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    So I'm a 19 year old female virgin and I've always said to myself I want to wait until I'm in a relationship with someone I love for a while (like at least a few months before I lose it) but the more I think about it, the more I feel like I should go ahead and lose it so it's over with. I'm a bit paranoid I'll get with someone I like and then I'll be **** enough to be dumped. Or just used and dumped in general. Plus my sexuality is all over the place at the moment; sometimes, I think I'm gay. The label I've been most comfortable with is either a lesbian with exceptions or on the gay side of bisexual. And no, I don't think I'm in denial because I've tried just saying to myself "I only like girls" and it just makes it really confusing on the occasion I like a guy as I do now. Either way I feel like I should lose it with someone, desirably someone I never ever have to see again.
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    Don't just do it to 'get it over with'. If you don't feel the need to lose your virginity to someone you are in a serious relationship or in love with, that's fine! It should be something you do when you feel ready and you actually want to do it. Don't feel like you have to do it just because it's the norm. What's wrong with being a virgin? What's wrong with being uncertain about your sexuality? Don't worry so much and just be you. Sex isn't something you absolutely have to do, and it's not like there's a clock ticking down and if you don't do it now you'll miss out on it. Chill out and do what you feel like.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    So I'm a 19 year old female virgin and I've always said to myself I want to wait until I'm in a relationship with someone I love for a while (like at least a few months before I lose it) but the more I think about it, the more I feel like I should go ahead and lose it so it's over with. I'm a bit paranoid I'll get with someone I like and then I'll be **** enough to be dumped. Or just used and dumped in general. Plus my sexuality is all over the place at the moment; sometimes, I think I'm gay. The label I've been most comfortable with is either a lesbian with exceptions or on the gay side of bisexual. And no, I don't think I'm in denial because I've tried just saying to myself "I only like girls" and it just makes it really confusing on the occasion I like a guy as I do now. Either way I feel like I should lose it with someone, desirably someone I never ever have to see again.
    **** who you like when you like it doesn't have to be love it's just sex it's supposed to be fun not some seminal perfect moment


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    You should wait until you are married.
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    The fact you are asking and doubting tells me that you should wait a bit.
 
 
 
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