Ex Issue...

Me and my boyfriend broke up a few weeks ago because we were constantly arguing about silly little things and he was confused about our relationship and althogh when we were together on our own we got on amazingly, with him friends it was different and he acted up to them, it got really messy as i couldnt cope with the sudden lack of contact with him and he got in touch saing he was seeing someone else who he likes 'so much more' and basically told me to stop contacting him, i went a bit crazy at him and we had massive arguements on the phone, the most hurtful things he said was "do you really think i would ever get back with you" or "ive moved on, you should to, i dont like you like that anymore" This was all a week ago and even though i was really upset i just tried to forget out him and deleted his number.

On monday i just did a quick txt saying "do you want all ur dvds back" and he txt back saying "shove them up your *beep*"... so i was like fair enough thats it.

So then wednesday i got a txt off him and it said "Hi, U ok X" so i just ignored it, then he tried phoning me, and i didnt answer, and he just carried on ringing me so i had 13 missed calls off him and he finally left me a message saying "hi, its me, just wondered how you are really, txt me back when you are ready" .... so as i was a bit tipsey i just txt him saying "im absolutly amazing, u?" and he was liek "no im really down actually" and then went on to saying that the reason he is down is me, and he still loves me and misses me but was just confused because hes never been in a proper relationship before. So i was like sorry you really hurt me and im moving on just like you told me to. So he was like "im so sorry i really love you, i understand what you mean, let me know if you change your mind"

and now im just so confused... i do love him but i hate him for how much he hurt me and just forgot about my feelings while he just did what he had to do, and i hate it how hes now realised his feelings and expects me to forgive him for being a **** to me for weeks...but then i dont know if im throwing away something really good for the sake of being scared of being hurt again... arghhh i just dont know what to do? Is he just confused as well and just loves the thought of being with me??

Advice?

Reply 1

Nix!

The reason he was so nasty to you in that initial text is probably because he does still have strong feelings for you.

Reply 2

Vampyrcorn

If you did get back together, do you think you'd be able to talk (not shout crazily :p:

) about the issues that you broke up about?

There's no point getting back together if the same problems will still be there. but maybe this would work as an incentive to fix them. :smile:

Reply 3

Anonymous #1

sorry to bump this is... ive been thinking and i really dont think its going to work again... he went a bit crazy at me on friday night when one of my friends( i have been friends with him since reception year) had a word with him about messing me around and threatened him to stop treating me like poo... i got the blame for this even though i didnt have any idea any of that was going to be said ( i wasnt there but thats what ive gathered was said) and the ex told me it wasnt going to work again... but then suddenly changed his mind about me.

I still love him, but i just dont think he is the person i know as he acts so completly different around other people... its a shame really