Girlfried situation/ not wanting to go to uni away from home anymore

Hi,

Basically ive been quite depressed over the last few years ago so when i applied for uni's this year ( im doing A2's now) i applied for all uni's out of London because i really wanted to be somewhere new and start afresh. But now after being single for ages i met this really amazing girl and ever since weve been dating i feel so much happier and my lifes been so much better. Its really frustrating though because i met her after i sent off my application. Shes studying in London and is gonna stay in London and now im thinking i want to stay in London to be with her cause i dont think a long distance thing would work and i really wanna stay with her.

Sorry that my post isnt very well structured, my thoughts are kind of all over the place at the moment. But basically ive been accepted at most of my unis and was probably going to accept politics at somwhere like warwick or durham. Now i really wish i had applied to LSE or somewhere in London. I know LSE doesnt go into clearing so i guess theres no chance i could go there next year? And ive worked hard to get good grades so i want to go to a decent uni . I really dont know what to do......i guess ive still got a lot of time to think about it and situations change and i guess i could split up with my gf anyway before sept then all of this would be irrelevant.....

Anybody else in a similar situation or can offer any advice?

Thanks.

Reply 1

Bubblebee

15

No, if you broke up with her and you had decided to go to uni somewhere you weren't happy just to be with her, it would suck.

You are too young, there are plenty of other 'amazing' girls out there...and you could always try doing the long distance thing.

Reply 2

username47781

20

Hang on maybe you should talk with your girlfriend about what you both want first. Long distances do work if you work at it.

But if you decide to split up with your girlfriend, don't wait until September.

Reply 3

Melissa85

take a gap year and reapply next year. You'd prob get a london uni but then you'd prob have broken up with your gf by then too.

Reply 4

Llamaaa

15

i personally think that choosing a uni to be near to a boyfriend/girlfriend is not a good way to choose. Sorry to be pessimistic, but what if you broke up and you went back to hating london and wanting to leave? Seriously, there must be a reason why you applied to the universities outside of london. I wouldn't change all your plans just to be close to a girlfriend. It doesn't seem very sensible to me. However, you know how you feel, so if you think that's the right thing to do, then you do it.

Reply 5

Hygeia

14

i can kind of relate to that, i chose my unis based on the distance away from my family as i really wanted to escape - about a month after my UCAS form was submitted i got involved with my boyfriend and very much regretted which unis i chose. In the end i ended up with only one offer - from the uni hardest to get to from home - also the uni whose course is best for me. My bf and i decided to try long distance as we didn't want to lose each other and now he is planning on moving up to join me.
Although i hate the fact that we have to be long distance at the moment, it has made us closer and i am enjoying the course.
Go to the uni you think is best for your future. As others have said, there are no guarantees on your relationship surviving but if you are both willing to put in the effort, long distance relationships can and do work
Good luck with your decision

Girlfried situation/ not wanting to go to uni away from home anymore

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