Alright essentially, i have kind of just met her in person last week, and added on fb and started talking - right from the get go my intentions (IMO) are fairly clear that i do fancy her and wish to take her out for drinks. She replies she don't drink so i offer maybe coffee/lunch instead then.
Long story short, she said yes and scheduled it on Monday where it seems she only has time during a certain period and will be bringing female friend as they just had a class together straight after - either she doesn't want to ditch friend; or probably feels kind of uncomfortable one to one with me; or simply treating me as a friendzone hanging out... i don't know - because i am getting a mixed bag of hints as she did mention that she would bring female friend if i didn't mind.
Any feedback on this situation? It technically has pulled a lot of stress from me as i have 2 people to converse with rather than 1 which might get stale with my brain in the mix lol.
(Complete noob in this field - and no i'm not one night stand type of guy (so if its tips for this no thanks; i genuinely want to know her and maybe develop relationship).
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either she doesn't want to ditch friendfeels kind of uncomfortable one to one with meor simply treating me as a friendzone hanging out -
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- 17-10-2015 23:15
Either she doesn't realise it is supposed to be a date or she doesn't want to date you and is trying to friend zone you. If she really wanted to date I think she would tell her friend and come alone.
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- 18-10-2015 00:29
probably would be worth noting that I only officially spoke to her for like 5 minutes in person last week so it is a fairly new interaction - so i guess i'll go with the flow and see where we get to :/
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- 18-10-2015 00:35
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Either she doesn't realise it is supposed to be a date or she doesn't want to date you and is trying to friend zone you. If she really wanted to date I think she would tell her friend and come alone. -
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- 18-10-2015 00:36
Lol friend zoned m8.
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- 18-10-2015 00:36
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probably would be worth noting that I only officially spoke to her for like 5 minutes in person last week so it is a fairly new interaction - so i guess i'll go with the flow and see where we get to :/ -
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- 18-10-2015 00:42
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I don't know about you but I wouldn't come alone for a date with a guy I barely know; its date rape prevention 101 -
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- 18-10-2015 00:50
That is disrespectful
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- 18-10-2015 00:52
You failed OP, you should have told her you don't like meeting friends until you know her.
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just to clear things up - coffee shop is right in middle of Uni - so the people with sick minds of saying date rape prevention etc. i don't think it applies here.
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- 18-10-2015 01:49
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just to clear things up - coffee shop is right in middle of Uni - so the people with sick minds of saying date rape prevention etc. i don't think it applies here.
guess we will see then... -
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- 18-10-2015 01:51
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Alright essentially, i have kind of just met her in person last week, and added on fb and started talking - right from the get go my intentions (IMO) are fairly clear that i do fancy her and wish to take her out for drinks. She replies she don't drink so i offer maybe coffee/lunch instead then.
Long story short, she said yes and scheduled it on Monday where it seems she only has time during a certain period and will be bringing female friend as they just had a class together straight after - either she doesn't want to ditch friend; or probably feels kind of uncomfortable one to one with me; or simply treating me as a friendzone hanging out... i don't know - because i am getting a mixed bag of hints as she did mention that she would bring female friend if i didn't mind.
Any feedback on this situation? It technically has pulled a lot of stress from me as i have 2 people to converse with rather than 1 which might get stale with my brain in the mix lol.
(Complete noob in this field - and no i'm not one night stand type of guy (so if its tips for this no thanks; i genuinely want to know her and maybe develop relationship). -
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- 18-10-2015 07:23
Not an encouraging sign. There is a remote chance she just wants to test the water first. Go along with it and if there is any encouragement then follow up with a clear date request. If she's not up for it put your energy elsewhere.
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- 18-10-2015 08:34
I would only ever bring a friend if I wasn't interested and wanted to make this very clear. Anything else is game playing. Sorry.
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- 18-10-2015 09:04
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I would only ever bring a friend if I wasn't interested and wanted to make this very clear. Anything else is game playing. Sorry.
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I would only ever bring a friend if I wasn't interested and wanted to make this very clear. Anything else is game playing. Sorry. -
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- 18-10-2015 10:02
Ask her out again but make it very clear it's a date. If this fails then just move on.
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- 18-10-2015 11:04
(Original post by AngryRedhead)
Safety reasons is the more reasonably likelihood here. I wouldn't go for a date with a bloke I hardly knew alone. That's just stupid
I'd say it's a pretty strong hint the girl isn't interested in that way. But you may as well still go, and judge on how she acts. -
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- 18-10-2015 12:16
It's over bro you was probably a practice date or you didn't build up enough comfort/trust when you was talking to her over facebook. Let it go and move on
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