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Need to avoid my personal probs at the mo

I'm doing my A Levels, need to get 4 As for Cambridge in the summer. Thing is I've got so many personal issues going on at the moment, the most major being that I think I'm gay (i'm a girl) and I can't tell anyone or talk to anyone about it. so these thoughts are taking up most of my thoughts and they're really kinda worrying me - and its taking focus off of my work, which is starting to slip a bit as a result. has anyone got any advice on how i can deal with all this?

Reply 1

Anyone???:frown:

Reply 2

try writing all your worrys down and putting them in a box somewhere. Might help mentally. Try calling the Gay lesbein switchboard or the samaritons and you can talk to someone who doesnt know you

Reply 3

I've got loads of personal issues going on too and it gets hard sometimes. As above, I'd suggest writing things down. I think that they'll get better gradually, rather than immediately, so try and focus on your work as much as you can. That's what I try and do.

Reply 4

Take all the worry and anxiety you have and re-focus the energy into your school work. There will be plenty of time for dealing with your own personal problems after you get yoru grades. Try to put it all in the back of your mind - this is potentially the most crucial time of your life - as you said, you can do without the personal problems. They're not going anywhere any time soon so you might as well just try and get on with it.

Reply 5

Writing things down is an excellent suggestion. I keep a diary and I find that to offload to that, put it within the pages, and then leave it there until I pick up my diary the next day does sometimes work.

Although those of us inclined to overthought will and do find it hard, and my sympathies are with you - particularly if you've got to work to get your Cambridge offer (I know someone who will make their Oxford offer with plenty of work but no attendance - life isn't fair, is it?!) but you know full well that once you've got your place you've a good few months to focus on your personal stuff before you get to uni. I'm not saying 'forget about' anything that's going on - but there's a time and a place for studying and personal issues. The former is now, the latter is in 3 months. You can and will acheive what you want, if you put your mind to it :smile:.

Well done on getting your offer & best of luck. :hugs:

Reply 6

I suggest you stop moaning and get on with it. People have to deal with FAR bigger worries than you, but still manage to do OK.

Stop feeling sorry for yourslef. Harsh, but true.

Reply 7

SFC_FOREVER!
I suggest you stop moaning and get on with it. People have to deal with FAR bigger worries than you, but still manage to do OK.

Stop feeling sorry for yourslef. Harsh, but true.



Come midnight, my rep will be put to good use...

Reply 8

Anonymous
Come midnight, my rep will be put to good use...


*neg rep, just to clear that up... :rolleyes:

Reply 9

:hugs: It is a stressful time, knowing grades you have to get. As others have said, writing it down is good. Also, rather than thinking "I have XYZ to do, but I am worried about this, this, and this", try and think "I'll do X today". I'm the world's biggest worrier, I know it's hard not to worry, but it is a negative waste of energy. If you feel that your problems are hindering you at school, maybe you could talk to your tutor or someone - I know it's hard, but letting the school know will mean they'll be aware about any problems which may arise.

Make sure you treat yourself lots, and try and have fun - it will help take your mind of the problems :smile:

Sorry, this is a load of waffle, but there are plenty of areas of support out there, try and talk to someone (anyone!) about your problems, and try and not bottle your feelings. All the best - you can meet that Oxford offer.

:hugs: :smile:

Reply 10

Anonymous
I'm doing my A Levels, need to get 4 As for Cambridge in the summer. Thing is I've got so many personal issues going on at the moment, the most major being that I think I'm gay (i'm a girl) and I can't tell anyone or talk to anyone about it. so these thoughts are taking up most of my thoughts and they're really kinda worrying me - and its taking focus off of my work, which is starting to slip a bit as a result. has anyone got any advice on how i can deal with all this?


why does it matter if you're gay? it doesn't. Think of it like that. and if you really do care, then when you get to uni you can worry about it: gay bars, lgbt societies, etc etc. no point stressing atm, you need to concentrate on your work.

Reply 11

Anonymous
*neg rep, just to clear that up... :rolleyes:


I would have never have guessed... Why is it the people on here can't face up to truth. They would rather pussy-foot around being nice to everyone.

It is embarrassing.

Reply 12

SFC_FOREVER!
I would have never have guessed... Why is it the people on here can't face up to truth. They would rather pussy-foot around being nice to everyone.

It is embarrassing.


Though, ironically, he is anonymous :p: