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How do I make friends with benefits into a real relationship watch

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    I've been seeing a guy on and off since March. He's really nice and I really like him but I feel he and I are currently fwb and I'm not keen on that.

    I wonder what the best way to bring it up in conversation would be. Should I be straight to point or am I more likely to get an honest answer but discussing things.

    I feel as if maybe the relationship is going no where but I know he likes me just as much as I like him. He's been cheated on in the past so commitment seems to be his biggest issue.

    I don't know whether to let him work things out alone or help him by talking it over.
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    Tell him his benefits package is about to expire and now he's had the free trial, he needs to lock into a contract.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I've been seeing a guy on and off since March. He's really nice and I really like him but I feel he and I are currently fwb and I'm not keen on that.

    I wonder what the best way to bring it up in conversation would be. Should I be straight to point or am I more likely to get an honest answer but discussing things.

    I feel as if maybe the relationship is going no where but I know he likes me just as much as I like him. He's been cheated on in the past so commitment seems to be his biggest issue.

    I don't know whether to let him work things out alone or help him by talking it over.
    You basically need to tell him everything you said in this post, be honest: say you understand why he might be apprehensive due to being cheated on, but you'd love to become an item. I wouldn't let things "work out alone" that's leaving things up to chance!

    It might not work but it's worth the risk. I did something similar a while back with a fling, it turned into something very awesome indeed.
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    How old are you both. I would say don;t get your hopes up as he may just be using you for sex and you may get hurt in the end. Better just tell him it has to be a relationship or nothing.
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    (Original post by karl pilkington)
    How old are you both. I would say don;t get your hopes up as he may just be using you for sex and you may get hurt in the end. Better just tell him it has to be a relationship or nothing.
    I'm 18 and he's 20. He's said before he isn't just using me I'm just not sure what is going on
 
 
 
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