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    I have friends, but they're not close friends. Like I can't open up to them properly and they already have their own friendship groups where they all hang out together. I've always had difficulty making friends at uni.. i hate the uni that i'm at, and the people at my uni are very different to me :/ it's hard to explain..

    i used to have a group of close friends, but i have slowly drifted away from them because things changed, and they've all graduated. i feel jealous when i see other girls hanging out together having a good time.. i wish i had friends like that, where we do everything together..

    recently i've felt soo lonely, and i get really emotional and cry especially at night :/
    today i was sat alone and i couldn't control my emotions and started crying... so weird. i'm just glad no one saw me.

    does anyone else feel the same way???
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    I felt the same way as you about a year ago as I had no one who I felt I could be myself around, but when we mixed classes, I was determined to make a new set of friends who I could keep for a long time.
    I think you just need to find new people who you can start again with and put in effort to make friends with them. Don't worry about whether they already have friends because if you are a nice enough person (which I'm sure you are!), you will be able to become close with them really easily.
    Don't hang around people who don't make you feel happy; you can come back to them later if you want when you have more confidence on making friends
    So, be determined, positive and smiley and don't compare yourself to others as it only makes you feel worse.
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    (Original post by booyahkasha)
    I have friends, but they're not close friends. Like I can't open up to them properly and they already have their own friendship groups where they all hang out together. I've always had difficulty making friends at uni.. i hate the uni that i'm at, and the people at my uni are very different to me :/ it's hard to explain..

    i used to have a group of close friends, but i have slowly drifted away from them because things changed, and they've all graduated. i feel jealous when i see other girls hanging out together having a good time.. i wish i had friends like that, where we do everything together..

    recently i've felt soo lonely, and i get really emotional and cry especially at night :/
    today i was sat alone and i couldn't control my emotions and started crying... so weird. i'm just glad no one saw me.

    does anyone else feel the same way???

    Nah not really I am a very extroverted character, but I am male. :/

    I get along with females way more than males, due to the constant personality clash.

    PM if you want to speak, my sister is the same she's very introvert, but only opens herself around me mainly because I am quite open and lively.

    Maybe you need to be more flexible in terms of your interests and hobbies and not so reclusive as that may hold you back, the more you integrate and ask yourself why does this girl have so many friends?

    If you know why, then sometimes it's best to fake it till you make it. Just become a carbon copy.

    Remember uni is a challenging both academically and socially, just blend with the blender and don't fight it, and everything will be cool like coconut juice.:top:
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    (Original post by booyahkasha)
    I have friends, but they're not close friends. Like I can't open up to them properly and they already have their own friendship groups where they all hang out together. I've always had difficulty making friends at uni.. i hate the uni that i'm at, and the people at my uni are very different to me :/ it's hard to explain..

    i used to have a group of close friends, but i have slowly drifted away from them because things changed, and they've all graduated. i feel jealous when i see other girls hanging out together having a good time.. i wish i had friends like that, where we do everything together..

    recently i've felt soo lonely, and i get really emotional and cry especially at night :/
    today i was sat alone and i couldn't control my emotions and started crying... so weird. i'm just glad no one saw me.

    does anyone else feel the same way???
    Sometimes I do feel the same way but I always try my hardest not to feel as if it is a big deal. I think this helps me to deal with it. I talk to people whenever I can which makes me feel better. I also made myself learn that no matter how atrocious the situation may appear to be, it isn't as bad as I think it is. I usually try to relax by listening to music, reading, writing or drawing to feel less stressed and to calm down. Then, I try to determine what I should do next. I don't know if I was just lucky, if you believe that luck exists, but I decided to try to speak to more people and get involved in more social groups and events. Eventually, people were a bit more friendly and approached me more often. After a few more weeks, I actually had more friends who I could just sit with and talk to.
    I think that the key part of it is not giving up. I did once think that nothing would get better and that I'd forever stay in the dark. But after changing my ways a bit and giving it a lot of time, things changed and I saw the light. I guess what I needed at the time was simply not to feel so alone and worthless. I hope that you won't give up because no matter how alone you feel, I will be here and I believe in you.
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    Hi
    I feel exactly the same. I've always had trouble making friends. Secondary school was crap for me because I had like 2 friends he whole time I was there. College so far hasn't been much better. I literally spend my breaks and free periods by myself in the library.
    Don't worry you're not alone
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    Sometimes you just need a hug :hugs:....
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    (Original post by booyahkasha)
    I have friends, but they're not close friends. Like I can't open up to them properly and they already have their own friendship groups where they all hang out together. I've always had difficulty making friends at uni.. i hate the uni that i'm at, and the people at my uni are very different to me :/ it's hard to explain..

