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My birthday, b/f choses to babysit instead!
Basically, my boyfriend and I have been going out for 4 years, I'm 18 and he's 21 and we live together.
At the end of March, it will be my b'day and for the last 4 years my b/f and I have spent my b'day together and gone out for a meal etc but back in Jan his mum asked him to babysit his fostered baby brother who is 2, with down syndrome for a week while his family goes to Spain, the only problem with this is that, my b/f will be 3 hours away from me on my b'day and the week surrounding.
And he said yes to babysitting without checking the dates or anything to make sure they didn't clash.
And his mum knows when my b'day is so she shouldn't have even asked Luke (my b/f) imo.
Also, his brother is going away with his g/f that week and he knew about the babysitting and then booked the holiday so I'm annoyed that his brother can have a life but Luke can't!
I am angry at his mum and I'm angry at my boyfriend for not thinking about whether he would have to babysit on my b'day.
Am I being un-reasonable and needy? Would you be annoyed if your b/f or g/f did this?
I have already made other plans to go out but the fact is I would rather be spending the night with my b/f than anyone else.
Thanks to any replies!
At the end of March, it will be my b'day and for the last 4 years my b/f and I have spent my b'day together and gone out for a meal etc but back in Jan his mum asked him to babysit his fostered baby brother who is 2, with down syndrome for a week while his family goes to Spain, the only problem with this is that, my b/f will be 3 hours away from me on my b'day and the week surrounding.
And he said yes to babysitting without checking the dates or anything to make sure they didn't clash.
And his mum knows when my b'day is so she shouldn't have even asked Luke (my b/f) imo.
Also, his brother is going away with his g/f that week and he knew about the babysitting and then booked the holiday so I'm annoyed that his brother can have a life but Luke can't!
I am angry at his mum and I'm angry at my boyfriend for not thinking about whether he would have to babysit on my b'day.
Am I being un-reasonable and needy? Would you be annoyed if your b/f or g/f did this?
I have already made other plans to go out but the fact is I would rather be spending the night with my b/f than anyone else.
Thanks to any replies!
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I won't be spending my 18th with my boyfriend for stupider reasons than that. We've known each other for 5 years and have spent every other bday together so yes it was annoying but I have gotten over it and plan to have a good time with my friends who can make it. Although it might seem really unfair I don't think you should take it as indication that your bf's mother is out to get you or that the world is going to end just because you wont be together for that one night. Surely you could just go and stay with him and have a quiet night in babysitting with him? If he has to babysit he has to babysit.. remember you didnt give birth to him so although he loves you I'm pretty sure he still owes his mother! 
Anonymous
Basically, my boyfriend and I have been going out for 4 years, I'm 18 and he's 21 and we live together.
At the end of March, it will be my b'day and for the last 4 years my b/f and I have spent my b'day together and gone out for a meal etc but back in Jan his mum asked him to babysit his fostered baby brother who is 2, with down syndrome for a week while his family goes to Spain, the only problem with this is that, my b/f will be 3 hours away from me on my b'day and the week surrounding.
And he said yes to babysitting without checking the dates or anything to make sure they didn't clash.
And his mum knows when my b'day is so she shouldn't have even asked Luke (my b/f) imo.
Also, his brother is going away with his g/f that week and he knew about the babysitting and then booked the holiday so I'm annoyed that his brother can have a life but Luke can't!
I am angry at his mum and I'm angry at my boyfriend for not thinking about whether he would have to babysit on my b'day.
Am I being un-reasonable and needy? Would you be annoyed if your b/f or g/f did this?
I have already made other plans to go out but the fact is I would rather be spending the night with my b/f than anyone else.
Thanks to any replies!
At the end of March, it will be my b'day and for the last 4 years my b/f and I have spent my b'day together and gone out for a meal etc but back in Jan his mum asked him to babysit his fostered baby brother who is 2, with down syndrome for a week while his family goes to Spain, the only problem with this is that, my b/f will be 3 hours away from me on my b'day and the week surrounding.
And he said yes to babysitting without checking the dates or anything to make sure they didn't clash.
And his mum knows when my b'day is so she shouldn't have even asked Luke (my b/f) imo.
Also, his brother is going away with his g/f that week and he knew about the babysitting and then booked the holiday so I'm annoyed that his brother can have a life but Luke can't!
I am angry at his mum and I'm angry at my boyfriend for not thinking about whether he would have to babysit on my b'day.
Am I being un-reasonable and needy? Would you be annoyed if your b/f or g/f did this?
I have already made other plans to go out but the fact is I would rather be spending the night with my b/f than anyone else.
Thanks to any replies!
grow up and celebrate your birthday another day with your bf
Trigger
lol you seem to be one of the most selfish people on the planet. His brother has downs ffs grow up and celebrate your birthday another day with your bf
grow up and celebrate your birthday another day with your bfExactly what's wrong with another day, me and my girlfriend celebrated my birthday on another day because she was busy working, it's no big deal.
Hmm..
Honestly? I think you've overreacting - 3 hours is not a long time especially as you live together.
