Kissed my male friend..and now he just wants to be friends!! CONFUSED!

Hi, last week I got more close to one of my male friends who I've known for quite a while (I started liking him) and we started talking a lot more, we went out one night last week and we kind of kissed and I stayed around his place, but nothing more happened. After that he didn't even contact me, until the other day, where he said i'm a wiked girl etc etc but it was just LUST! and we should stay friends..I don't understand why guys do this? I mean did he do this by purpose?
cos he knows I'm not the girl to have lil flings like this. I left it at that, and didn't even get back to him cos I feel he messed me around :frown:

Reply 1

Bubblebee

15

Anonymous

Hi, last week I got more close to one of my male friends who I've known for quite a while (I started liking him) and we started talking a lot more, we went out one night last week and we kind of kissed and I stayed around his place, but nothing more happened. After that he didn't even contact me, until the other day, where he said i'm a wiked girl etc etc but it was just LUST! and we should stay friends..I don't understand why guys do this? I mean did he do this by purpose?
cos he knows I'm not the girl to have lil flings like this. I left it at that, and didn't even get back to him cos I feel he messed me around :frown:

No, he didn't do it on purpose and no he didn't mess you around. Sometimes people do stupid things when they are drunk and regret it, god knows I have.

Infact I'm going through a similar thing at the moment but I'm on the other side, just accept you kissed him and let it go... if you act all weird about it, chances are you won't stay friends for long.

At least he had the decency to tell you outright unlike I did, I waited and ignored him trying to think of the best way to let him down...and unfortunatly my friendship has suffered as a result.

Reply 2

Mafer

Well, it's hard to say, saometimes, people are slow in something like this. But still I think we need time to understand more...so just give him some time if there was any action...

Reply 3

tears

Hi there,

Maybe afterwards he realised that you shouldnt be kissing and that he doesnt want to anything more than just a friendhip. But then is a question: why he kissed you then?
I think the problem is that he doesnt want you friendship to suffer and he knows that if youll be together and then after some time something bad will happen he will loose you.

Reply 4

Louise88

I honestly don't think he meant for this to happen, so don't hold it against him. You two kissed each other and he realised that he was much more interested in your friendship rather than a relationship, there is nothing wrong with that. I realise that you must feel slightly led on and hurt but he was honest with you and you can't help but admire him for that. Many people ignore the fact that something like this happened and the friendship breaks down, they might not mean it to but it does. Consider yourself lucky that you have the choice of a friendship rather than being left with nothing. If you want to carry on with this friendship, you need to move on and try to forget about what happened. If you don't, it will always be there and it will put strain on your friendship and the friendship will be lost anyway.

Reply 5

ABeautifulMind

6

Theres nothing worse than a relationship ruining a friendship and he probably realised that.

Reply 6

username47781

20

Well least he didn't use you in bed, least he had the guts to tell you he didn't want anymore. Might be a little awkward for a while but I am sure your friendship with him will be fine.

Reply 7

chocol@tte

hey thats such a typical thing.... guys do this. really. they get off with a girl, then they want to forget everything and leave everything as it used to be before... but unfortunatelly sometimes one of the sides suffer if there r feelings involved...

Kissed my male friend..and now he just wants to be friends!! CONFUSED!

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