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    Heya so I am not enjoying Uni at all. It's only 4 weeks and I'm simply not interested in my course at all and I have skipped so many lectures/seminars because I simply don't want to go to them. Currently I'm pretty set on quitting, but I have no clue what I want to do if I'm not in uni. I'm not interested in academia at all, I have a job back at home but I don't want to be a bum all of my life - it's stacking shelves in a super market. I have no idea what my passions are and simply no idea what I want to do. Any advice would be greatly appreciated, because I'm really struggling now.
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    (Original post by Connzcdf)
    Heya so I am not enjoying Uni at all. It's only 4 weeks and I'm simply not interested in my course at all and I have skipped so many lectures/seminars because I simply don't want to go to them. Currently I'm pretty set on quitting, but I have no clue what I want to do if I'm not in uni. I'm not interested in academia at all, I have a job back at home but I don't want to be a bum all of my life - it's stacking shelves in a super market. I have no idea what my passions are and simply no idea what I want to do. Any advice would be greatly appreciated, because I'm really struggling now.
    If you skipping lectures and seminars, how can you not be enjoying your course? You're not attending class to actually know what is going on.

    It has only been 4 weeks. If I was you I would stick it out until Christmas and then decided whether or not to drop out. Research apprenticeships, take a year out and volunteer and maybe reapply to a course you might like better.
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    A few questions: which uni and degree?

    Why did you apply to this uni in the first place? Was it your first choice?

    What is it you are not enjoying - the social life? The content of the course? Having to manage your own time?

    Try to fast forward 5 years in your life. What do you think you would want to be doing? Living with parents or on your own? Working or not? Earning how much money? etc.
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    (Original post by chazwomaq)
    A few questions: which uni and degree?

    Why did you apply to this uni in the first place? Was it your first choice?

    What is it you are not enjoying - the social life? The content of the course? Having to manage your own time?

    Try to fast forward 5 years in your life. What do you think you would want to be doing? Living with parents or on your own? Working or not? Earning how much money? etc.
    1: Swansea Uni, War and Society.

    2: I liked military history, and I don't really know why I actually picked it, I just did as my first choice.

    3: I'm not enjoying managing my own time and the majority of the course content.

    4: And I don't know, that's the part I'm mainly struggling with - not knowing what I want to do.
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    I know this may sound excessively harsh, but do you think you are mature enough to go to uni? I am not doubting that you got great A-Level results and you got into the course you dreamt of since you were 5, but to actually get involved it does take a great deal of sacrifice. Do you feel capable of doing that? Of sacrificing hours you could potentially spend in front of a computer for the sake of going to uni? If not, I would suggest you to talk with your GP. Maybe it could be depression or any recurring mental health issues which may have suddenly appeared out of nowhere and you're just hanging on to it by your nails.

    Once you rule out any mental health issues, and if you're still apathetic, then maybe it wasn't the time for you to go to university. It wouldn't be the first time that has happended nor the last. And it only goes to show that maybe, students are off to uni too soon. Stick to it as long as you can, and if not, pack up and go home. You weren't ready to deal with the pressure of university, so maybe it wasn't the time for you to go. Work, get into apprenticeship schemes, do extra A-Levels. And then once you feel ready to go back, re-apply and do whatever you want with your life.
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    Thanks. First I would say that many students feel like you at the start of their degrees. I also considered dropping out after the first term. I didn't in the end, and I am extremely glad I didn't. In general, your life will be better with a degree than without one. Ultimately, 3 years is not that long in terms of your whole life (but at age 18 it certainly feels like it!). 3 years stacking shelves can also be pretty disheartening.

    So I would recommend sticking it out definitely until Christmas, and definitely until you have submitted some work and had it marked with feedback, so you can tell how well you're doing. That will show you whether you are really struggling as much as you think.

    You could think about transferring to another course, if you think that would make you happier. But I would recommend trying to wait until the end of the year to make an informed decision.

    In the meantime, is there an academic advisor you could talk to? Or a student counsellor or something similar?
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    (Original post by Connzcdf)
    Heya so I am not enjoying Uni at all. It's only 4 weeks and I'm simply not interested in my course at all and I have skipped so many lectures/seminars because I simply don't want to go to them. Currently I'm pretty set on quitting, but I have no clue what I want to do if I'm not in uni. I'm not interested in academia at all, I have a job back at home but I don't want to be a bum all of my life - it's stacking shelves in a super market. I have no idea what my passions are and simply no idea what I want to do. Any advice would be greatly appreciated, because I'm really struggling now.
    This is how most people feel when they first start uni - so don't worry about it at all.

    Also, the more you over analyse your life, the worse things can feel. I think you just need to relax and go with the flow for a bit. Do something fun that you enjoy, like treat yourself to a film or something.

    You're only a month in and it is going to be extremely overwhelming. But gradually, without trying or thinking about it, you will adjust, I promise.

    You just have so much to take in in the first few months. New place to live away from family, away from friends, new course that can seem confusing at first, organising your own time etc. Anyone would find some of that too much!

    So, my advice to you is, do not put pressure on yourself. No one knows what they want to do at your age. You chose the course for a reason and you should give it a go and hang in there at least until after Christmas. Then you have given it a good run, will have had a break back with family and friends and can let it all just soak in a bit more.