I mean, I live 2 hours away from my boyfriend, it's my b'day tomorrow, and I'm not going to get to see him [we decided to buy reading tickets instead ]
I mean, it's not the end of the world.. I know it's your 18th.. why not go out with friends, and see your boyfriend when you get in??
Or have a birthday weekend with your boyfriend [trust me, it works fabulously]?
I'm sure his mother didn't mean to purposely ask him to babysit the brother - I think she just didn't realise at the time.
I just.. really don't think you're taking his brother into consideration.
Just don't let it get you down, you'll probably look back on this in a few months and realise that it really isn't a big deal
Honestly? I think you've overreacting - 3 hours is not a long time especially as you live together.
I mean, I live 2 hours away from my boyfriend, it's my b'day tomorrow, and I'm not going to get to see him [we decided to buy reading tickets instead
]I mean, it's not the end of the world.. I know it's your 18th.. why not go out with friends, and see your boyfriend when you get in??
Or have a birthday weekend with your boyfriend [trust me, it works fabulously]?
I'm sure his mother didn't mean to purposely ask him to babysit the brother - I think she just didn't realise at the time.
I just.. really don't think you're taking his brother into consideration.
Just don't let it get you down, you'll probably look back on this in a few months and realise that it really isn't a big deal
I think it is kind of crap you can't celebrate it together but look at it from his point of view: his brother probably needs him - if the entire family is going on holiday without him or pissing off with their girlfriends, it's quite normal he wants to look after him and just shows he is caring.
I think you should be grateful that your boyf is so caring. That he would sacrifice a week to look after his baby brother is great. You can celebrate your birthday another day - it's hardly the end of the world
so the question is, would i be annoyed if my boyfriend looked after his foster brother who has a handicap on my bday after he was asked months in advanced to do in unavoidable circumstances? urm no.
I have a foster sister and had to babysit her on my bfriends 21st, when he came over to england for it [he's playing football in spain] and he was ok with it because somethings are more important than bdays.
I know it's not nice to be away from him on your bday but you should understand that there is more to life than a bday and i dont mean to get at you in this, i just think you should sort out your priorities, you're obviously close to him or you wouldn't have stayed together all this time so understand that his family may have to come first at times.
I have a foster sister and had to babysit her on my bfriends 21st, when he came over to england for it [he's playing football in spain] and he was ok with it because somethings are more important than bdays.
I know it's not nice to be away from him on your bday but you should understand that there is more to life than a bday and i dont mean to get at you in this, i just think you should sort out your priorities, you're obviously close to him or you wouldn't have stayed together all this time so understand that his family may have to come first at times.
But the fact is, his mother is out to get me, maybe I should have made that clear, all she has tried to do, is break my b/f and I up from the start.
And I would babysit with him but it costs £60 to get to him on the train, and when exactly am I gonna spend another day with him? He is gonna be away for the whole week surrounding my b'day, he's away from the 23rd March to 4th April and my b'day is on the 31st.
I just don't see why I should spend my b'day with other people when we already had plans and then he ditched me to babysit.
And his mum has plenty of other people to use. So why him? When she knows I'd wanna spend the 31st or that weekend with him?
And I would babysit with him but it costs £60 to get to him on the train, and when exactly am I gonna spend another day with him? He is gonna be away for the whole week surrounding my b'day, he's away from the 23rd March to 4th April and my b'day is on the 31st.
I just don't see why I should spend my b'day with other people when we already had plans and then he ditched me to babysit.
And his mum has plenty of other people to use. So why him? When she knows I'd wanna spend the 31st or that weekend with him?
maybe she chose him because he is the childs foster brother. celebrate it a week later, it really isn't the end of the world.
ok so you say his mum is out to get you, i highly doubt they organised the holiday to fit round your bday. Maybe she is out to get you but i doubt this is anything more than a coinscidence
ok so you say his mum is out to get you, i highly doubt they organised the holiday to fit round your bday. Maybe she is out to get you but i doubt this is anything more than a coinscidence
Does your boyfriend know you're this selfish?
Elanor_Gamgee
I think you should be grateful that your boyf is so caring. That he would sacrifice a week to look after his baby brother is great. You can celebrate your birthday another day - it's hardly the end of the world
But he doesn't want to look after the baby, he hates babies and animals! And he's gotta look after their dog as well.
And the only reason he isn't telling his mum where to go is coz he can't stand up to his mum and never has been able to.
Oh clare you little liar. Posting fake things in H+R. you really are awful.http://www.thestudentroom.co.uk/showthread.php?t=364171
I can't be that bad of a person as my b/f wouldn't be with me.
Anonymous
But he doesn't want to look after the baby, he hates babies and animals! And he's gotta look after their dog as well.
And the only reason he isn't telling his mum where to go is coz he can't stand up to his mum and never has been able to.
And the only reason he isn't telling his mum where to go is coz he can't stand up to his mum and never has been able to.
Oh come on you can't make him do that, stop being so bloody selfish or you will lose him for good.
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