I don't even know either.

Have fun!

Reply 18

*Katie*

1

I would say that you should tell your Dad that you'll text him every hour to let him know that you're alright. It's annoying...but it'll give him peace of mind, and might convince him to let you go. You seem sensible, I think you'll be fine as long as you're cautious (not drinking too much, making sure you have arrangements to get home), but this should be the case with any date, not just ones met online!

Reply 19

Don Vito

Take a weapon o_O

I've met up with someone I knew over the net myself actually, it went fine. I was prepared all the same mind, be as cautious as you can possibly be. It was quite weird thinking back on it, we both understood that naturally we were going to be extremely cautious, and even prepared for a fight if things took an unexpected turn for the worse. All very romantic, as you can imagine

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