Leaving boyfriend Behind to go uni

ive been with my boyfriend for about 6 months now and im not going to uni for a good while but when i do he'll be stuck at home still studying at college. i know its too early to worry we might not even be together by then but im like that and wanted to know if anyone else is or has been in the same situation. if we were both going to uni then ide be ok with it but while im out making new friends hell be stuck doing the same thing everyday

Reply 1

username47781

Many of us have been in situations like this including myself and survived, if you work at it, it's very possible to survive. Have a talk before you do go away to University, but it is worth giving it a try. Plus the absence does make the heart grow fonder, so really each time you see each other you look forward to it more.

Reply 2

Hygeia

i'm at uni while my boyfriend is still at home working (in a job he hates), communication is definitely important - talk to him about how you're feeling, expectations etc

thanks yeh gd points

Anonymous

thanks yeh gd points

afraid i cant say a good thing about it, my boyfriend of 2 years went 2 uni and gave up on me after 4 weeks after meeting new people. that was in october, and im still in love with him

Reply 5

username47781

Anonymous

afraid i cant say a good thing about it, my boyfriend of 2 years went 2 uni and gave up on me after 4 weeks after meeting new people. that was in october, and im still in love with him

Unfortunatly some guys are like that, they think the grass is greener on the otherside, but at the end of the day it is his own loss

Reply 6

myrtille

I'm at university now, and although my boyfriend has gone to university too, he's stayed at a local university. He's in halls in the week, and home at the weekend. And he doesn't get on with anyone in his halls.

So it's almost like he's not gone away and having the whole uni experience, as though he does have a couple of friends from his course, he still mainly is just friends with all his old friends from college.

I'm about 2 hours away from him, which isn't bad. It's kind of hard because I really enjoy being at university, and I spend a lot of time socialising with my housemates, rather than being online to talk to him.

I try to text him or phone him if I've not talked to him online that day, just to let him know how I am and what I'm up to.

When he's not at college, get him to come and visit you at uni, rather than just you going home every time. Then he can meet your new friends, hopefully get on with them, and be reassured there's nothing going on behind his back. :p: