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    I feel like I'm invisible. I have one friend. It's not like I don't make the move because I do, I go out of my way to be friendly/help people and what do I get back? Nothing.

    I even try to talk to people over text and guess what? They ignore me.
    I sit with a group in school because my friend is friends with them. She always gets invited to stuff and me, I just hang around in the shadows.

    Everyone tells me to be myself and it doesn't work, ever, I feel crying. I hate it. I just wish I had a life.
    Just seeing myself people my age going out, having fun makes me feel worthless.
    What am I doing wrong? I'm ugly? Why can't people just give me a chance.. Are people just racist still without making a big deal out of it? I'm Indian..
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    I feel like I'm invisible. I have one friend. It's not like I don't make the move because I do, I go out of my way to be friendly/help people and what do I get back? Nothing.

    I even try to talk to people over text and guess what? They ignore me.
    I sit with a group in school because my friend is friends with them. She always gets invited to stuff and me, I just hang around in the shadows.

    Everyone tells me to be myself and it doesn't work, ever, I feel crying. I hate it. I just wish I had a life.
    Just seeing myself people my age going out, having fun makes me feel worthless.
    What am I doing wrong? I'm ugly? Why can't people just give me a chance.. Are people just racist still without making a big deal out of it? I'm Indian..
    If you go out of your way to be friendly, then it's unusual that people seem so hostile towards you. What constitutes as 'being friendly' in your books?

    If you just 'hang around in the shadows', as you put it, then you shouldn't be surprised if people ignore you. You do need to put yourself out there and make friends. Just talk to people. It may be scary, but remember that if you're being warm and friendly and they're not getting the hint, it's their problem and not yours.

    If you feel worthless about not going out, perhaps invite some people with whom you feel friendly out into town or somewhere yourself. It doesn't have to be a big party, but spending time with others outside of school will help cement friendship bonds and help you feel more at ease.

    It's important to be yourself. Your real friends will make friends with you for who you are, not for who you pretend to be.

    If all else fails, just remember that you're still very young and when you leave school, you have your whole life to make a new circle of friends and meet tons of new people
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    The thing is you have to be yourself because in a friendship or relationship sooner or later the person is going to see the real you.

    I agree with what the other poster said school can be a very awkward time and it is really a narrow environment compared to the rest of the world. The way people respond to you in the wider world will not be the same as within the school gates.
 
 
 
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