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Spent an entire week in bed

The teachers in my school told me that i was in their critical list. Basically a list of students of they think are going to fail. My tutor told me that if i didn't improve immideatly and dramatically i wouldn't be allowed to take the AS exams. Later that day i found out that my uncle died back home died. I live in the kind of house where a man isn't supposed to cry. I told my mum that i felt sick. Filled my iPod with music and charged it up. I then went to bed listing to music. The only time i came out was when i needed to charge my iPod,eat or go to the toilet. After several days i stopped eating. I lay their listing to music and crying secretly. Eventually i came upon a song in my iPod that i added a long time ago. R Kelly - Worlds greatest he is a phedophile but that song was great. It gave me enough inspiration to get out of bed and go back to college. Today is my first day back. We had a test. I couldn't understand a single question. I spent the next hour in my class day dreaming about being an engineer. I feel depressed again. I know i can pass my exams. My physic teacher told me that i was his best student at the beginning of the year and if i put 100% effort in i could get an A. The problem is i just don't know what to do. I feel like an idiot. When ever i try to work hard i see people in my class people who were dumber then me at the beginning of the year getting 80% in their tests. It then makes me depressed and i shut down. Meaning that i waste valubable time and i sink futher down. I know i can't ask my family for help. I live in the kind of family where if you show weakness you will be torn apart ruthlessly. I'm going to see if i can get an appointment with the school shrink but she is only here three times a week and there is a long list. I liked being in bed. At least i was safe there and i couldn't disappoint my self or others. But i don't want to do that for the rest of my life. That would be sad.

Reply 1

Lady Leviathan

You should go to a counselor. You sound like you're quite depressed.

Hope all goes well.

Reply 2

dead antics

ohhh and also
errm,, yeah go and see a counsellor, im sure they will be able to help

Reply 3

MissHero

1

Talk to the teachers at school. They want you to do well, it's in both of your interests that you should do so, and if you ask for their help and explain how you feel they'd probably be only to willing to help you. I was in a situation very similar to you a few years ago, and it's very difficult to drag yourself out of it and actually go back to school at all, so you've made a good start, but you must not let finding the work difficult panic you and slip back again. Even if you are on the 'critical list', you've still time to improve, exams are not yet. If there's a long wait to see someone at school, go to a doctor, or ask the head of 6th form who should have details of other people you can talk to. I know only too well how suffocating it all can be, and sometimes it's easier to hide away rather than facing your problems, but the only way they will go away here will be if you don't do the exams, and it doesn't sound like that's something you want - you obviously have potential and it'd be a waste if you let this beat you. Is there really nobody that you can talk to in your family about this - do you have any extended family who might be more sympathetic, or a close friend that you can talk to? You really need to stop worrying about disappointing other too, you are the one who matters here. If things don't work out it's not the end of the world because there are ALWAYS other chances, but it will be you who regrets it in the long run when everyone else is getting on with their lives, so aim to please yourself.

Good luck with getting this sorted out, and let us know how you're getting on. A little positive - 2 years ago I could barely make myself leave the house, was panicking when I did, and was incredibly close to failing my exams, now I'm at uni, did well in my A levels and am generally a much happier, confident person, so it can be done! :smile:

If you ever want a chat, PM me.

Reply 4

Psyk

16

Kind of OT, but R Kelly isn't a paedophile.

Reply 5

lil'p

10

how did we go from depression to discusing if rkelly is a pedo or not

Reply 6

Psyk

16

lil'p

how did we go from depression to discusing if rkelly is a pedo or not

Sorry I'm a bit of pedant. Go back to the real discussion, I'll leave this thread now.

Reply 7

Anonymous #2

I think I can relate to you in this one. And I'm still trying to sort myself out. Its hard, but have you any choice other than to do the thing? I know i need to listen to myself too...

Reply 8

Anonymous #3

How about you stop feeling sorry for yourself and do some work?

Reply 9

nmt_oli

1

Anonymous

How about you stop feeling sorry for yourself and do some work?

Im afraid, if youve ever been in that situation, you will find unless you have world leading amounts of will power, it just isn't that easy!

And yes i am talking from experience, in fact im having a bit of a down few weeks atm, hard to get out of bed in the mornings, missing lectures, and can't concentrate on my work.

Right now i am trying to use will power to get out of it! harder than it sounds.

Reply 10

Anonymous #3

nmt_oli

Im afraid, if youve ever been in that situation, you will find unless you have world leading amounts of will power, it just isn't that easy!

And yes i am talking from experience, in fact im having a bit of a down few weeks atm, hard to get out of bed in the mornings, missing lectures, and can't concentrate on my work.

Right now i am trying to use will power to get out of it! harder than it sounds.

Trust me mate, i've got more to feel sorry for myself about than most people, but there is no point just lying there looking glum. You have to grow some balls and turn things around.

Reply 11

Bear_Grylls

19

Sorry to hear about the loss of a reletive

Regarding the exams theres two options, either feel despressed for yourself and fail, or be angry with yourself and really work your ass and get the grades you want and you'll be able to reach your full potential

When i got my crap grades from Jan theres no time to feel sad about it otherwise you'll get left behind, give yourself a target to achieve and really go for it.

Best Of Luck

Reply 12

nmt_oli

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Anonymous

Trust me mate, i've got more to feel sorry for myself about than most people, but there is no point just lying there looking glum. You have to grow some balls and turn things around.

Indeed, but at times that can be very hard. Sometimes a gradual approach works better than sudden change. It does depend on the person however. Also, on the subject of balls, why are you anon in this thread?

Reply 13

MissHero

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Anonymous

Trust me mate, i've got more to feel sorry for myself about than most people, but there is no point just lying there looking glum. You have to grow some balls and turn things around.

It's not that easy, and it's fools like you who are so intolerant that make it harder for people who are experiencing problems to talk about it. Whether or not you have anything to feel sorry for yourself about, that's rather subjective anyway; things affect people in different way, and being told to "grow some balls" really just doesn't cut it.

Reply 14

dead antics

^^^^ true dat

Reply 15

she

16

you could try your best this year but not stress about it, then repeat the year or even just revise during the summer and resit the as while doing your a-levels. Another option is to just forget about this year and sort yourself out in time for next year, although that option isn't good for everyone cause giving up on one thing can start a trend of giving up.

(I suffered from depression during my a-levels, ended up ****ing everything up was even chucked out of sixth form, so this is coming from someone with experience!)

Reply 16

Anonymous #3

MissHero

It's not that easy, and it's fools like you who are so intolerant that make it harder for people who are experiencing problems to talk about it. Whether or not you have anything to feel sorry for yourself about, that's rather subjective anyway; things affect people in different way, and being told to "grow some balls" really just doesn't cut it.

I'm just trying to psych him up! I was probably not helping though tbf and i'm sorry op, but the truth is the only person that can help him is himself. I would advise knuckling down- you work hard enough and you achieve what you want.

Reply 17

Anonymous #4

hey no worries. my friend went to school a few days ago for the first time in 5 weeks and he hasn't been kicked out, he isn't dumb - in fact he is sat right next to me doing his coursework. ok so only cos my mom yelled at him but still. school are just pissed because if you don't have a good enough attendance then they don't get funding for having you and then they can't pay teachers etc.

Reply 18

katahnya

I've been in a similar situation myself and after talking to my teachers and GP I am now in counselling, on medication and in a position where I can get on with my course and pass. I don't know what your teachers are like but mine were really good and helpful and I'm glad I spoke to them.

Reply 19

AverageGuyOnTheStreet

9

Good luck. I would go for counselling if I were you.

Maybe it's not my place to say this but please show a little respect to each other. I know if I were the person starting this thread I wouldn't want people ranting at me telling me that they were worse off than I was. Different people cope in different ways.

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