Making The Change

I was seeing a freind for a few weeks, just some no strings fun as we were both single. Now however we've started going out which we're obviously very hapy about. We've been out with mates and stuff together and its been fun, the only problem is sometimes when we're alone. She seems to be more interested in the phsyical stuff and carrying on the fun we had before. it means we don't talk as much as i'd like and we maybe aren't as close as i'd hoped though its only been slightly over a week now. Is there anything i can do about this or is it natural?

and has anyone else gone from no strings to actually going out and made it work?

Reply 1

Louise88

You can make it work, you just need to talk to her about it. Sit your girlfriend down and tell her how you are feeling, if you don't communicate the relationship with fail, no doubt about it. Talk to her though, explain to her that you enjoyed what you had before but would like to make a proper go of this relationship.

Communication is the key, if you don't speak to her then things will carry on this way.

Reply 2

Anonymous #1

ok communication, i can do that...i hope! but then isn't it one of those cases of finding the right moment? and we never seem to get a chance to do that

Reply 3

Louise88

Then you have to make time to speak to her. The only way that you are ever going to get what you want out of this relationship is to speak to her about it. Finding the right moment is difficult, I know but in the past whenever I have wanted to speak to my boyfriend about something i'll make time for us to talk. I'll tell him that there is something that I need to speak to him about and we will both go out of our way to make an appropriate time to talk about it.

Reply 4

Tag

she's probably just going through a phase. the noelty will wear off soon and she'll want to spend more time doing fun things. but talking about it is a good idea.