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    Hi, I'm a second year student at LJMU and honesty I'm feeling rather lonely. I have friends in my course but they tend to be busy and I'm shy about contacting them.

    I'm also kinda feeling down because I'm 22 and I've never so much as kissed a girl, forget even having a girlfriend, because I'm shy as hell. Sure I have girls who are friends but in the end that's all I can be to girls; the friend. Makes me feel kinda pathetic.

    Basically, wondering if there's any suggestions about what I could do to meet new people and maybe even some nice girl. I've looked into my unis societies but none are a good fit for me.
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    (Original post by Xavier10)
    Hi, I'm a second year student at LJMU and honesty I'm feeling rather lonely. I have friends in my course but they tend to be busy and I'm shy about contacting them.

    I'm also kinda feeling down because I'm 22 and I've never so much as kissed a girl, forget even having a girlfriend, because I'm shy as hell. Sure I've girls who are friends but in the end that's all I can be to girls; the friend. Makes me feel kinda pathetic.

    Basically, wondering if there's any suggestions about what I could do to meet new people and maybe even some nice girl. I've looked into my unis societies but none are a good fit for me.
    I understand where you are coming from it seems like a lot of people feel lonely at uni - I feel you, i'm in the same boat somewhat

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    (Original post by Xavier10)
    Hi, I'm a second year student at LJMU and honesty I'm feeling rather lonely. I have friends in my course but they tend to be busy and I'm shy about contacting them.

    I'm also kinda feeling down because I'm 22 and I've never so much as kissed a girl, forget even having a girlfriend, because I'm shy as hell. Sure I've girls who are friends but in the end that's all I can be to girls; the friend. Makes me feel kinda pathetic.

    Basically, wondering if there's any suggestions about what I could do to meet new people and maybe even some nice girl. I've looked into my unis societies but none are a good fit for me.
    If you're shy to contact your friends, it'll be even harder for you to meet new people. Work on overcoming your shyness first. Start with becoming comfortable enough with the friends in your course then start expanding from there For some people, the more you put yourself out there and mingle, the easier it becomes.
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    I'd be your friend if I lived in London too. Or wherever your uni is.

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    I've been trying to overcome my shyness and I find myself less shy in situations where one is expected to interact with others, like in socials. But its outside of those that I feel shy.

    When I've done introductions and everything and get chatting, I'm less shy and more open. But my problem is meeting people.

    Also been considering trying out speed dating, but I'm sceptical.
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    (Original post by Xavier10)
    I've been trying to overcome my shyness and I find myself less shy in situations where one is expected to interact with others, like in socials. But its outside of those that I feel shy.

    When I've done introductions and everything and get chatting, I'm less shy and more open. But my problem is meeting people.

    Also been considering trying out speed dating, but I'm sceptical.
    For some reason i cant help but think you are as cute as a bunny. I dont know i just find shy guys cute. Please dont do speed dating. Try reaching to your friends more. The right girl would come along.
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    (Original post by Ekemini)
    . Please dont do speed dating. Try reaching to your friends more. The right girl would come along.
    Thanks for the advice but 'The right girl would come along' is something people have been telling me for ages and honestly I'm starting to feel tired. Just tired. I've even tried online dating but that doesn't seem to be going anywhere.

    I know I should be patient, but it just makes me feel lost.
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    (Original post by Xavier10)
    Thanks for the advice but 'The right girl would come along' is something people have been telling me for ages and honestly I'm starting to feel tired. Just tired. I've even tried online dating but that doesn't seem to be going anywhere.

    I know I should be patient, but it just makes me feel lost.
    i see. Then reach out! Ask ur friends to recommend a girl for you. Go out with your friends and see if you can talk to a girl on one of your outings.
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    (Original post by Ekemini)
    i see. Then reach out! Ask ur friends to recommend a girl for you. Go out with your friends and see if you can talk to a girl on one of your outings.
    But it's so hard to find one!

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    I'd be your friend if I lived in London too. Or wherever your uni is.

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    LJMU is in Livaaapoooool
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    Hi Xavier,
    Try to join a social club or a society. Try to keep dates with people who invite you to join them.

    Over time, the more you make to leave the house and be around people, the more your shyness will leave you.
    You could even start a club of your own and lead yourself to meeting new people.

    Hope your endeavors turn out well.
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    You are not going to find no girl if you can't socialise so you better start trying to socialise more. Also not trying to be mean but your relationship won't last long if you have no social skills, so do try and work on it by forcing yourself to talk to new people even guys.
 
 
 
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