    You are perfectly mature and capable enough to be at university, you are just going through a big adjustment period. And whether it looks like it or not, most other people around you are going through the same thing.

    p.s. when you say you aren't going to lectures because you don't enjoy them, is that definitely the reason or are you nervous about going with all the new people? You should try going to a few, it will help you find it more exciting as you will start to understand more.
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    (Original post by Connzcdf)
    3: I'm not enjoying managing my own time
    TBH, the days when other people will manage your time for you, ended with school. Even in the workplace, you'll be given a job to do and left to get on with it.

    You can't "enjoy" your course if you never go to lectures etc. and you basically don't do it. The reality is that you can be thrown off your course for not engaging with it, as early as the end of this term. If you're considered a complete no-hoper, it's better for the uni to get rid of you before you appear as a failure on their exam results. Given that prospect, it may be better for you to leave of your own volition so that your CV looks better in future.
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    (Original post by Connzcdf)
    1: Swansea Uni, War and Society.

    2: I liked military history, and I don't really know why I actually picked it, I just did as my first choice.

    3: I'm not enjoying managing my own time and the majority of the course content.

    4: And I don't know, that's the part I'm mainly struggling with - not knowing what I want to do.
    Haha at Swansea University too, do you like the University?

    I have also had a serious think about quitting, but have decided to stay until Christmas, after all it isin't even that far away now, only 7 weeks after this one!
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    (Original post by Connzcdf)
    Heya so I am not enjoying Uni at all. It's only 4 weeks and I'm simply not interested in my course at all and I have skipped so many lectures/seminars because I simply don't want to go to them. Currently I'm pretty set on quitting, but I have no clue what I want to do if I'm not in uni. I'm not interested in academia at all, I have a job back at home but I don't want to be a bum all of my life - it's stacking shelves in a super market. I have no idea what my passions are and simply no idea what I want to do. Any advice would be greatly appreciated, because I'm really struggling now.
    Hi buddy,

    I dropped out of uni a few times too. I suggest you drop out of uni before it starts making you depressed. Just go back to your job at home and explore your options from a comfortable environment so you don't rush into the whole uni thing. My brother is doing an apprenticeship. You could look into that? I helped out a few people on this thread sharing my experience. Have a look on there if you haven't already done so and feel free to give me a pm if you want me to share my uni experiences.

    http://www.thestudentroom.co.uk/show....php?t=2516492
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    (Original post by TheRaspberry)
    Haha at Swansea University too, do you like the University?

    I have also had a serious think about quitting, but have decided to stay until Christmas, after all it isin't even that far away now, only 7 weeks after this one!
    Just keep in mind that if you drop out before xmas and get all the paperwork done you won't have to pay fees for this year because it'll be classed as a failed year. If you quit after xmas you might have to pay half fees (£4.5k). If you are serious about quitting I would deffo ring the student loans company and find out what you are liable to be charged for if you drop out before and after xmas.
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    Just keep in mind that if you drop out before xmas and get all the paperwork done you won't have to pay fees for this year because it'll be classed as a failed year. If you quit after xmas you might have to pay half fees (£4.5k). If you are serious about quitting I would deffo ring the student loans company and find out what you are liable to be charged for if you drop out before and after xmas.
    I thought if you've attended the first term you're liable for 25% of the tuition fees.


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    I thought if you've attended the first term you're liable for 25% of the tuition fees.


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    I dropped out 10 years ago when rules were different. Call the student loans company for the most up to date info.
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    I thought if you've attended the first term you're liable for 25% of the tuition fees.
    This is the case. You are only excused paying tuition fees completely if you drop out really early in the academic year - usually a week or two after enrolling.

    Even if you fail a year, you will still have to repay Maintenance payments as well. If you drop out during the year, you will have to immediately repay any Maintenance Loan/Grant up to your leaving date, as a lump sum (although in reality, SF will negotiate a gradual repayment plan).
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    Hi, OP I'm in the same situation, but I'm studying history and i'm just hating it. I applied late for my modules, so didn't get a choice and had to go where there was space. I'm completely and utterly not interested in my course and my accommodation is ****. I would drop out right now, take a year out, get my driving licence and think about what i really want to do, but something is holding me back. I don't want to stay here a week longer, but for some reason I feel that i should stick it out for a few more weeks, at least try and do my essays.
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    (Original post by Connzcdf)
    Heya so I am not enjoying Uni at all. It's only 4 weeks and I'm simply not interested in my course at all and I have skipped so many lectures/seminars because I simply don't want to go to them. Currently I'm pretty set on quitting, but I have no clue what I want to do if I'm not in uni. I'm not interested in academia at all, I have a job back at home but I don't want to be a bum all of my life - it's stacking shelves in a super market. I have no idea what my passions are and simply no idea what I want to do. Any advice would be greatly appreciated, because I'm really struggling now.
    Hello,
    The Student Wellbeing Service at Swansea University is really helpful, please have a look at their web page for more information on the services they provide - www.swansea.ac.uk/wellbeing
    If you aren't happy with your course, please discuss this directly with your department and also the MyUni Hub based on both of our campuses. Regarding Student Finance, tuition fees are charged depending on when you withdraw from the University. The Money Advice and Support Office will be able to help you further - www.swansea.ac.uk/money-advice/contactusI hope this helps, if you have any questions please let us know!
 
 
 

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