Really worried about boyfriend - health

Last year when my boyfriend was on his gap year, he developed some kind of brain problem. His symptons were forgetting things (even his sisters' names), getting really tired and generally not being able to complete sentences. He had treatment - i'm not entirely sure what - and stayed in hospital for a bit. As the year progressed, he started getting a bit better now, he was on some kinda tablets and he's practically fine now apart from getting tired. Recently though, as in, the last week, he's being more tired than he usually is. He used to be going to bed at 9.30-10ish which then I thought was ridiculously early for a 20 year old but this week he's been going at 8.30ish. On saturday nights though, we used to stay out late because he said he has a sleep in on sundays and it's only university nights that he has to go to bed earlier. Tonight, however, he left at 10. In the past, we've been awake until 1-2ish. So he said that he'll have to wait a few days to see if he's getting ill again and then would have to go to the doctors.

Thing is, I don't know whether he's keeping it from me or not but he said he doesn't actually know what his condition is. He said the doctors don't quite know and they don't know if it will come back again. :s-smilie:

To me that sounds weird... how can they not know?! I want to know what he's got so I can get a better idea of what's wrong with him because right now it's a major effort to even find out that he's getting ill again. I have to practically interrogate him before he admits to anything, and he told me he's started taking the tablets again which the doctors gave him in case he starts to feel ill.

I do remember one conversation, though, where he said the doctors think it could be either multiple sclerosis or encephalitis but he said he doesn't know. It doesn't really sound like MS I don't think. From what I've heard, that's more serious? I don't know. I'm a bit useless with medical stuff so they don't really mean anything to me though it sounds pretty serious. Does anyone else have an idea of what it could be? I'm worrying myself sick over this now and I don't know what to do. He said the reason he doesn't tell me stuff is to stop me worrying but I want him to tell me stuff. But there again, if I tell him I'm worrying he's gonna tell me even less. I don't know what to do... I don't know what's wrong with him. Anyone got any comments or anything, please?

Reply 1

LipGloss

I can understand how worried you are about your boyfriend, but it's quite possible neither he nor the doctors know what's wrong with him. Humans are pretty complex creatures and no two people are the same... so when it comes to diseases, there isn't a one-size-fits-all. The only thing you can do is to be there for him, listen to his concerns, try to understand that he can't stay up late, etc. I hope you both find out what it is soon. :hugs:

Reply 2

wackysparkle

Just tell him that you don't want to be in the dark - as you believe believe that in order for you both to be in a relationship you have to be able to support and trust one another. If you worry, then you worry - but you are worrying now moreso coz he won't tell you what is wrong -