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Sorry guys, I know everyone's fed up of these threads, but here goes:

Yesterday, out of the blue, my boyfriend texted me to say his Facebook profile is messed up, and his relationship status (i.e. 'In A Relationship') has been removed and he can't put it right. Everything else on his profile is unchanged. Which I refused to believe because I'm not that stupid, but I didn't say anything. I figure he doesn't want whoever views his profile to see that he's in a relationship. I'm questioning his commitment to me and wondering if there's another girl in the picture whom he doesn't want to know that he's not single. Am I being unreasonable and paranoid? Its just Facebook, after all. :s-smilie:

Reply 1

seafairy

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Hmm i dont see why he cant fix it tbh. just see if it changes in the next week or so is the best bet. Dont read into it too much bt your theory sounds plausible.

Reply 2

TheThirdMan

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Its just facbook, loads of people say theyre married to their best friend, who cares??

Reply 3

Anonymous #1

OP

I care. Single people say that as a joke, people in long-term relationships don't.

Reply 4

Anonymous #2

No, I see where the thread starter is coming from. I'd be exactly the same if that happened to me. I'd try and catch him out and tell him that it's practically impossible for that to happen. Does his profile say in his minifeed that he's no longer listed as in a relationship? If it does then he's defo changed it. That's the way I see it. I mean I could be wrong but I'd speak to him about it. And ask him to be brutally honest.

Reply 5

College Guy 1987

2

Put him on the spot by writing on his wall something about why he edited his relationship status?

Reply 6

ebonyphoenix

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I don't think you are being unreasonable at all. But if you are doubting his trust, then maybe it's an indication that there are other things in the relationship you are not sure about either? If you really are questioning him, I'd ask him to sign on to Facebook and show you the exact technological problem... yes, this may seem to indicate to him you are overly paranoid, but if there really is nothing to worry about, he shouldn't mind that much in my opinion.

Reply 7

Revd. Mike

17

Steal his password, log on to his account and change it for him. then when you nxt see him say "Oh that's good, your relationship status is fixed again!"

I know some people prefer to leave their status hidden, or set it as married even if they're single, but I never got why someone would set it to single if they're in a relationship.

Reply 8

sparkler

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1987 College Guy

Put him on the spot by writing on his wall something about why he edited his relationship status?

yeh, and keep posting it everytime he deletes the message/it goes off the page.

Reply 9

Anonymous #1

OP

Anonymous

Does his profile say in his minifeed that he's no longer listed as in a relationship?

His profile mini-feed doesn't, but the newsfeed his friends (including me) see does. So obviously he's deleted the mini-feed, but can't delete the newsfeed.

Put him on the spot by writing on his wall something about why he edited his relationship status?

That would be brilliant, thanks. :biggrin:

I might gather up the nerve to do that.

Reply 10

Meep!

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Well, you could always leave embarrassingly soppy messages all over his profile-on his pics, his wall, his notes etc...

Reply 11

L i b

19

What a ludicrous situation.

Reply 12

Pezking

1

Supposing it really was a fault, and he didn't tell you and you then saw it, would you have gotten really annoyed and confronted him about it in an accusing manner? That's the only reason I can see why he'd text you to let you know that out of the blue.

It is a bit odd, I can understand why you might be thinking what you are

Reply 13

Anonymous #2

Anonymous

His profile mini-feed doesn't, but the newsfeed his friends (including me) see does. So obviously he's deleted the mini-feed, but can't delete the newsfeed.
That would be brilliant, thanks. :biggrin:

I might gather up the nerve to do that.

He's changed it. It's impossible for facebook to mess up JUST the relationship status. Crikey, what does he take you for? Seriously what are the chances in that happening? He's taken it off himself. It doesn't mean he doesn't wanna be with you or anything like that but sometimes people like to not show it... maybe they're scared people will be less interested in talking to them (esp. the other sex) if they're in a relationship. Just speak to him ya? It sounds like a trivial thing but in my opinion, it's quite a big thing when your guy wants to hide he's in a r/s.

Reply 14

Llamaaa

15

Why don't you offer to help him with it? Like say, Oh that happened to me once, I know how to fix it, let me try :smile:

Then if you can do it easily then you know he's lying. Then interrogate him about it :biggrin:

Reply 15

Pezking

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I don't think trying to 'fix the problem' or confronting him about it would be a great idea, perhaps just leave a message that whilst not being over the top makes it fairly clear that the two of you are together and see how he reacts to that.

Reply 16

Anonymous #1

OP

I confronted him about it, he denied changing it intentionally, and I've just dumped him. And ebonyphoenix, you're absolutely right, there were many things wrong about this relationship, this was truly the final straw.

Reply 17

Anonymous #2

Anonymous

I confronted him about it, he denied changing it intentionally, and I've just dumped him. And ebonyphoenix, you're absolutely right, there were many things wrong about this relationship, this was truly the final straw.