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    I met someone online a couple of years ago, he's 38 and I'm 22. We still talk. I feel like I like his personality. He's expressed romantic interest though and I'm not sure how I feel about that. Maybe part of the draw is he's outside of my university 'bubble'? I don't know, just voicing some thoughts really..
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    (Original post by feloraa)
    I met someone online a couple of years ago, he's 38 and I'm 22. We still talk. I feel like I like his personality. He's expressed romantic interest though and I'm not sure how I feel about that. Maybe part of the draw is he's outside of my university 'bubble'? I don't know, just voicing some thoughts really..
    What's the problem? Just get to know him further as friends and see where it goes, but don't lead him on and tell him how you feel?
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    If you do, just bear in mind there will be tears.
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    (Original post by Bridget Jones)
    What's the problem? Just get to know him further as friends and see where it goes, but don't lead him on and tell him how you feel?
    I actually hadn't even thought about the fact I might be leading him on. I don't know if I am.. I've sort of deflected it when he's said romantic stuff but then recently I kind of reciprocated. I don't know, I guess there is no problem.. Maybe the only problem is that I do actually quite like him. But we've never met in real life.
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    He's too old. You both must be the same age. He's a very old man and you're a young child. Age gap is very important, you can't date anyone unless their same age as u. Your not going to loose anything by dumping him.
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    (Original post by Simes)
    If you do, just bear in mind there will be tears.
    Tears brought on by what as such?
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    I stop finding big age gaps weird when you hit your 20's..maybe that's just me
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    (Original post by feloraa)
    I actually hadn't even thought about the fact I might be leading him on. I don't know if I am.. I've sort of deflected it when he's said romantic stuff but then recently I kind of reciprocated. I don't know, I guess there is no problem.. Maybe the only problem is that I do actually quite like him. But we've never met in real life.
    Here's what I suggest you do. Explain the situation to him, about how you like him, but you're not sure if its in a romantic way, and you don't want to lead him on. Make sure he understands and then suggest meeting up and just getting to know each other and go from there.

    With regards to something someone said earlier, I do think you are at different stages in life, but at the end of the day, it's not illegal and its not immoral and if it works, go for it!
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    I also really don't think I want a serious relationship with him at all, but maybe something less than that
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    (Original post by feloraa)
    Tears brought on by what as such?
    At the altar, preferably.
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    (Original post by Thickfreakness)
    He's too old. You both must be the same age. He's a very old man and you're a young child. Age gap is very important, you can't date anyone unless their same age as u. Your not going to loose anything by dumping him.
    There's 13 years between my mum and dad. They've been married for 20 years.

    They met when my mum was 20, married a year later.

    If you love someone, age doesn't matter.

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    I have friends with a similar age gap. I certainly found it weird at first, I didn't think it would last but they've been together 5 years and have a son now. Most of the time it's not going to work out but it can. If you like him then why not get to know him a bit better, see where it might be going, it's not like it's nothing or serious comitment
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    (Original post by Bupdeeboowah)
    At the altar, preferably.
    The altar? I'm not thinking that far ahead..
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    (Original post by feloraa)
    I met someone online a couple of years ago, he's 38 and I'm 22. We still talk. I feel like I like his personality. He's expressed romantic interest though and I'm not sure how I feel about that. Maybe part of the draw is he's outside of my university 'bubble'? I don't know, just voicing some thoughts really..
    The same age gap is 2 and 18, so think about it like that
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    (Original post by Gears265)
    The same age gap is 2 and 18, so think about it like that
    It's ridiculous to compare it like that as any decently sized age gap when they are young are perverse.

    A more 'traditional' age gap is around 6 or 7 years. That'd be 11 and 18, which is still creepy to think about. You cannot use an age gap like that.
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    well... when he was 18 you were 2

    just let that sink in...
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    (Original post by celloel)
    It's ridiculous to compare it like that as any decently sized age gap when they are young are perverse.

    A more 'traditional' age gap is around 6 or 7 years. That'd be 11 and 18, which is still creepy to think about. You cannot use an age gap like that.
    You can also move their ages to 60 and 76, which doesn't seem that absurd at all.

    What matters is whether she is prepared for the any possible problems which their age difference will bring about.
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    (Original post by feloraa)
    I met someone online a couple of years ago, he's 38 and I'm 22. We still talk. I feel like I like his personality. He's expressed romantic interest though and I'm not sure how I feel about that. Maybe part of the draw is he's outside of my university 'bubble'? I don't know, just voicing some thoughts really..
    That's quite a steep difference. It does not meant that these things never work out but in my experience men who go for such big differences and with those ages (i.e. girls in their early 20s) are either very controlling or very immature, so you may want to be aware of that. Also, the former is much more problematic than the latter.
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    just saw the 17 and 68 thread

    y'all have my green light **** dat ****
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    the way i look at age gaps is imagine youre both in highschool, what year would he be in and what year would you be in?
    example, lets say he's in 6th form and your in year 7... seems abit much doesnt it. thats how i go about it but each to their own
 
 
 
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