Very controlling

Hi

I like to take care of myself when I go out. I get dressed up and put on a bit of make-up and dress sexy(it makes me feel good). But my bf doesnt like it very much. He thinks that by dressing this way i attract a lot of guys but even when i dress in the most baggy clothes i still attract guys. So he is really upset about it and allows pulls me away from guys when they are talking to me. So when i go to parties i cant talk to anyone other than my friends and i enjoy meeting new ppl. I have talked to him about it but he just says that he is protectin me from the guys that might take advantage of me.

What do you think?

Reply 1

Anonymous #2

Hmm i doubt he's just 'protecting you from the guys that might take advantage of you' - he's blatently overly jealous and possesive of you, he seriously needs to trust you more and be proud that he has such a pretty gf who attracts loads of guys instead of controlling you and making you feel like you can't speak to new people which is wrong and will eventually drive you away. Tell him how you feel, sounds like he's insecure but he shouldn't be if you reassure him that it's him you like and that you're not going to jump into bed with a randomer on the street who smiles/talks to you.

Reply 2

Yellowmarshmellow

^^ sorry didn't mean for that to be anon, box was ticked for some reason.

Reply 3

Juwel

Tell him you do it for him; that you're getting all dolled up to make all the other males jealous of him for having such a sexy girlfriend. Or something.

Reply 4

silverbolt

hes jealous insecure and a very small little child if he pulls you away from guys who are simply talking to you.

Question does he talk to random girls when your around?

id say tough love is called for tell him you will talk to who you like reassure him your not going to cheat but that yoour not going to stop socialising just cos hes got paronia issues

Reply 5

Miss. B

start telling him what to wear and see how he likes it :smile:

i hate guys like that! I mean if he can see your pretty then clearly others will find you attractive as well....

Reply 6

jbcubed3

I kinda get where he's coming from, but it certainly sounds very extreme!

My is absolutely stunning in my eyes and so gets a load of male attention, even when covered up, but having been out with her and knowing how she'd react, she's definitely shown trust and wouldn't do anything stupid. I get a little iffy sometimes when some guys are blatantly flirty, but she's smart enough to not get into any dodgy situations so it doesn't bother me so much.

Speak to him, assure him that he can trust you and thank him for looking out for you, but ask if he can be a little less controlling as he should be able to trust you.

Reply 7

-steph-

I think that he is just scared that he might lose you. Tell him how you feel and tell him that he is the only guy in your life.

Good luck.

Reply 8

Anonymous #1

When he goes out he only talks to a few girls but mostly its friends that he already knows. I know that he isnt very self confident so i thought that dressing up would make him feel better that i am an attractive girl. He sometimes gets very aggressive with the guys as he is very built, I have reassured him that i would never choose those guys over him as I love him.

Next week I have to go on a trip with 2 of my guy friends as I want to go the Cricket World Cup as im a big fan of cricket. I havent told him as yet cause I dont want to tell him about the 2 guys (i dont fancy them but they are fairly attractive and have no gfs). I have told him that im going on a trip but i havent given him the details as yet cause im scared that he will over react. Should i tell him something else?

Reply 9

jbcubed3

Very difficult situation. I would try as best not to cover anything up for him, as it usually comes out in some way or other. For example if you see these guy mates and your bf is there with you, it would cause problems if they say - "can't wait for the cricket, see you then" or after "That was an awesome trip" - something like that.

When you do get to talk about your trip, I would be honest with him - you're going on a friendly trip with two good male mates, and that's it. Be friendly but firm and stick to your trip.

Reply 10

balloon_parade

This guy is very controlling I agree!

Just have to tell him you want to dress up so YOU feel good, not so you have all different guys chatting you up. He shouldn't stop you being who you are, you like to go to parties and meet new people and who is he to stop you doing that because hes insecure about himself, hes making his problem yours.

About the trip, maybe you should tell him, if he gets annoyed about you merely talking to some guys then going on a trip with them isnt going to make him the happiest man in the world!

Just have to say Im going to the cricket world cup...not sure who with yet but X and X are definitley going. Good Luck, I've had boyfriends like this and its just not fun. xxx

Reply 11

username47781

He needs to stop being so insecure because if he keeps getting jealous like this it will ruin your relationship. Just reassure him you dress up for him.