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    Hi all,

    I am due to move across the country to be with my partner whom I love so much. I love her to pieces, we're very close and have been engaged a year. Met at university.

    She moved in with her father post-uni, and decided to move into a rented house afterward, where I'd follow because there is plenty of opportunity where she is (big UK city).

    Problem is; I am starting to feel homesick already. Not necessarily the people, but the area, familiarity, the accent, the region. Everything is different here; the dialect, people are streetwise, it can be rough around edges. At home, I live in a leafy village, the people are friendly, its safer, people don't look at me like I'm an alien. I've lived in small places all my life, problem is, all the prospects are here for graduates.

    I have stress from worrying about our finances, trying to find a job:- the only job I can find are fast food/hotel work, which I've already done before graduating.

    I had a similar problem when I moved for university in 2011, I became ill and depressed so I moved back home (couldn't hack it). Went to my hometown uni. Now I am moved out with my mrs. but its happening again! :/
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    Hi all,

    I am due to move across the country to be with my partner whom I love so much. I love her to pieces, we're very close and have been engaged a year. Met at university.

    She moved in with her father post-uni, and decided to move into a rented house afterward, where I'd follow because there is plenty of opportunity where she is (big UK city).

    Problem is; I am starting to feel homesick already. Not necessarily the people, but the area, familiarity, the accent, the region. Everything is different here; the dialect, people are streetwise, it can be rough around edges. At home, I live in a leafy village, the people are friendly, its safer, people don't look at me like I'm an alien. I've lived in small places all my life, problem is, all the prospects are here for graduates.

    I have stress from worrying about our finances, trying to find a job:- the only job I can find are fast food/hotel work, which I've already done before graduating.

    I had a similar problem when I moved for university in 2011, I became ill and depressed so I moved back home (couldn't hack it). Went to my hometown uni. Now I am moved out with my mrs. but its happening again! :/
    I've not been in the same situation but is there anything you can do that might feel a bit more normal? It sounds like a huge change and really difficult to cope with, but if you can find some things the same or even go for walks and stuff to be more familiar with your surroundings then that could help. On a similar note, it could be helpful to get a job similar to one you've done before? I know it's not what you're looking for at all but if that gets you back into working, some money and out of the house (which is what I'm assuming you want- sorry if not) then that could be a really good thing, and you can continue looking for a graduate job once you're there. I can see why you might not want to though. You could also go back home for a few days or something but I think this can sometimes make things worse for people and them not wanting to go back afterwards so not sure. They're the only things I can think of anyway.
 
 
 
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