The Student Room Group

Reply 1

It is perfectly possible to stay together even if you are going to different universities. It can be hard at times but you look forward to the time you next see each other. But I suggest having a talk with her and decide what you both want first. Many couples have survived being away at uni.

Reply 2

actually its a he, im one of "them" haha

Reply 3

mathro.uk
actually its a he, im one of "them" haha



Ah well whichever way it is :p: the same thing applies.

Reply 4

I know some couples who it's worked fine for and some for whom it's all fallen apart a bit. There isn't really a consistent rule for things like this. Personally I think the best advice I can give you is not to crowd each other. The first few weeks of uni are very busy and exciting and you'll meet so many new people that you'll probably feel a little overwhelmed, and this may lead to spending less time with your partner. You need to make sure you have enough trust to let the other person do their own thing, at least for a little while, before you start to get into a routine of seeing each other. If you're clingy and want to stay together the whole time instead of going out with your new friends, you won't bond like you're supposed to and one could grow resentful of the other, or both of you could. That's my tip for the top really, give each some space to begin with, then once you've settled in you can begin to incorporate your relationship into your new routine.

Reply 5

My bf and I have managed to work it, we're over 200 miles apart, but if you really care about someone, you can do it.

Reply 6

There's already like a million threads on this. General upshot is, most couples will break up (it's sad but true) but if you're lucky and dedicated then it might work out.