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    I'm in a LDR whilst my boyfriend studies abroad for a 18 months!!
    I absolutely love my boyfriend, he's amazing and I'd never cheat on him but it's seriously difficult to not look at other guys during this time and imagine having sex with them. I just want a one night stand... (In my head)
    I tried to bring it up with him because I believe in honesty but obviously he wasn't happy to talk about it and just told me that he doesn't look at other girls at all...
    He makes me feel like a terrible person but surely it's natural? Does this mean that I'm not really in love because I can separate the two things?
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    I'm in an LDR and don't think about ****ing other guys. You're clearly not happy in the relationship or you wouldn't want to cheat.
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    "I absolutely love my boyfriend" clearly if you want to shag another guy this isn't true...
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    Yes. You're not really in love. You don't deserve him.

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    You can separate sexual attraction to romantic attraction.


    It's like how someone can come across porn and get turned on but it doesn't mean you love them or that you're unhappy in a relationship.

    It just means you want a wild experience of sexual pleasure but you feel guilty thinking about that because you love your boyfriend.
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    (Original post by JustDynamite)
    "I absolutely love my boyfriend" clearly if you want to shag another guy this isn't true...
    The fact that I love him is the only reason why I haven't. It's why I'm wondering if I'm not 'in-love' with him.
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    You have the morals of a man..
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    (Original post by DebbyDowner)
    The fact that I love him is the only reason why I haven't. It's why I'm wondering if I'm not 'in-love' with him.
    You said "I just want a one night stand". Let that sink in

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    (Original post by Zarek)
    You have the morals of a man..
    No, she just wants sex. 'Morals of a man' means nothing! Women have sex drives to y'know...
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    (Original post by Captivated)
    Yes. You're not really in love. You don't deserve him.

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    Calm down dear! I haven't cheated on him, I have a right to have sexual desires and be honest about it. If I decided that I needed to be with another guy more than I wanted to stay in this relationship that wouldn't make me a bad person, it's just how it is.
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    (Original post by DebbyDowner)
    I'm in a LDR whilst my boyfriend studies abroad for a 18 months!!
    I absolutely love my boyfriend, he's amazing and I've never cheated on him but it's seriously difficult to not look at other guys during this time and imagine having sex with them. I just want a one night stand...
    I tried to bring it up with him because I believe in honesty but obviously he wasn't happy to talk about it and just told me that he doesn't look at other girls at all...
    He makes me feel like a terrible person but surely it's natural? Does this mean that I'm not really in love because I can separate the two things?
    This guy has some kind of magical powers...
    It is natural. But what exactly do you want him to say/do?
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    (Original post by DebbyDowner)
    I'm in a LDR whilst my boyfriend studies abroad for a 18 months!!
    I absolutely love my boyfriend, he's amazing and I've never cheated on him but it's seriously difficult to not look at other guys during this time and imagine having sex with them. I just want a one night stand...
    I tried to bring it up with him because I believe in honesty but obviously he wasn't happy to talk about it and just told me that he doesn't look at other girls at all...
    He makes me feel like a terrible person but surely it's natural? Does this mean that I'm not really in love because I can separate the two things?
    mehh, i think if you should end the relationship if you want to shag another guy so bad tbh. Better to do out of a relationship than within. If you loved your boyfriend tben you wouldn't want to shag another guy. Perhaps you are not sexually attracted to your boyfriend. I thinm that you and your boyfriend would be better of being friends.
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    I understand guilty thinking but you do realize that if you go through with this your cheating on him? If you do love him then I guarantee the guilt will get worse and worse as your relationship progresses.
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    Hire a male escort .....
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    (Original post by Captivated)
    You said "I just want a one night stand". Let that sink in

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    If my boyfriend was physically here, I'd have sex with him instead but he isn't. So yes, I do just want a one night stand. I want to have non romantic sex with a man that doesn't want anything more because emotionally I'm connected to my boyfriend.
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    OP talk to him about this. Personally if I felt that way I would just leave the guy. Cheating won't be fair on him
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    (Original post by DebbyDowner)
    I'm in a LDR whilst my boyfriend studies abroad for a 18 months!!
    I absolutely love my boyfriend, he's amazing and I've never cheated on him but it's seriously difficult to not look at other guys during this time and imagine having sex with them. I just want a one night stand...
    I tried to bring it up with him because I believe in honesty but obviously he wasn't happy to talk about it and just told me that he doesn't look at other girls at all...
    He makes me feel like a terrible person but surely it's natural? Does this mean that I'm not really in love because I can separate the two things?
    Just buy the most disturbing didlo off Amazon and you'll be good - you get all the sexual satisfaction and guilt/shame without hurting your boyfriends feelings!
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    Contrary to what some people may have you believe, being in a relationship doesn't make you blind and stop you from finding other people attractive and feeling lust for them.

    I'm sure many people fantasise about screwing others while in a relationship but if it gets to the point that you're actually contemplating doing it then you may want to question the nature of your relationship.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    This guy has some kind of magical powers...
    It is natural. But what exactly do you want him to say/do?
    I want him to fly back here and fck me Lol! or at least be honest and make me feel less evil
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    (Original post by JustDynamite)
    I understand guilty thinking but you do realize that if you go through with this your cheating on him? If you do love him then I guarantee the guilt will get worse and worse as your relationship progresses.
    I wouldn't cheat on him! If anything we'd break up, im just saying this is how I feel and it makes me wonder if that's natural or if it means it's not 'real forever love'.
 
 
 
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