I went to university because I couldn't get a job and my parents wouldn't let me do a distance degree. I didn't want to go, mainly because I knew in advance that universities weren't really the place for guys like me (independent, free-thinking, introverted, academic, solitary). I like doing work (if I can get it) and I like learning and exercise, but I have no interest in "going out" and "socialising".
So my question is: how can I communicate that in a way that regular people can understand? Is it even possible to?
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Serious advice needed: communicating that you are not interested watch
- Thread Starter
- 21-10-2015 00:53
- 21-10-2015 10:16
When you're invited out, just keep politely turning people down. They'll stop asking in the end. Just be patient with other people. As you've found, your approach is a bit unusual compared to many uni students, so they'll need time to acclimatise. Neither side is right or wrong, so there's no need to make a big deal of it. They're just trying to be thoughtful and inclusive, and you're just trying to live your uni life as you want to. It may take a bit of time for that to sink in - on both sides.
Patience and tolerance are the key. Keep it pleasant and everyone's lives will end up being better.