Missing social events

Okay, here's the deal. I'm in my last year of school, and I'm torn. I'm torn between wanting to get the best grades I can possibly get, and wanting to go out and have fun with my friends for the last few weeks I'll ever see them regularly.

So far, I've been going to most parties and social things; however, now the exams are getting closer, and I've been very overstretched with coursework and homework and things (having to get up early and stay up late to finish work), so I've had to miss a few social events. I also do a lot of extra activities outside school, leaving just enough time for me to fit in my work with hardly any time left over.

Now, I think I'm able to judge myself when it's a good idea for me not to go to a social event. But recently some of my friends have been making it difficult for me about me not coming to things. "You always miss things", "You never do anything", etc. And it's really wearing me down. You see, I feel irritated enough that I have to miss the thing itself, without a lecture into the bargain. I don't need any reproaches they give me.

I'm getting more and more tired with all the late nights and early mornings. And although I've always tried to be a reasonable person, I can feel myself getting more and more irritated, even though I can see their point of view. How do I say to them that I don't want their opinions on the matter? How do I explain to them how I feel about it?

Thanks for any advice.

Reply 1

tbtommyb

How can you have so much work to do that you can't go out at all? I don't know how many or which subjects you're doing, but I find that I have every evening almost free and one day of work on the weekend.

Reply 2

saasmi

How good friends are they?! If they're just saying it to tease, then it shouldn't matter to you. However, if they sarcastically say it, they aren't friends who would understand. If you can, try talking to them about it.. i.e if you think they'll understand. Or else you should not care, and learn howto balance. Take a few mintutes to choose whether to go out or not, and stick to that decision and not think otherwise. It's difficult to do so, but it's worth an effort.
Your social life and relaxation is as important as your studies. If you feel happy to go out and party, only then do so. Don't go out just for your friends or to prove something to them. Your time is precious. Try not to get irritated, maybe by doing things that interest you. Irritation is most likely to distract your studies, and thus waste your time.
This time will hopefully be over soon and you have alot more ahead of you!
Good Luck ;console; :hugs:

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