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Female Friend Needs Advice

So I'm sat next to a female friend of mine right now and she's stuck in a sticky situation.

Basically the history is she's been friends with a guy for years now and the relationship has been quite complicated. At various points one has liked the other but not reciprocated. However now they have agreed to go out and it seems they both like each other at last!

But she can't seem to get him into any serious arrangements. When she brings up the subject he usually makes an immature joke, usually about sex (e.g. Oh yeah we're gonna make a porno this weekend) and then changes the subject. Is he just messing her around?

Reply 1

shinytoy

what do you mean by 'serious arrangements', do you mean getting married or moving in together or something?

also maybe she told you that this guy is messing her around because she likes you and wants to be with you? its a bit like the man who tells the gorgeous girl 'my wife doesnt understand me, we havent slept together in years...'

Reply 2

member64211

I mean arrangements as in going out arrangements. It's been two weeks since he said he'd go out with her but he wont commit to a time.

And no comment on if she likes me lol I have no idea! I have seen the chat logs tho so i know she aint lying.

Reply 3

member64211

Sorry for the bump but this thing's about to go off the page and she really wants help on how to figure out if he's messin around or not.

Reply 4

wackysparkle

exactly why and how did the guy agree to go out with her in the end?

Reply 5

member64211

They were talking on MSN and she told him she liked him on there. He said he really likes her. But he'll now always change the subject if she brings it up. It looks pretty clear cut to me but she wants more input.

Reply 6

Ink

shinytoy

also maybe she told you that this guy is messing her around because she likes you and wants to be with you? its a bit like the man who tells the gorgeous girl 'my wife doesnt understand me, we havent slept together in years...'

Quite a big assumption to make, don't you think?

A lot of girls ask their guy friends for boy advice and it means absolutely nothing except that they want advice from an objective/boy's point of view.

@ the OP...I'm not sure this guy is worth the effort for her! He is acting very strange...

May I ask how old they are? Maybe he is inexperienced and afraid of going out with her? He is certainly acting very immature about it.

Or maybe he isn't sure whether he likes her so much after all? Maybe he likes another girl more and didn't want to let this girl down 'just in case', so he is keeping her hanging around as a back up?

It's really hard to tell.