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20 and still never had a g/f

Reply 40

Kagutsuchi

20

goodmen

i fail to see how being 20 and being afraid to ask a girls out shows maturity.

Lucia was being sincere and kind.

Reply 41

Psyk

16

Tag

I hate to come across all patronising but that's soo cute. Shy guys are attractive, there's nothing wrong with being shy, except that lots of girls are shy about asking guys out. I'd say go for it! there's nothing wrong with not having a girlfriend until 20, if anything it shows how careful you are and mature about deciding who you want to be with. be proud of yourself mate!

Either that or it shows you are hideously ugly. I'm sure the OP isn't but the fact that someone hasn't had a girlfriend by the age of 20 implies no such thing. Not by itself anyway. If they've never had a girlfriend but have had plenty of offers that they turned down, then maybe it would.

Reply 42

Anonymous #1

OP

ill put it to u this way, psyk
i have never asked out a girl in my life
only 1 girl came up to me during college time but that was just a 1st crush thing.

i have never approached a girl to get her number even! im that shy

Reply 43

Kagutsuchi

20

Psyk

Either that or it shows you are hideously ugly. I'm sure the OP isn't but the fact that someone hasn't had a girlfriend by the age of 20 implies no such thing. Not by itself anyway. If they've never had a girlfriend but have had plenty of offers that they turned down, then maybe it would.

so what your saying is, if you're 20, and you're going out with someone, or if you've turned down offers, then you're not ugly? But if this is not the case, then you are ugly?

Reply 44

The-Lennon

1

Dattebayo

Hmmmmmmm. All you need are some good convo starters :smile:

I always come up with some querky statement which makes people (boys, girls, and adults alike) burst into laughter. Anything that comes into my head really.

Think God's an alien?

If mankind is so great, why can't I sleep?

What the hell is a necrophilliac?

OR! If you're not like me, and you prefer the other ways:

I really love your shoes/hair/clothes etc.

Why do some girls....

hmmmm you sound like a bit of a weirdo.... no girl would ever go for that..... unless they were a complete misfit

Reply 45

Lucia.

16

The-Lennon

hmmmm you sound like a bit of a weirdo.... no girl would ever go for that..... unless they were a complete misfit

Dattebayo is obviously not a weirdo and he is in fact very nice :smile:

Reply 46

goodmen

13

Dattebayo

so what your saying is, if you're 20, and you're going out with someone, or if you've turned down offers, then you're not ugly? But if this is not the case, then you are ugly?

being 20 and having no relationships ever has about as much bearing on maturity as being 20 and have having 100 relationships.

maturity cant be measured by such things

also to the op sorry if i 'put you on the ground' but i'm being realistic, the people who said shyness is really attractive..i guess it shows from all the relationships youve had. You have to take positive steps, maybe not ask the girl out as she seems a bit of a no go but next time your out in a club or something force your self to go talk to someone. You'll soon see its not that big of a deal and neither is rejection

Reply 47

Nix!

11

goodmen

being 20 and having no relationships ever has about as much bearing on maturity as being 20 and have having 100 relationships.

maturity cant be measured by such things

also to the op sorry if i 'put you on the ground' but i'm being realistic, the people who said shyness is really attractive..i guess it shows from all the relationships youve had. You have to take positive steps, maybe not ask the girl out as she seems a bit of a no go but next time your out in a club or something force your self to go talk to someone. You'll soon see its not that big of a deal and neither is rejection

Maturity can't strictly be measured, no. However, it can be identified in the number of relationships. From my own perspective, I would describe someone with a stupid statistic as being immature whereas those we lower numbers possibly mature.

As 0 doesn't describe ones ability to actually hold a relationship, it is unfair to relate it with maturity.

You are correct though. There seems to be a strong contradiction emerging; that being both contradiction and shyness are attractive, but then - who empirically said it had to be one or the other?

Reply 48

Anonymous #1

OP

the-lennon ur the misfit here.
This world should have maney people like dattebayo cuz it will make it a much nicer place to live in

he is a very considerate human being helping other people.
and i am thankful of him very much

Reply 49

Kagutsuchi

20

Lucia.

