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    I need to talk to a counselor, I need help and support. But I have tried contacting every rape crisis centre, every helpline, everything, and they all refused to talk to me because I am male, they only help women. I can't get in touch with a charity that helps male rape survivors because the government has cut all spending on support for male rape survivors. Who the **** do I talk to?? I am a mess, I can't sleep can't eat can't work, it is killing me inside.

    I have been trying to talk to just a normal cousnelor but I have been on their waiting list for 10 months and nothing is happening
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    Have you tried mankind, survivors uk? There are a few which provide support. I'm sorry you had to go through that experience, male or female rape is rape and no one should be turned away from support.
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    I'm sorry to hear this OP

    Are you in university? Can you get the administrator for some urgent help?

    Really hope you will get the help you deserve!
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    (Original post by AlohaCharlotte)
    Have you tried mankind, survivors uk? There are a few which provide support. I'm sorry you had to go through that experience, male or female rape is rape and no one should be turned away from support.
    yeah I've tried them but they are virtually dead as they have no money so they can't help.
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    Have you been to the police ? They can help you by refering you to some services. Btw was it guy/guy rape or girl/guy ?

    http://www.rapecrisislondon.org/cont...-organisations
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I need to talk to a counselor, I need help and support. But I have tried contacting every rape crisis centre, every helpline, everything, and they all refused to talk to me because I am male, they only help women. I can't get in touch with a charity that helps male rape survivors because the government has cut all spending on support for male rape survivors. Who the **** do I talk to?? I am a mess, I can't sleep can't eat can't work, it is killing me inside.

    I have been trying to talk to just a normal cousnelor but I have been on their waiting list for 10 months and nothing is happening
    http://rapecrisis.org.uk/supportformenboys.php
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    (Original post by kka25)
    I'm sorry to hear this OP

    Are you in university? Can you get the administrator for some urgent help?

    Really hope you will get the help you deserve!
    no I am in full time employment. I dont know how I can speed up my place on the waiting list for the regular counsellor even if they are not specialised in this type of support. I just need someone to talk to, I cant tell my friends as I feel too ashamed and embarassed
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    I am so so sorry. This breaks my heart.
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    Don't bother with the counsellor crap. Go straight to the police.
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    Here is a list of help available, depending on which part of the country you are in.

    http://rapecrisis.org.uk/centres.php
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    Sorry to hear about your situation. I'm sure there will be counselling available for your situation.. Report the incident to the police too. Hope things get better for you x
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    Actually ****ing shocked at the lack of help for men and the amount of "women and girls only" centres.
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    They only help females? That's disgusting. I never knew this. I'm sorry that you had to go through that OP, normally I would say contact Rape crisis but I am actually shocked at this. I hope someone can offer you some good help.
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    (Original post by redleader1)
    Have you been to the police ? They can help you by refering you to some services. Btw was it guy/guy rape or girl/guy ?

    http://www.rapecrisislondon.org/cont...-organisations
    Sorry to butt in here with something irrelevant, but under UK law only men are capable of committing rape. Nevertheless, women can still be liable for sexual assault.
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    (Original post by TheonlyMrsHolmes)
    They only help females? That's disgusting. I never knew this. I'm sorry that you had to go through that OP, normally I would say contact Rape crisis but I am actually shocked at this. I hope someone can offer you some good help.

    From my quick google, I found 3 centres that catered for men and boys, all the rest Woman and girls- so youre looking at 90% female centric.
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    (Original post by Bupdeeboowah)
    Sorry to butt in here with something irrelevant, but under UK law only men are capable of committing rape. Nevertheless, women can still be liable for sexual assault.

    Well done Mr Sensitive.If OP wasnt suicidal before he probably is now. Thoughtless ****-stain
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    (Original post by amibee)
    Well done Mr Sensitive.If OP wasnt suicidal before he probably is now. Thoughtless ****-stain
    Thank you. I do appreciate it when others note my compassion.
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    (Original post by Bupdeeboowah)
    Thank you. I do appreciate it when others note my compassion.
    such a p rick
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    (Original post by amibee)
    Well done Mr Sensitive.If OP wasnt suicidal before he probably is now. Thoughtless ****-stain
    He is just stating what the law is (and how outdated and in need to change it is). Women still can not be prosecuted for rape, only sexual assault.
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    lol, who goes: oh ive been raped, the first thing ill do is post on TSR lol
 
 
 
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