mothers day dilemma

Tonight at work I was planning what I would get my mum for mother's day, and I was really looking forward to going out tomorrow and getting her a lovely present and visiting her in the afternoon.
Well, I get back from work tonight and went onto the a forum that we are both members of. I went to the new topic I'd started (it was a little rant about clothes being different sizes to their label in shops) and she'd written a really childish reply telling me to "stop making a fuss about bloody daft things and be quiet." I thought to myself, how embarrassing. Everyone knows shes my mother.
Not only that, but yesterday while she was on msn, I asked her what time I could come over on Sunday and she began to sound very cold, as if she wasn't bothered about me going over. Even though this made me upset and worried, I still wanted to get her a nice present.
But now I don't want to go over at all. Everytime my mum does this to me she makes it into some sort of game. Its mothers day all I wanted to do was make sure she had a nice day :confused:

Should I just leave it out this year? My little brothers will have got her presents. I just don't think I can cope anymore with the way she upsets me all the time with her moodswings.

Reply 1

mr_person

1

Go and see her on mothers day if she expects it. No point in blowing this out of proportion. Its a pity your mother irritates you, but don't think for a second that everyone has idyllic relationships with their parents.

Reply 2

Anonymous #1

its up to you - im not seeing my mum this mothers day- but thats because i dont have any money etc for the bus out, loads of people dont see there mums on mothers day its self either way if youve got a pressie and you can see your mum you should really, but its up to you

Reply 3

Shockley

OP

15

Anonymous

its up to you - im not seeing my mum this mothers day- but thats because i dont have any money etc for the bus out, loads of people dont see there mums on mothers day its self either way if youve got a pressie and you can see your mum you should really, but its up to you

This is another thing. I've had to put most of my money away to spend on the rent, and the last twenty pound I have this week is meant to be going on her present and bus over to the house. I just don't know. Of course she's worth it but if she is going to give me a hard time then I might just put more hours in at work tomorrow instead.

Reply 4

College Guy 1987

2

Just do it - it's only Mothers Day once a year.

Reply 5

Shockley

OP

15

hmmmm...maybe I will. It makes me feel guilty.

Reply 6

yellow96

15

Maybe she only sounded like she didn't care whether or not you came over because she didn't want you to feel obliged to spend your hard earned cash on her, but telling you outright not to do it wouldn't work because we all know that when mothers say "don't get me anything", you damn well better get them something. Personally, I'd go and buy her a present. It's not as though she ever decided to cancel Christmas one year because you'd annoyed her.

Reply 7

Miss. B

10

wow! can't believe you chat to your mum on msn - my mum wouldn't have a clue! anyway you should def get her the pres - if you don't you will def feel guilty the next day and anyway my mum always get on my nerves with her sly comments about things I do but you forget after a while but I still can't get over you two using msn! it's the best! :smile: