Hi everyone.
I'm a fresher. I've been here for >3 weeks and having a great time. Everyone in my house is really nice except for this one girl.
I thought she was cool at first but she keeps making these really lewd jokes. For example, today I asked her what I can do with my 80p and she told me to buy a prostitute. Also, a guy in my house had a broken wrist and she accused him of excessive masturbation.
This makes me really uncomfortable and I really need help. Should I confront her and tell her to stop? It makes me upset because I feel very uncomfortable about sex and when she talks this way it makes me feel weird.
I am a guy and I don't know if maybe she just really fancies me. Thanks.
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- 17-10-2015 03:13
(Original post by thedominator)
Hi everyone.
I'm a fresher. I've been here for >3 weeks and having a great time. Everyone in my house is really nice except for this one girl.
I thought she was cool at first but she keeps making these really lewd jokes. For example, today I asked her what I can do with my 80p and she told me to buy a prostitute. Also, a guy in my house had a broken wrist and she accused him of excessive masturbation.
This makes me really uncomfortable and I really need help. Should I confront her and tell her to stop? It makes me upset because I feel very uncomfortable about sex and when she talks this way it makes me feel weird.
I am a guy and I don't know if maybe she just really fancies me. Thanks.
Man up OP. -
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- 17-10-2015 06:40
Ease up mate. Just tell her that it's unlikely a prostitute would go below the minimum wage. As to the wrist quip, well that is quite witty..
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- 17-10-2015 06:49
Gotta admit the wrist thing was clever; as for the prostitute thing, sounds like she could take a joke - should've just responded: "OK, well here's 80p...."
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- 17-10-2015 08:47
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I am a guy and I don't know if maybe she just really fancies me. Thanks.
But seriously, toughen the **** up; the real world is going to chew you up and spit you out otherwise!
Edit - and your name is The Dominator?!Last edited by TheThiefOfBagdad; 17-10-2015 at 08:49. -
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(Original post by thedominator)
a guy in my house had a broken wrist and she accused him of excessive masturbation.
(Completely off topic but I always wanted to be an optician for the day,
''Well Mr Jones, it seems your eyesight has deteriorated a little since you're last check-up...could I ask a personal question?...how many times a week?...roughly.'')
...but yeah sounds to me like she's just 'trying too hard'.
Could be worse...
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- 17-10-2015 09:56
"Also, a guy in my house had a broken wrist and she accused him of excessive masturbation."..... Do you want to swap housemates with me>????!!!11
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- 17-10-2015 11:34
(Original post by thedominator)
Hi everyone.
I'm a fresher. I've been here for >3 weeks and having a great time. Everyone in my house is really nice except for this one girl.
I thought she was cool at first but she keeps making these really lewd jokes. For example, today I asked her what I can do with my 80p and she told me to buy a prostitute. Also, a guy in my house had a broken wrist and she accused him of excessive masturbation.
This makes me really uncomfortable and I really need help. Should I confront her and tell her to stop? It makes me upset because I feel very uncomfortable about sex and when she talks this way it makes me feel weird.
I am a guy and I don't know if maybe she just really fancies me. Thanks.
Just tell her that you feel uncomfortable about the jokes she is making and ask for her to understand where you are coming from.
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- 17-10-2015 11:38
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Don't listen to the other idiots on here telling you to man up - if you a were woman and your male housemates made such jokes which made you uncomfortable, shouldn't you let them know?
Just tell her that you feel uncomfortable about the jokes she is making and ask for her to understand where you are coming from.
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- 17-10-2015 11:53
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If a woman had the same problem she should also either grow a (figurative) pair or move out. Same as OP.
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- 17-10-2015 11:57
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Why should one compromise one's principles and right to stay in the house, when one hasn't even tried to engage the housemate in discussing the lewd behaviour?
Complete nonsense.
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- 17-10-2015 12:04
(Original post by Bupdeeboowah)
Why should one compromise one's principles and right to stay in the house, when one hasn't even tried to engage the housemate in discussing the lewd behaviour?
Complete nonsense.(Original post by Zargabaath)
Why should one have the right to change someone else's behaviour when as far as societal standards go, one's housemate isn't actually doing anything wrong?
Complete narcissism.
Complete idefk
OP, maybe put up with it for now, she could be saying a lot worse. If you still feel uncomfortable in a week or two, have a word with her about it.
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- 17-10-2015 12:04
Sounds like you've found a very rare example of a female with a sense of humour.
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- 17-10-2015 12:11
(Original post by Zargabaath)
Why should one have the right to change someone else's behaviour when as far as societal standards go, one's housemate isn't actually doing anything wrong?
Complete narcissism.
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- 17-10-2015 17:42
I think it's rude that you all want me to 'man up'. I am more of a man than any of you, flaming me behind your computer screens. -
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- 17-10-2015 20:29
(Original post by thedominator)
What's wrong with that? My name is Dominic, or 'Dom' for short. My friends at home call me 'the dominator' because it's a play on words.
I think it's rude that you all want me to 'man up'. I am more of a man than any of you, flaming me behind your computer screens.
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- 17-10-2015 20:38
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Don't listen to the other idiots on here telling you to man up - if you a were woman and your male housemates made such jokes which made you uncomfortable, shouldn't you let them know?
Just tell her that you feel uncomfortable about the jokes she is making and ask for her to understand where you are coming from.
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- 17-10-2015 20:39
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One should have every opportunity to be able to attempt to change one's circumstance, despite the said circumstance being socially acceptable. In the 70s sexism was rife in workplaces, though it was seen as being socially acceptable. What a long way society has come from this, all because people took the opportunity to try changing such attitudes.
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- 17-10-2015 20:57
Sounds like pretty standard student humour tbh.
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- 17-10-2015 21:01
(Original post by thedominator)
Hi everyone.
I'm a fresher. I've been here for >3 weeks and having a great time. Everyone in my house is really nice except for this one girl.
I thought she was cool at first but she keeps making these really lewd jokes. For example, today I asked her what I can do with my 80p and she told me to buy a prostitute. Also, a guy in my house had a broken wrist and she accused him of excessive masturbation.
This makes me really uncomfortable and I really need help. Should I confront her and tell her to stop? It makes me upset because I feel very uncomfortable about sex and when she talks this way it makes me feel weird.
I am a guy and I don't know if maybe she just really fancies me. Thanks.
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