What would you think if....

Your 30 something, very attractive doctor at uni had you in her office, was wearing a short skirt with black fishnets underneath, whilst looking at soething at the back of the room, extended out her legs crossed them, scratched her tights near her knee tantalisingly, then said 'Before you go *name*, I'm going to ask you to do something for me?' This then followed by her asking me to fill in a survey.

This is obvious teasing to me, and how could someone be so unprofessional and risky?

Reply 1

The_Bear

13

I hope you shagged her for it.

Reply 2

HipsAndHearts

10

You can scratch your knee sexily?

Reply 3

Anonymous #1

OP

HipsAndHearts

You can scratch your knee sexily?

Just above her knee, and yeah, to me it was teasingly

Reply 4

The_Bear

13

No such luck

I would have thought that the perfect reply would have been, I'll fill something else in if you'd like?

Reply 5

Anonymous #1

OP

can you edit that please, I want to be anon

Reply 6

The_Bear

13

already did :wink:

Reply 7

Anonymous #1

OP

thanks bear

Reply 8

Anonymous #1

OP

I should add that this followed on from another occasion where I was embarrassed when she came at me in a very full on, forthright way, and said 'What can I do for you?' when she had me in her office, which put all sorts in my head, and she reacted angrily to this, but then seemed to change her mind and be apologetic for it, culminating in the abve incident. I should add that I think she knew I was seriously attracted to her

Reply 9

_jackofdiamonds

10

whatever!! this is such bs, if she does exist she'd want you to stop posting your fantasies about her to the internet!

Reply 10

Anonymous #1

OP

_jackofdiamonds

whatever!! this is such bs, if she does exist she'd want you to stop posting your fantasies about her to the internet!

I assure you it's 100% true. Why would I make it up? I can't believe that someone would be so arrogant to think they had such power over you that they could act so unprofessional, but she was a charismatic and arrogant person.

Reply 11

Anonymous #2

Anonymous

I assure you it's 100% true. Why would I make it up? I can't believe that someone would be so arrogant to think they had such power over you that they could act so unprofessional, but she was a charismatic and arrogant person.

Because the majority of men get off on power trip women

Reply 12

Anonymous #1

OP

Anonymous

Because the majority of men get off on power trip women

What's the because in answer to?

Reply 13

Anonymous #3

Anonymous

she had me in her office

i bet she did!

:rolleyes:

Reply 14

Helenia

20

OK, well on both of these occasions she has only actually said things that are entirely normal. Asking a patient "What can I do for you today?" is a very common opener. It seems like a lot of it could be down to interpretation. She hasn't actually done anything inappropriate as far as I can see, apart from maybe to make you think she's being too flirty when really she's doing her job.

Reply 15

ASprinkleOfPixieDust

I have to agree with Helenia, they are perfectly normal things to say in a consultation and perhaps you just percieved them differently due to your attraction to her, however the outfit does sound a little much for work

Reply 16

Anonymous #1

OP

Helenia

OK, well on both of these occasions she has only actually said things that are entirely normal. Asking a patient "What can I do for you today?" is a very common opener. It seems like a lot of it could be down to interpretation. She hasn't actually done anything inappropriate as far as I can see, apart from maybe to make you think she's being too flirty when really she's doing her job.

With the first incident, I agree entirely, that was my fault. But with the second, she was manipulating the fact I found her attractive and teasing me, there's no ambiguity about it. I mean short skirts and fishnet tights and verbal innuendo in reference to the first incident? She must be mad....

Reply 17

Louise88

This woman might not have a clue that she is teasing you. It's possible that this woman just see's it as her being friendly, she might be completely oblivious to the fact that she is "teasing" you. It's really easy to misjudge a situation and it's possible that this is the case. You might just have picked up on her friendly nature as flirting. All this woman has done is spoken to you, she hasn't actually done anything....

Edit: You think she went out of her way to "tease" you? You think that this woman actually got up this morning and thought "Oh, i'm seeing so and so today, it's time to get the short skirt and fishnets out!"? I doubt it.

Reply 18

ASprinkleOfPixieDust

Anonymous

With the first incident, I agree entirely, that was my fault. But with the second, she was manipulating the fact I found her attractive and teasing me, there's no ambiguity about it. I mean short skirts and fishnet tights and verbal innuendo in reference to the first incident? She must be mad....

But it's highly unlikely she was wearing the outfit specifically for your benefit-any one of her patients that day could've claimed that unless she changed right before and after seeing you.

Reply 19

Anonymous #1

OP

Louise88

Edit: You think she went out of her way to "tease" you? You think that this woman actually got up this morning and thought "Oh, i'm seeing so and so today, it's time to get the short skirt and fishnets out!"? I doubt it.

No I don't think that, but I think it's someone who's aware of their power and sexuality and seems to think they can get away with anything. I also have to add that the second incident has to be seen in reference to the fact that she knew of the first incident, so that makes it worse, as she knew about the attraction and the first verbal 'faux pas', or misinterpretation on my part, and yet she did it again, which leads me to think it was conscious teasing and game playing

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