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    How should I say it so that I don't seem to forward?

    I (female) have a huge crush on one of my guyfriends. I'm not the most confident flirt so I don't think he has got the hint that I like him yet. I have caught him checking out my body before and he always makes the effort to come over and talk to me when in a group and seems to linger, but I'm not sure if he likes me I still fear that I am in the friend zone.

    Rather than try and flirt and guess whether he likes me or not I thought maybe it is better to be direct and just ask him out to the cinemas/lunch/walk in the park or something. I feel like I don't want to waste my time dropping hints etc. when I know what I want and it's him. If he says no at least I can get on with thinking about other guys.

    What do you think? And how should I go about it? And guys how would you feel if a girl asked you out on a date?

    Thanks
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    Personally I love it when a girl asks. It makes a nice change

    So I think you've got the right idea. Just talk to him and see how he reacts. If it doesn't work then it won't be the end of the world
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    The 'friend zone' is an illusion.

    Just go for it. What's the worst that could happen?
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    Throw your excrement at him and present him your hind quarters
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    Do it.
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    (Original post by TorpidPhil)
    Do it.
    Any suggestions on how to go about it, and what to say? I also need to get him alone away from the group
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    The 'friend zone' is an illusion.

    Just go for it. What's the worst that could happen?
    The worst is a rejection which at least leaves me free to find someone who does like me
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    Personally I love it when a girl asks. It makes a nice change

    So I think you've got the right idea. Just talk to him and see how he reacts. If it doesn't work then it won't be the end of the world
    I'm so glad you like the idea of a girl initiating, hopefully he has the same mindset
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    Aww this is so cute!

    I hope he says yes

    As for advice just be yourself really, if you overthink it you'll end up worrying over it and stuff. So have a rough idea of what you wanna say but not have it, like, scripted :P
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Any suggestions on how to go about it, and what to say? I also need to get him alone away from the group
    Contact him via social media to get his phone number and ask him via text on his phone.

    Or are you in a lesson with him and nobody else. Could ask him after the lesson for his phone number and then text him...

    If you ask for his phone number then he can come to terms with you liking him so it is less shocking than just saying "hey, wanna go for a walk in the park sometime this week?" which could potentially shock him out of doing it even if really he does want to.

    All you have to say if you lack it is that you find him really cool/interesting and want to get to know him a bit better so you thought it would be useful if you could get one another's phone numbers. Then you can text him when you can get home or any other time you know he's going to be alone and not distracted by others.

    Even if a romantic relationship doesn't kick off your friendship will probably improve if he goes along with that, if you aren't already.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    How should I say it so that I don't seem to forward?

    I (female) have a huge crush on one of my guyfriends. I'm not the most confident flirt so I don't think he has got the hint that I like him yet. I have caught him checking out my body before and he always makes the effort to come over and talk to me when in a group and seems to linger, but I'm not sure if he likes me I still fear that I am in the friend zone.

    Rather than try and flirt and guess whether he likes me or not I thought maybe it is better to be direct and just ask him out to the cinemas/lunch/walk in the park or something. I feel like I don't want to waste my time dropping hints etc. when I know what I want and it's him. If he says no at least I can get on with thinking about other guys.

    What do you think? And how should I go about it? And guys how would you feel if a girl asked you out on a date?

    Thanks
    Ask him out alone - and cinemas/lunch/walk sounds good. If he treats you just as a friend, he won't think much of the whole situation, and may even ask to include other friends in your outing.

    On the other hand, a very eager response in the positive to your invitation (sans the request to include other friends), and a jittery/nervous/strange behaviour would indicate his interest in you.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    How should I say it so that I don't seem to forward?

    I (female) have a huge crush on one of my guyfriends. I'm not the most confident flirt so I don't think he has got the hint that I like him yet. I have caught him checking out my body before and he always makes the effort to come over and talk to me when in a group and seems to linger, but I'm not sure if he likes me I still fear that I am in the friend zone.

