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Don't feel I give a toss

I've had a lot of chances for relationships but rejected them. I make no effort socially either. I feel as though I should give more of a toss but I don't, and continue to live a solitaryish life.

is this unhealthy?

Reply 1

Soul Rebel

12

yes get out more.

Reply 2

Sopheh

13

I don't think it's unhealthy if you're happy. Just because society says you should act in a certain way, doesn't mean that's the healthy thing to do.

Reply 3

*dicie*

Well, it's up to you. You shouldn't feel pressured to be suddenly interested/go into a relationship just for the sake of it- I'd say your attitude's pretty common

The only thing is, don't go to the extremes either, so when you DO want these things you won't need to work so hard to attract people you like if they think you're not interested.Show that you're willing to make the effort at times.

Reply 4

Misogynist

18

Sopheh

I don't think it's unhealthy if you're happy. Just because society says you should act in a certain way, doesn't mean that's the healthy thing to do.

Without social interaction you would go crazy. Fact. Don't be so blatantly stupid..

Reply 5

Anonymous #1

OP

Why

Without social interaction you would go crazy. Fact. Don't be so blatantly stupid..

Oh, maybe I've been going mad then :confused:

Reply 6

Anonymous #1

OP

I have enough of the presence of other people, at work, but I don't feel I need it that much, unles it was someone speical to me

Reply 7

Carpediemxx

17

If your happy then its not so bad..but maybe ur not unhappy because u havent really experienced it. I reckon u should make an effort to see why everyone else enjoys socialising and relationships- u may find that you are more happy to behave like that.

If you make an effort and stuff but find u hate it and ur unhappy, then no point stickin to it. Just a little bit weird

Reply 8

Sopheh

13

Why

Without social interaction you would go crazy. Fact. Don't be so blatantly stupid..

Crazy by what definition? Non-conformist? Don't be so blatantly closed minded. :rolleyes:

I didn't mean no social interaction at all, just that if he's happy to be alone most of the time then there's nothing saying he has to go out every night and have loads of friends. Everyone feels like they can't be bothered to go out with friends every once in a while but like someone said before - it's when it does to the extreme that it is unhealthy.

Reply 9

Misogynist

18

Sopheh

Crazy by what definition? Non-conformist? Don't be so blatantly closed minded. :rolleyes:

I didn't mean no social interaction at all, just that if he's happy to be alone most of the time then there's nothing saying he has to go out every night and have loads of friends. Everyone feels like they can't be bothered to go out with friends every once in a while but like someone said before - it's when it does to the extreme that it is unhealthy.

I think you should force yourself to go out often. Not going out makes you think, thinking makes you depressed, depression more or less kills you inside.

Reply 10

Lucia.

16

I find that when you don't give a toss; no one else does. Well at least in my experience anyway. So yes maybe get out a bit more. You don't have to be a social butterfly though. :smile:

Reply 11

Sopheh

13

Why

I think you should force yourself to go out often. Not going out makes you think, thinking makes you depressed, depression more or less kills you inside.

I know what you mean, and I do agree you should force yourself to go out. I was just saying that society does seem to judge people who like to be on their own sometimes quite harshly, as if wanting to be on your own occasionally makes you insane when it's healthy to have some alone time.

Reply 12

shinytoy

18

i disagree. maybe he is having a lot of social interaction form his home life?

i dont feel the need to mix much at uni. i'd rather have a hot bath and a good book than go clubbing. but i have a great home life with my family.

maybe as well, it is to do with your natural introversion/extroversion, which , according to the theory of Eysenck, is partly genetic and partly biological to do with the cortical arousal. so some people need alot of socialising and others need only a little and you cant change it.

Reply 13

Anthonyjm71

9

Lucia.

I find that when you don't give a toss; no one else does. Well at least in my experience anyway. So yes maybe get out a bit more. You don't have to be a social butterfly though. :smile:

yes true but should do as little or as much as you feel fit to do most of feel happy with yourself..

Reply 14

sufiankane

2

not really. If you want to sit at home all day by all means do if you want to, it has its adantages, if you want to go out then go do it. if you force yourself to go out and you don;t enjoy it then what is the point?

Reply 15

booraad

14

Anonymous

I've had a lot of chances for relationships but rejected them. I make no effort socially either. I feel as though I should give more of a toss but I don't, and continue to live a solitaryish life.

is this unhealthy?

Maybe you just can't find what you're looking for.

Reply 16

threeisthemagicnumber

Some people are just solitary. I don't see this as unhealthy. I have one good friend who I speak to regularly, two less close friends who I speak to every couple of months, and a boyfriend. The boyfriend was only a recent addition when I decided I'd like to give this whole relationship thing a try, though now I have him I do go out a fair bit. But I was completely content when I had no social life to speak of. I don't know if this is because I am 'crazy' (I really am) or because I have always found it difficult to initiate friendships and the like, and I just don't get social.....things.

Anyway, my point is- if you're happy, why change? If not, then do something about it.

Don't feel I give a toss

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