Its hitting the fan

Yep that famous expression of the **** hitting the fan, well thats whats happening with me at the moment! So here's the story in brief...

Around 2 weeks ago me and my girlfriend split up and I went home from uni that week mainly due to no lectures and a friends birthday. Anyway while there I spent a bit of time with a previous gf who I had been emailing for a while and well one thing led to another etc etc! Anyway she took some pictures of us together (for those of you thinking you filthy *******, i mean ones of us just generally cuddling etc just with a lack of clothing i.e. only underwear bottoms on) which were later emailed to me. I didn't let it get any further and a few days later got back with my ex!

She came down yesterday and I had to work today so she was at home a little after an hour of being in work I had a text, 'you ******* you cheated on me how could you why did you want me back?'

Im currently sitting in work wondering a couple of things;

1)What is she still doing at my place? (she is still online on a website and i live in bristol and her in reading)

2)What should I do? go home and confront it? or just leave her to it then go home later once she has gone? Call/speak to her online?

Reply 1

Flank Runner

time to bite the proverbial bullet, drag your sorry ass home, explain yourself and take your punishment like a man

Reply 2

bunthulhu

14

Why didn't you tell her you'd been with another girl in the brief time you'd been apart? I'd be pissed off as well.

Reply 3

browzer-911

5

so seeing a girl after you have split up with someone is called cheating now? or am i missing something

Reply 4

Schroedinger's Pandora

13

To be fair, I'd have been upset too, if I were her. I dare say OP, that you would be less than ecstatic if you found recent pictures of your girlfriend scantily-clad on a bed with another man. Once in an obvious rage, would you expect her to, "leave you to it then come home later once you have gone?"

You wouldn't know what to think, and if she were to simply leave you to be mortified with no explanation, you'd naturally assume the worst.

Poor girl. The very least you could do is tell her the truth. And quickly.

Reply 5

Miss. B

10

This reminds me of an episode of friends were ross an rachel were on a 'break' an he slept with someone else and then she wanted to get back with him.....anyway I don't think you have done anything wrong you havent cheated on her as you split up if you wana stay with the girl just give her time but id be a bit scared about what shes gonna go when you get home :smile:

Reply 6

the_world_was_a_beachball

it's the price you pay, for having fun.

Reply 7

Anonymous #1

heehee, you're like Ross (+ Rachel and the 'on a break' thing) from Friends.

Reply 8

shavenwookiee

6

lmao, why would you let her take pictures? Classic!

Reply 9

~x~Claire~x~

although it's not cheating, it's still not right and I would definitely be annoyed if I knew there was some chance my b/f and I would get back together and he slept with someone else.

A date maybe would be ok, but actually having sex with them, it really shows how much he cared. :rolleyes:

Reply 10

SmilerNuts

15

if you want her back you maybe shouldn't have been with the other girl. if no then you've done nothing wrong. the real question should be why was she looking through your pc and at your pics

Reply 11

Louise88

First of all, you didn't cheat on her. You two split up and you saw another one of your ex girlfriends, nothing wrong with that. You then got back together with your most recent ex girlfriend but you should have been honest with her and told her what happened with your ex.

I don't blame her for being upset, if I was in her position then I would have liked to have known. Best thing to do is to go home, explain the situation and try and sort things out. Don't just ignore what is going on and try to avoid her, the sooner you two sort things out, the better.

Reply 12

Nix!

11

Tell her straight; nothing happened.

You can understand why she's upset because if the situation was reversed, I doubt that you'd be feeling joyous.

Technically you weren't together so strictly speaking you didn't cheat even if she could twist it around to seem so.

Either way, when you break up with someone, you have an obligation to their feelings and that includes not rushing straight into a new relationship.

This is one of those situations that you need to resolve quickly. Water under the bridge.

Reply 13

Yoda

12

What is the point of taking pictures? Anyway, since you wasn't going out with her at the time, you did nothing wrong. Be pissed at her for annoying you.

Reply 14

username47781

20

I would be upset if my girlfriend had left me then got back with me but in that time she slept with someone else.

Reply 15

bone-machine

9

do you really want to be with her?..if youv been flirting casually with your ex via email while you've been together then enjoyed yourself with your e so soon after a break up then maybe your with the wrong person?

Reply 16

L i b

19

Pfft. You've done nothing wrong and she's obviously a bit of a bunny-boiler going through your emails...

Its hitting the fan

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