Why won't he tell his parents?

I'm been seeing someone for almost 3 months and since we live at uni halls, we've seen each other everyday since October and have been friends before dating. However, when he goes home with his family and friends, I'm 'just a friend'. I've told my parents about him, but he simply won't give his the hint. Why is that? Frustrating really. :confused:

Reply 1

username47781

Maybe he's just too shy to admit it to his parents.

Reply 2

scribble_girl

Hmm. Has he told his parents about girlfriends before, do you know? If they've never acknowledged him having a girlfriend, he might not be sure how to bring it up with them...

If however, he's had girlfriends back before as girlfriends, and he won't acknowledge your relationship in front of his parents, thats a bit funny.

Options:
a) Ask him about it
b) Let it lie for a while and reasses when it's more serious

You decide if it's bothering you enough to do a).
Although, I wouldn't stress. At the end of the day, if you're 18/19, it'd be much more worrying if he wouldn't acknowledge it in front of his friends or something, than in front of his parents... they don't have to feature in the agenda quite so much :smile:

Reply 3

Dionysus

Well for the first few weeks that's pretty normal in case things fall through, but 3 MONTHS? That's a little strange.

Reply 4

Nix!

I don't really talk to my parents about my relationships. I'm not embarassed or anything - my parents are very easy to talk to. I just don't really talk about it.

Although saying that, I'm extremely cynical of people who want to hide their relationship status due to something that happened to me. It's probably benign, but do treat with due caution.

Reply 5

Anonymous #2

Nix!

Although saying that, I'm extremely cynical of people who want to hide their relationship status due to something that happened to me. It's probably benign, but do treat with due caution.

Were you not the same person having a go at me on an other thread because I dumped my boyfriend after he removed his relationship status from his facebook profile??????? :confused:

Reply 6

General Mullet

I never talk with my parents about this kind of thing.

Reply 7

Nix!

Anonymous

Were you not the same person having a go at me on an other thread because I dumped my boyfriend after he removed his relationship status from his facebook profile??????? :confused:

Yes I am.

I take every situation with due merit. You overreacted and from experience, I know how facebook likes to 'misbehave' or have you still not realised what exactly I was 'having a go' about?

Reply 8

Sprockette

I've been seeing my bf for about 6 months and haven't told my parents. And I won't be telling them soon either, unless I get engaged or something, then I guess it'd be time lol I don't tell my parents anything as they wouldn't see it seriously. I've remembered them making cynical comments about anyone with a bf/gf since I was 10 and swore I'd never tell them anything!
Maybe his parents just aren't the kind that'd see it as serious or he might get annoyed at them asking qeustions or something...?

Reply 9

Kagutsuchi

Well when I first went out with my girlfriend, she invited me over for dinner and I met with her parents for the first time. I wsn't really sure about if they knew what I was to their daughter, but after dinner in the living room, the father asks "So is my daughter your first girlfriend" (I replied politely). So your boyfriend may have already told his parents about you, but is too shy to introduce you as a girlfriend in front of his parents. :smile:

Reply 10

Cherry Kisses

i think hes probly a bit shy about telling his parents things. as others have said, he probly doesnt know how to bring up the subject to them and is worried how they are going to react

Reply 11

nnkuk

I find it sooo difficult to tell my parents that sort of thing, they dont even know that I know any girls. Its just really hard, and sometimes you have so much on your plate without having to worry about the questions/comments you might get as a result, as playful as they maybe intended to be they can be quite annoying.

Reply 12

Nix!

Thanks for the neg Anon #2. My initial reaction judging you to be far younger than your years appears to be correct afterall. :rolleyes:

Reply 13

cheekylittleminx

Nix!

Thanks for the neg Anon #2. My initial reaction judging you to be far younger than your years appears to be correct afterall. :rolleyes:

Thats ridiculous - how can she neg rep you form something you said in anotyher thread just cos she recognised you in here?!!!
x

Reply 14

Anonymous #2

Nix!

Thanks for the neg Anon #2. My initial reaction judging you to be far younger than your years appears to be correct afterall. :rolleyes:

You're welcome, but I didn't neg rep you. Interesting how you can judge anonymous users on an internet forum. :biggrin:

Reply 15

Anonymous #3

Omg how annoying for you! Speak to him about it, my ex did the same, like for 5 months :rolleyes:

It was only till I talked to him that he realised, good luck x

Reply 16

Anonymous #1

OP here. He's told his parents about his previous gf, although that was like 3 years ago, but whatever. He doesn't acknowledge the relationship infront of our friends either b/c he thinks if something'll go sour, then they don't have to suffer the knowledge of that. So everything can go on as before if we both act civilly. Most of our friends know though, so I suppose that's not too much a problem anymore.

Reply 17

sweet_fluffy_nuke

gf's come and go. :smile:

Who can be bothered updating the parents about every one of them ? :rolleyes:

It would be nearly as bad as telling them each time you bought a new pair of shoes or had sex with someone new.

Reply 18

Anonymous #4

I'm in a relationship right now where my whole family ADORES my boyfriend, I don't think the relationship will last much longer, which means that not only is the break-up going to hurt me, but also my family who love him to bits.

I've been thinking about it a lot, and in future I'm going to keep my relationships to myself a lot more. Could it be that past experience has caused him to feel the same way?

Reply 19

Anonymous #1

Past experience maybe. Apparently she dates women now. Which I doubt can be good for anyone's esteem. But when you're 15, you are rather sexually confused so he's not to blame there.

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