    i used to have a group of close friends, but i have slowly drifted away from them because things changed, and they've all graduated. i feel jealous when i see other girls hanging out together having a good time.. i wish i had friends like that, where we do everything together..

    recently i've felt soo lonely, and i get really emotional and cry especially at night :/
    today i was sat alone and i couldn't control my emotions and started crying... so weird. i'm just glad no one saw me.

    does anyone else feel the same way???
    That sounds boring. :/
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    (Original post by booyahkasha)
    I have friends, but they're not close friends. Like I can't open up to them properly and they already have their own friendship groups where they all hang out together. I've always had difficulty making friends at uni.. i hate the uni that i'm at, and the people at my uni are very different to me :/ it's hard to explain..

    i used to have a group of close friends, but i have slowly drifted away from them because things changed, and they've all graduated. i feel jealous when i see other girls hanging out together having a good time.. i wish i had friends like that, where we do everything together..

    recently i've felt soo lonely, and i get really emotional and cry especially at night :/
    today i was sat alone and i couldn't control my emotions and started crying... so weird. i'm just glad no one saw me.

    does anyone else feel the same way???
    i feel this way a lot, i only have one person irl i consider to be a friend. i have had friends before but we drifted apart over time and now it is difficult to meet new people as they already have their own friends so don't tend to borther branching out that much.
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    Story of my life. im now in my early twenties and i feel my life is going to greatly suffer as a result of my lack of friends, at times i've said to myself friends are'nt a neccessity and I can get on with life without any but at the same time thats really gonna effect me in a lot of ways.

    Most people meet through mutiual friends so finding a partner and having kids is ultimately going to be very difficult if i dont find a way to change my situation.
    It can be a catch 22 as you can try and make friends but the majority of people already have their own social groups,they dont need someone like me to add to it.
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    (Original post by kristen2)
    Hi
    I feel exactly the same. I've always had trouble making friends. Secondary school was crap for me because I had like 2 friends he whole time I was there. College so far hasn't been much better. I literally spend my breaks and free periods by myself in the library.
    Don't worry you're not alone
    same here! i had a realllyyyy good friend in highschool but unfortunately we went to different colleges. I used to hand around with a group at college, we had fun times but i always felt like i didn't fit in. :/
    uni so far has been the worst experience of my life. i can't wait to graduate. i want a fresh start
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    (Original post by chelseafreak)
    i feel this way a lot, i only have one person irl i consider to be a friend. i have had friends before but we drifted apart over time and now it is difficult to meet new people as they already have their own friends so don't tend to borther branching out that much.
    wow same here! it's so annoying. everyone already has friends who they've known for years! and i feel weird if i randomly start hanging around with their friendship groups. i'm starting to think i'll never have my own friendship group.
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    (Original post by chosenone93)
    Story of my life. im now in my early twenties and i feel my life is going to greatly suffer as a result of my lack of friends, at times i've said to myself friends are'nt a neccessity and I can get on with life without any but at the same time thats really gonna effect me in a lot of ways.

    Most people meet through mutiual friends so finding a partner and having kids is ultimately going to be very difficult if i dont find a way to change my situation.
    It can be a catch 22 as you can try and make friends but the majority of people already have their own social groups,they dont need someone like me to add to it.
    i agree, i'm also in my early 20's and i used to think i don't need friends if i have family. but it's nice to have people other than family who you can open up to and tell things you wouldn't tell your sisters.
    but not having proper friends has actually had a big effect on me :/ i have no idea how i'm going to find a group of friends. i'm not antisocial. i socialise at uni, i go to societies and talk to people. but i can't just tag along with their group of friends.
    it's annoying.
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    (Original post by booyahkasha)
    wow same here! it's so annoying. everyone already has friends who they've known for years! and i feel weird if i randomly start hanging around with their friendship groups. i'm starting to think i'll never have my own friendship group.
    That's what I tell people on TSR who ask how to make friends in Uni. It's tricky but I like your name. So Ali G lol
 
 
 
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