Shag buddies?? right or wrong??

A couple of my mates have really good mates that they get together with ocassionally to have sex..i duno if any of you have 'shag buddies'? Is it ok to have such a good relationship with your guy mates that you can casually meet up for sex and no strings attatched..then carry on as normal??

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Reply 1

username47781

I think there's pro's and con's to it. If you are both happy with just being sex buddies then there's no problem. The issue comes in when one of them starts developing deeper feelings and want more when the other still simply wants sex.

It can be fun but also someone could get very hurt.

Reply 2

Anonymous #2

To be honest it's not a good idea. Someone will end up getting attached, especially if one of the parties decides they like the person more as a friend and would like to have a relatinship.

Reply 3

ForumFreak

I suppose if both people involved are comfortable with the arrangement its ok but there is always the risk that one of them might develop feelings for the other and get hurt.

Reply 4

Vic_1

I agree with the above two posts. As long as you both know where you stand and no-one likes the other one too much its fine.

Each to their own.

its wrong and your all going to hell!!!! :rolleyes:

heh if it works for them then why stop a good thing?

Reply 7

Francophobia

It's not really a good idea, methinks -- as Anonymous said, things can get difficult when one 'buddy' decided they want a relationship with someone else.

so right

Francophobia

It's not really a good idea, methinks -- as Anonymous said, things can get difficult when one 'buddy' decided they want a relationship with someone else.

Well if both people are comfortable with it then it's not an issue, but your right if someone does start developing feelings in that time and yeah feelings can change. Personally I wouldn't do it but everyone's views are different.

Reply 10

rosetinted

It's not wrong, but it is a pretty bad idea. Someone pretty much always starts to develop feelings (usually the girl) and then it becomes heartbreaking if they aren't reciprocated.

Reply 11

high priestess fnord

Francophobia

It's not really a good idea, methinks -- as Anonymous said, things can get difficult when one 'buddy' decided they want a relationship with someone else.

yes and if you cross the road you may be hit by a buss but that doesnt mean we stay inside 24/7

Reply 12

Crawfy Baby!

Yeah i agree with most comments here...
the thing is..what age??

Reply 13

Anonymous #3

i guess i can admit me and my ex are shag buddies because we cant have a relationship anymore

Reply 14

username47781

Anonymous

i guess i can admit me and my ex are shag buddies because we cant have a relationship anymore

Why not?

Reply 15

kimble

I havn't had a proper relationship in over 2 years, but just meaningless sex, and now I can't sommit to someone becuase I feel that sex and relationship don't go together. I have broken a few hearts and now find it hard to let anyone close to me incase they just use me like I use everyoe else. ME and my ex have been "friends with benefits" for a few years now and we now hate each other, we stand each other up, slag each other off and are extreamly two faced.
TO conclude, shag buddies can be great, just fun when you needs it. However, sometimes people can get hurt or bitter and it can quite screw up your mentality.

Reply 16

Anonymous #3

long story but its mainly down to the fact he works really hard to get into a top uni and cant afford any distractions plus his parents dont want him to be in a relationship either

Reply 17

Yellowmarshmellow

ForumFreak

I suppose if both people involved are comfortable with the arrangement its ok but there is always the risk that one of them might develop feelings for the other and get hurt.

Agreed - one of my close friends suggested the idea of us doing that ages ago but i could see that i would probably end up having feelings for him so decided against the idea... hmm i guess they could work in some cases though.