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    I'm planning to live alone in 2nd year as the social anxiety has gotten worse in university.

    I don't expect my flatmates to ask me to live with any of them next year (one of my flatmates said he plans to live with 'the lads' and im not one of them lol)

    How would you see a 2nd year (or any uni student) living alone by themselves?
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    I'm in a similar position as you. I'll probably be living alone too, rent a one bedroom flat out Probs.

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    (Original post by PusE)
    I'm in a similar position as you. I'll probably be living alone too, rent a one bedroom flat out Probs.

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    is uni **** for you too?
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    (Original post by Uyi 95)
    is uni **** for you too?
    Yep. I have no friends, which means nobody to live with.

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    (Original post by PusE)
    Yep. I have no friends, which means nobody to live with.

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    and what university is this?

    I don't blame you, university is overrated and fake. I was foolish it would solve my issues
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    Why are you not one of the lads?

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    (Original post by Souljer)
    Why are you not one of the lads?

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    I'm their tag-along buddy when i'm drunk
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    I wouldn't think anything but I would question whether isolating yourself is the best thing if you are already struggling. You're the only one who knows that, might be that by living alone you make home a 'safe base' from which to try and form friendships, but it could get very lonely living alone, at least in a shared flat you have regular 'hi, how's it going?' with your flatmates.
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    (Original post by doodle_333)
    I wouldn't think anything but I would question whether isolating yourself is the best thing if you are already struggling. You're the only one who knows that, might be that by living alone you make home a 'safe base' from which to try and form friendships, but it could get very lonely living alone, at least in a shared flat you have regular 'hi, how's it going?' with your flatmates.
    It's not something i wished to do but i am not clicking with anyone. I get along with my current flatmates and others around halls but we are not close (no contact numbers etc). Drinking really helps me to socialise because of my anxiety and depression hence i could see why people will still bother to talk to me.

    But i find it all exhausting and with huge changes in the 2nd year, living alone would sadly be the best as i said, i don't expect anyone to ask me to live with them.
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    I'd just think that you're in a fairly nice financial position to be able to afford a one bedroom flat. But I wouldn't judge anybody for living alone, it's perfectly normal. If it's what you have to do, then do it.
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    (Original post by Uyi 95)
    I'm their tag-along buddy when i'm drunk
    Become a lad.. its not that hard.

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    I lived alone in my second year and I live alone again, although it doesn't have much to do with my introversion and is more to do with the fact that I refuse to be responsible for anyone else's mess. It's totally fine to live by yourself, but at the same time, don't totally give up on living with people simply because you haven't found people you could see yourself living with next year and vice versa, it's barely a month into university so you have plenty of time!
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    (Original post by Uyi 95)
    I'm planning to live alone in 2nd year as the social anxiety has gotten worse in university.

    I don't expect my flatmates to ask me to live with any of them next year (one of my flatmates said he plans to live with 'the lads' and im not one of them lol)

    How would you see a 2nd year (or any uni student) living alone by themselves?
    In France, literally everybody outside Paris has their own flat throughout their studies. I find it weird to share a flat until the PhD in the UK (even at the beginning of a career in London), but we hopefully don't have the same rents, and the State pays up to half of the living cost here.

    So I don't think you're strange.
    Actually, having my own flat forced me to grow up and stop relying on others to do the chores.
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    Hi,

    I lived alone in my final year, in a student studio flat. A friend lived a couple of floors up. It turned out to be a good decision because I did end up needing that personal space as my Mum passed away like 3 weeks before I moved in (I signed the paperwork for the flat during the second year though). Also, my housemates from second year had fallen out so I wanted to live alone and they were both just too *****y and negative. I feel like living alone may be more of a final year thing to do as that's a time when you need to focus on your work etc. Just don't isolate yourself as it can be lonely. Maybe invite friends over if you'd prefer being in your own flat x
 
 
 
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