Please help - I can't stop feeling insecure and paranoid.

I always get it into my head that people don't like me or prefer others to me. It's ridiculous, I know, but it really affects me. At uni myself and three other girls are very close, but I'm always beating myself up, convincing myself that they prefer one another to me etc. How can I get over this and be more confident in myself?

Reply 1

mistress mayhem

i feel exactly the same and i hate it. I think my friends all prefer each other over me..............

Reply 2

Saffie

Personally, I just get drunk and talk to everyone and realise that i'm not disliked. (probably not the best solution..)

I don't know about you but my problem is that I get worried people dont like me, so talk to them less, hence they talk to me less... and it reinforces my initial thoughts.

So part of it is stopping that cycle. But beyond that, I wouldn't know...

Reply 3

DonneJohn

I know its hard to deal with, but try not to worry about it. I dont know how long you've been at Uni so far but even for the first couple of years everything is new and everyones still finding their feet. Everyone feels like you, not just the ladies either im a bloke and i have my moments. You've just got to think for every one thought you have the other people are probably thinking the same thing, some might be good at hiding it and others wont. I agree with the girl above who said to get drunk, i generally find that people speek the truth more when drunk, especially in circumstances where, when sober they are 'on guard'. you know?

x

Reply 4

Anonymous #1

i went through the same thing at the beginning of this year and the best advice that i got was to act confident even if your not. i did this and i got a MUCH better reaction from people and in time, forgot that this was an "act" and i just became a more confident person naturally.

give it a try, good luck!

Reply 5

dying-flower

yep! I know how you feel, almost to the point of paranoia! My advice, though I don't know how it will help, is to trust your friends. we all like different people more at different times, but that doesn't mean that you value your other mates any less! you said you are close, so they obviously love you! I guess you should try to remeber when you are down, all the things that you done for eeach other, that shows how much value you hold with them!
And crap all the rest...
good luck!
of course I guess following my own advice would be good...lol!

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