Flatmate problems

Yes, another of those threads. I'm so angry. The girl who lives in the room next to mine has always been a bit odd, since we started she was very temperemental and the rest of us had to step on eggshells around her to avoid an incident - initially she blamed this on being bullied at school, and being insecure/distrustful, so as you can imagine, we were all very sympathetic...despite all this we actually were quite good friends. This term however, has been a nightmare. She randomly stops talking to the rest of us, with no warning and no explanations as to what we have done to provoke it (it's ALWAYS our fault), she leaves bitchy notes around the flat, recently she moved all her food out of our kitchen and into the flat next door where her boyfriend lives, much to the annoyance of the occupants who have little space as it is, and who made her put it back here. Now she's started accusing us of stealing her food, which as far as I'm aware nobody has done. It's horrible. I don't know what any of us have done to provoke the behaviour, much of which seems aimed at me because of all things, she resents me for "interfering" and trying to calm things down when she's fought with other flatmates. The worst I have done is to reply a little flippantly on occasions when she's being paranoid out of pure frustration! In addition to all of this, none of the girls on our floor are allowed to talk to her boyfriend (half of them live with him!) because she's so paranoid that they're "after" him. I just feel so angry with the situation here, and I don't know what to do. It's bad enough living with the atmosphere she creates, but we just leave her to it because there doesn't seem much chance of resolving it, but now she's accusing people of being thieves it's really getting too much and I don't know what to do or how to react?! I can't wait to move out next year.

Sorry about the rant... :mad:

Reply 1

username47781

Well I feel sorry for her boyfriend for a start, if he's got any sense he'll ditch her. Is there anyone you could possibly talk to about her, because this is quite an issue.

Reply 2

MissHero

Huh, he's almost as bad in his own way. He stands there and refuses to get involved, complains about it behind her back but never does anything decisive. He's pretty spineless really. I don't really know who to talk to. Despite the fact she's pretty awful to our whole flat, it's me and the other female flatmates who get the worst of it, and when I've tried to talk to the guys about it, they say they don't want to "bitch" about it... well neither do I, I don't think a rational discussion contitutes "bitching" about somebody! As for talking to the porters or anyone like that, it just seems so petty. :s

Reply 3

username47781

OH well they are well suited to each other, she is obviously a very insecure girl, my only other option I can think of is just to completely ignore her.