Dattebayo is obviously not a weirdo and he is in fact very nice :smile:

awww! Thank you :hugs:

The-Lennon

hmmmm you sound like a bit of a weirdo.... no girl would ever go for that..... unless they were a complete misfit

By the way, to the jerk who thinks it's funny to abuse people, who the hell do you think you are? Ever heard of a little bit of humour or idiosncrasy? or was you born without a brain? (which would be very unique). Don't judge people before you get to know them, it just makes you seem more like a prick than you actually are (which is quite a lot anyway). :mad:

And for your info, I'm already going out with a girl for 6 months and going. Safe to say more than you've ever had, judging by your poor personality.

Reply 50

Nix!

11

goodmen

being 20 and having no relationships ever has about as much bearing on maturity as being 20 and have having 100 relationships.

maturity cant be measured by such things

also to the op sorry if i 'put you on the ground' but i'm being realistic, the people who said shyness is really attractive..i guess it shows from all the relationships youve had. You have to take positive steps, maybe not ask the girl out as she seems a bit of a no go but next time your out in a club or something force your self to go talk to someone. You'll soon see its not that big of a deal and neither is rejection

Maturity can't strictly be measured, no. However, it can be identified in the number of relationships. From my own perspective, I would describe someone with a highly skewed statistic as being immature whereas those we lower numbers possibly mature.

As 0 doesn't describe ones ability to actually hold a relationship, it is unfair to relate it with maturity.

You are correct though. There seems to be a strong contradiction emerging; that being both contradiction and shyness are attractive, but then - who empirically said it had to be one or the other?

Reply 51

Anonymous #1

OP

maturity is not judged on relationships!
thats just someone with alack of commonsense

Reply 52

The-Lennon

1

dattebayo - blurting out weird statements will just make people think you are a weirdo..... simple as that. Even if you think you are quirky........ most people will be turned off and they are probably laughing nervously.

Reply 53

Anonymous #1

OP

how can someone say that
ones ability to actually hold a relationship, it is unfair to relate it with maturity.

FOOL

Reply 54

goodmen

13

maturity is the most over used word on this board. Its mature to not have had a relationship, its mature not to drink its mature to be a virgin.

everytime you see a thread like this someone comes to try and make the op feel better by saying its so mature.

Reply 55

Kagutsuchi

20

The-Lennon

dattebayo - blurting out weird statements will just make people think you are a weirdo..... simple as that. Even if you think you are quirky........ most people will be turned off and they are probably laughing nervously.

When you say most people have you actually done statistics? Have you gone around asking people? NO! So it's safe you say, you know what you're talking about as much as you are a good person (which is obviously untrue). Nervous laughter? One can tell the difference betweem nervous laughter and real laughter. I have heard both and can differentiate. It's safe to say that it is really laughter. So as Anonymous User #1 said:

FOOL

Reply 56

Anonymous #1

OP

thank u all for ur support

Reply 57

Nix!

11

Anonymous

how can someone say that
ones ability to actually hold a relationship, it is unfair to relate it with maturity.

FOOL

Think about it. If someone has had a stupidly high number of relationships, don't you think that suggests there is something fundementally wrong with their ability to be stable?

Immaturity can be described through a medium of variables, including emotional maturity, that is the nature to understand people's emotions and the causes behind them. If someone is unable to hold onto a relationship it could relate to a lack of such maturity and such it is fair to relate.

You could argue that there are mitigating circumstances, yet such circumstances would present themselves as an obvious hinderance on the drive to maturity and as such the person, because they are not 'rounded' can be described as immature.

Do you see the POV now?

I never said it was one I believed in, merely that it exists.

Reply 58

Kagutsuchi

20

Anonymous

thank u all for ur support

no prob

Reply 59

Lucia.

16

The-Lennon

dattebayo - blurting out weird statements will just make people think you are a weirdo..... simple as that. Even if you think you are quirky........ most people will be turned off and they are probably laughing nervously.

meh..I wouldn't :p:

so there ya go!

People like people who are genuine. The End :smile:

20 and still never had a g/f

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