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not seeing your other half

it sounds pathetic, i know some people go a long long time without seeing their other half and this is only for the easter holidays.

i am absolutely gutted that my boyfriend has gone home, i can't see him for at least three weeks and i actually feel physically ill not being with him.

we are inseparable normally and this is quite a shock to the system.

can anybody give me any advice on how i can feel better?

Reply 1

ßlαcksωαn

17

Many phone calls!

Reply 2

Kagutsuchi

20

awwww, you're sweet :hugs:

(to anonymous)

Perhaps this can be counted as training :wink:

for future life, you know?

I suggest you invite your friends over and maybe socialise with other people, but don't do anything you may regret :redface:

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I suggest you take up yoga lessons for 3 weeks. That way, you'll look more desirable; making your boyfriend melt at your feet :biggrin:

Have fun for 3 weeks! :wink:

Reply 3

Nenime

I'm in the same situation - not going to see my boyfriend for almost 4 weeks over easter either.
Just keep yourself busy with work/studies, go shopping, meet up with other friends if any are available, play games/sports if you enjoy those things etc. You get the idea, just distract yourself when you feel like you miss him.
Keep in touch through phonecalls and/or msn - webcams are great if you have one as you get to see his face!
It will go faster than you think, and you will probably find you appreciate him that much more when you see him again!

Reply 4

ten bob

Anonymous

it sounds pathetic, i know some people go a long long time without seeing their other half and this is only for the easter holidays.

i am absolutely gutted that my boyfriend has gone home, i can't see him for at least three weeks and i actually feel physically ill not being with him.

we are inseparable normally and this is quite a shock to the system.

can anybody give me any advice on how i can feel better?

I agree.

FFS make the effort and go see him, or get him to come to you.

Reply 5

Anonymous #2

im not sure probably lots of calls and texts but give him some space, i live with my boyfriend and have done for two years now so i know how hard it is if one of us has to go somewhere away for even a week its so hard

Reply 6

Francophobia

1

Calls and texts can start to be a little costly -- I find that MSN and email are just as efficient, and FREE.

Reply 7

Anonymous #1

OP

ten bob

I agree.

FFS make the effort and go see him, or get him to come to you.

that's a bit harsh, what if it's not possible?

i don't have any money and nor does he, plus i have to go to see my family in spain where there is no means of communicating him for a week, or at least without great cost.

Reply 8

Carreh

2

gosh 3 weeks. try 3 months. Yes it is very sweet, but its not the end of the world is it? Take some time out, spoil yourself, go out with friends etc.

Reply 9

Tag

8

^ yup yup. a lot of people don't understand. But when you see your other half all day through school and are in most of the same lessons, spend lunch together, see each other in the afternoon and most eveining, as well as calling each other every day, emailing, talking on msn, and spend weekends and holidays together, it IS a big shock when they go. It's like saying it's weird if your parents go away for the weekend, nobody has a go at you for that.

all i can say is, keep in touch and get a hobby. I struggled at the start of this year when my boyfriend went to uni, but I started at college and then got a bass and made new friends, it's easy once you get into it. of course i still miss him, but now i really look forward to seeing him when I do and we argue a lot less because we don't wee each other often. Make the effort to go out and do things, something you've been wanting to do for a while. That way, you'll have achieved something, had a good easter and have lots to talk about when he ges back. and you won't feel like you've spent two weeks moping around wasting time.

Reply 10

ten bob

Physically sick though?

If you were that into each other you'd have sorted something out. Then again, maybe you're more in love with him that he is with you? You do sound a little obsessive...

Reply 11

*starry_eyed_*

14

I know how you feel OP. I've been able to see my boyfriend everyday if I want to, seeing as we're both at uni. Easter holidays are a month, and i'm going home a few days early. I plan to just see my friends as much as possible, along with concentrate on studying and my job.

Reply 12

Arteta

15

Yeah i've been in a similar situation, you probably shouldn't try to see him, and don't contact him like 408784067 times a day. It's hard but try and channel your feelings into doing something productive, try to forget about things. But don't lose contact all together, what i'd do in your situation is to make the other person excited about seeing you next...so he'll hopefully spend his time missing you, then when you see eachother again it'll be special.

Just my $0.02.

Reply 13

welshprincess

1

My other half lives near Bath so i sometimes go a month without seeing him and then other times i might see him twice in one month it varies. Its always difficult being away from him but i try and talk to him as much as i possibly can while he'a away and i try and occupy myself with other things like seeing friends or schoolwork ohh and shopping that always helps hehe. I just do things that i enjoy that will make the time go faster. I also do a countdown til i see him so i'm counting down the days, believe it or not it actually helps :smile:

xx<3

Reply 14

hippieglitter

19

If you think easter is a long time for you think how it will be in the summer. Three weeks isn't that long comapred to the 9 weeks (if you're at secondary school) or 3/4 months (if your at uni) you'll have. I was worried about my first summer without my boyfriend but it was ok he came over (sometimes unexpected) i went to stay with him and we ended up seeing each other approx. every two weeks which we hadn't planned. Time apart is good, it puts the relationship into perspective and gives each party some time to breathe.

Reply 15

Anonymous #1

OP

over the summer we are both staying at uni anyway so that won't be a problem.

thank you for those (most!) constructive comments. as for ten bob, i sincerely hope you don't have an other half.