    Rather than try and flirt and guess whether he likes me or not I thought maybe it is better to be direct and just ask him out to the cinemas/lunch/walk in the park or something. I feel like I don't want to waste my time dropping hints etc. when I know what I want and it's him. If he says no at least I can get on with thinking about other guys.

    What do you think? And how should I go about it? And guys how would you feel if a girl asked you out on a date?

    Thanks
    Almost all men literally love being approached by women.

    Just ask him out its 2015 not 1915

    Worst that can happen is that he is flattered but says no and it only gets awkward after that if you make it that way


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    I like your strategy. Seems hopeful he's up for it. Suggest a coffee and a walk maybe. Avoid the texting option, face to face is best and ultimately far less nerve racking than waiting for a reply. Good luck. Let us know what happens..
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    (Original post by Zarek)
    I like your strategy. Seems hopeful he's up for it. Suggest a coffee and a walk maybe. Avoid the texting option, face to face is best and ultimately far less nerve racking than waiting for a reply. Good luck. Let us know what happens..
    Doesn't sound like she has much of an opportunity to talk to him one on one in person though. Asking someone out arbitrarily on a date while walking from class to class or from a class to the area in which your friendship group meets up is beyond awkward. If they were sat together, alone on a free period, that may be different. But that was not the impression she was giving from the OP hence my texting suggestion.
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    (Original post by TorpidPhil)
    Contact him via social media to get his phone number and ask him via text on his phone.

    Or are you in a lesson with him and nobody else. Could ask him after the lesson for his phone number and then text him...

    If you ask for his phone number then he can come to terms with you liking him so it is less shocking than just saying "hey, wanna go for a walk in the park sometime this week?" which could potentially shock him out of doing it even if really he does want to.

    All you have to say if you lack it is that you find him really cool/interesting and want to get to know him a bit better so you thought it would be useful if you could get one another's phone numbers. Then you can text him when you can get home or any other time you know he's going to be alone and not distracted by others.

    Even if a romantic relationship doesn't kick off your friendship will probably improve if he goes along with that, if you aren't already.
    (Original post by TorpidPhil)
    Doesn't sound like she has much of an opportunity to talk to him one on one in person though. Asking someone out arbitrarily on a date while walking from class to class or from a class to the area in which your friendship group meets up is beyond awkward. If they were sat together, alone on a free period, that may be different. But that was not the impression she was giving from the OP hence my texting suggestion.
    I already have his number got it a few weeks ago. We haven't really texted yet... Does that mean he's not attract to me. I see him 2-3 times a week in a group and we talk a fair bit then just never alone. I would ideally like to ask him face to face to go on a date with me as I have had bad experiences in the past of waiting around for people to text me back it makes me so anxious. But at this rate I may just have to text. I really need to get him alone
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    I like your strategy. Seems hopeful he's up for it. Suggest a coffee and a walk maybe. Avoid the texting option, face to face is best and ultimately far less nerve racking than waiting for a reply. Good luck. Let us know what happens..
    I would definitely prefer to ask him to his face, partly because I get an immediate response and the message won't get lost in translation! I feel like if I am going to do this then I need to do this properly. Thank you I shall report back after I have spoken to him
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    Get ya tings out and tell him you wanna link. Easy.
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    (Original post by paul514)
    Almost all men literally love being approached by women.

    Just ask him out its 2015 not 1915

    Worst that can happen is that he is flattered but says no and it only gets awkward after that if you make it that way


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    That's a brilliant point yes it's 2015 If he says no I will try and laugh it off
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    Get ya tings out and tell him you wanna link. Easy.
    What are tings and what is linking?
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    Ask him out alone - and cinemas/lunch/walk sounds good. If he treats you just as a friend, he won't think much of the whole situation, and may even ask to include other friends in your outing.

    On the other hand, a very eager response in the positive to your invitation (sans the request to include other friends), and a jittery/nervous/strange behaviour would indicate his interest in you.
    Thanks for you input I'm scared of putting him on the spot. I don't think he has any idea that I'm even attracted to him so I'm expecting a nervous reaction whether he likes me or not.
 
 
 
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