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Serious advice needed: communicating that you are not interested watch

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    I went to university because I couldn't get a job and my parents wouldn't let me do a distance degree. I didn't want to go, mainly because I knew in advance that universities weren't really the place for guys like me (independent, free-thinking, introverted, academic, solitary). I like doing work (if I can get it) and I like learning and exercise, but I have no interest in "going out" and "socialising".
    So my question is: how can I communicate that in a way that regular people can understand? Is it even possible to?

    When you're invited out, just keep politely turning people down. They'll stop asking in the end. Just be patient with other people. As you've found, your approach is a bit unusual compared to many uni students, so they'll need time to acclimatise. Neither side is right or wrong, so there's no need to make a big deal of it. They're just trying to be thoughtful and inclusive, and you're just trying to live your uni life as you want to. It may take a bit of time for that to sink in - on both sides.

    Patience and tolerance are the key. Keep it pleasant and everyone's lives will end up being better.
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