Why do people have breaks?

Breaks in relationships, what are they really for? If there is something wrong with the relationship why not break up completely and if there isn't why go on a break at all? Can someone please enlighten me as to why people go on breaks?

Reply 1

m90

11

Usually it's something that can easily be worked out. It's often to do with one individual in the relationship as opposed to the relationship itself. For example, if one of them is having a tough or stressful time and needs some room to clear their heads. Breaks mean that the couple can refresh themselves in the relationship, and give it another go a short time later, without the pressure of a break up at the back of their heads.

Reply 2

hannah_dru

2

T O R N E

Because often they still love eachother, but need time away from one-another to clear their heads, thus making the relationship work and not leading to doom and gloom?

Bingo. Sounds like my situation.

Reply 3

Louise88

I was with my ex boyfriend for around two and a half years and we had a few breaks. We had our fair share of problems because it was long distance, I found it hard coping with a boyfriend in another country and he found it difficult to actually make an effort. On top of the stresses of a long distance relationship, I was going through a lot with leaving school, finding college's, exams, exam results, family problems, self harm problems... it just became too much at some point and I needed a break to sort myself out. Sorting myself out was so much more important than some long distance relationship, I took some time to myself and eventually went back to him. I just needed the space to sort things out on my own, and I went back into the relationship a happier person because I dealt with my problems.

Everyone has problems and everyone needs their own space. Relationships can be stressful, even the best relationships can add a little bit of stress if you are having a tough time. It's nice to get a bit of space to clear your head, deal with your own problems and have time on your own. Breaks aren't always a bad thing, sometimes that is exactly what a relationship needs.

Reply 4

Angel_Cake

2

To be honest, from what I can tell breaks are often when one person wants to end the relationship and the other person doesn't. So the person who wants to end it agrees to go on a break instead because it doesn't seem so final and doesn't upset the other person so much.

Reply 5

username47781

20

To be honest breaks never work really.

Reply 6

RishiC

I think we're on a break...cause she hurt me, andi needed her...but she wasnt there for me. So I learnt to let go. Now she's texting me asking how I'm doing and that she misses me.

Yeah....I think we're on a break right now.

Reply 7

IndianDiva

T O R N E

Because often they still love eachother, but need time away from one-another to clear their heads, thus making the relationship work and not leading to doom and gloom?

:dito: ;yes;

Reply 8

happydinosaur

15

For me it was way of sugar coating the end of the relationship. Couldn't face up to the fact that I was having to end it because I just couldn't take everything anymore so a break was a way of being able to get some space and work out what on earth was actually the best thing to do. The break never ended though...

Reply 9

Shaun.G

Please explain in simple terms...

If two people have an argument, and then have time apart, how does that solve the issue? It cannot as the two people who have the issue are apart and not communicating... which is most likely why they had the argument in the first place.

Reply 10

L0RA

9

I'm never had a break then successfully got back with somebody...

Reply 11

Misogynist

18

It's because they don't know thing one about relationships. All this break stuff is done by teenagers. I don't see adult couples ever wanting or needing one. If you find yourself in a position where you want a break, you're with the wrong person.

Reply 12

ßlαcksωαn

17

hippieglitter

Breaks in relationships, what are they really for? If there is something wrong with the relationship why not break up completely and if there isn't why go on a break at all? Can someone please enlighten me as to why people go on breaks?

If the person is worth it, then it's a good idea to have a break to sort somethings out. Plus being without that person for a period of time usually makes you realise how much you can't stand being without him or how you see your life would be better with no relationship.

Reply 13

SsEe

13

They're things invented for soaps on TV to add drama that found their way into society via idiots who think they actually work.

:rolleyes:

Reply 14

miss_world

3

When my ex and I went on a break it was really because he wanted to break up but didn't have the balls to go through with it. It lasted a week before I sussed out what was happening and we called it quits. I, personally am never going through that again. If I'm in a relationship then it's because I want to be with that person, if I don't I end it. Simple as. I'm not going to put someone through the horrible uncertainty that I went through on my break.

Reply 15

Anonymous #1

I went on a break as I wanted to cheat on my boyfriend, without cheating on him. Had a great weekend of passion, then got back with my boyfriend on Monday and have been with him for the last 3 years!

Reply 16

McBren

My relationship encountered a "break" and it just seemed like the beginning of the end. Call it quits while your ahead. Then again I'm probably just saying this because said relationship ended this morning :frown:

Reply 17

ßlαcksωαn

17

Anonymous

I went on a break as I wanted to cheat on my boyfriend, without cheating on him. Had a great weekend of passion, then got back with my boyfriend on Monday and have been with him for the last 3 years!

Hmm, this kind of break seems wrong to me sorry

Reply 18

Vampyrcorn

14

They're just for Kit Kat addicts really.

Reply 19

h82think

14

McBren

My relationship encountered a "break" and it just seemed like the beginning of the end. Call it quits while your ahead. Then again I'm probably just saying this because said relationship ended this morning :frown:

Have some chocolate *passes cadburys dairy milk*

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