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Feel so lonely and depressed in LDR watch

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    We've been together 2 years, long distance for the last 18 months. At first it wasn't so bad as it was supposed to be short term. However it's getting so much harder recently. In my head I set a 'goal' of September to be when I moved nearer him but that's been and gone and I can't find any jobs in the same city as him. We see each other every 3 weeks for a weekend but when I leave I'm almost in tears, I I just feel really empty and lonely coming back to my house. I have little interest in making friends or more of a social life here because this isn't where I want to be. I keep myself busy, I do something every evening and try and keep in contact with old friends but I can't shake this feeling of emptiness.

    Is this normal? I feel like I'm becoming obsessed with my boyfriend to the point where I'd rather see him than anyone else. Surely this isn't healthy. I'm worried that when I do eventually move I'll end up wanting to spend too much time with him.

    It's probably because you've been in a long distance relationship for a year plus. I think the best thing to do is to get some career or CV advice so that you can get a job in the city he's in quicker, but you should also make sure you make an effort to stay in touch with the close friends you have in your current city, and if your worried about getting to clingy with him when you do move closer to him, aim to engage in activities you find interesting i.e. pottery, water color painting, kickboxing etc
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