Does this mean he's done with me?

Me and my on off guy have had fun together but recently he's seemed disinterested. No calls or texts. Called him but no answer so left a voicemail on his phone about 4 days ago saying 'I hoped he was ok and that he seemed distant.'

Again no reply till now.

What shall I do I really like him? He's done this before and then came back after about 7/8 weeks.

I want him to come back. I just wanna have fun with him - not a relationship. Shall I text him in a few weeks implying the doors always open or just leave it?

Reply 1

bunthulhu

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Anonymous

Me and my on off guy have had fun together but recently he's seemed disinterested. No calls or texts. Called him but no answer so left a voicemail on his phone about 4 days ago saying 'I hoped he was ok and that he seemed distant.'

Again no reply till now.

What shall I do I really like him? He's done this before and then came back after about 7/8 weeks.

I want him to come back. I just wanna have fun with him - not a relationship. Shall I text him in a few weeks implying the doors always open or just leave it?

Are you really that desperate? :s-smilie:

Why don't you find someone who's actually interested in you?

Reply 2

ten bob

Ahem, bunny boiler....

Reply 3

blondielilangel

He's done this before and then came back after about 7/8 weeks

I think that says it all - sorry, but its really not worth the effort IMO. It doesnt sound that he really cares that much, the fact that he waits almost 2 months before getting back to u. Sounds a bit as though hes playing u for a fool. Dont let him do it anymore. It may well be hard if u really like him, but u need to leave it. Find someone who wont mess u around & treat u properly.
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Reply 4

Francophobia

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If he's done this before, then he'll do it again -- it's a cycle. He'll come back to you, you'll have fun, and then he'll go away again before coming back a few weeks later and repeating the entire process.
My advice is to find someone who is reliable and committed, and who treats you with respect -- you may well discover that you like someone who treats you well a lot better than your current guy.

Reply 5

Anonymous #1

OP

Girls, I know what your saying. I'm not desperate I'm lonely. I go to a uni full of girls about 3:1 girl:guy and they are all toffs so when I get a guy I like I feel like I should try keep him.

Tell me should I text him or not. Part of me is thinking stay strong and don't. How can I be a bloody bunny boiler if I 'm not always calling/texting to whoever said that.

Sad thing is even if this is a cycle I wouldn't care as long as he came back.

Reply 6

ten bob

Anonymous

Girls, I know what your saying. I'm not desperate I'm lonely. I go to a uni full of girls about 3:1 girl:guy and they are all toffs so when I get a guy I like I feel like I should try keep him.

Tell me should I text him or not. Part of me is thinking stay strong and don't. How can I be a bloody bunny boiler if I 'm not always calling/texting to whoever said that.

Sad thing is even if this is a cycle I wouldn't care as long as he came back.

I rest my case.

Reply 7

IndianDiva

I say this everytime, but please don't waste your time, you'll regret it one day.

Reply 8

blondielilangel

I reckon dont text him, let him contact u but see how long it takes. Then decide what u want to do. How long he takes before he gets in touch is probably the big factor. Although its up to u obviously, i still stick to my above advice.
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Reply 9

username47781

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Why waste your life trying to pursue him, anyway i'm guessing by fun, he has now had what he wanted and moved on.

Reply 10

Anonymous #1

OP

no i haven't slept with him, maybe thats why he got bored. he's 27 so maybe thought he just can't wait.

Reply 11

booraad

14

It would have been polite if he had told you he wasn't interested. Unless you're his just-in-case booty call.

I would leave one last message saying that: 'silence could mean many things but you're going to assume he has other priorities right now. Take care'

Reply 12

Anonymous #1

OP

well the guy in question txted last night saying he missed me and that his ex was around so she deletes any female name is his phone book apparently. Yeah it sounds like i'm being played, so I've said he has to think of a way to make it up with me - lets see what he comes up?

Reply 13

JustJam2006

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Anonymous

well the guy in question txted last night saying he missed me and that his ex was around so she deletes any female name is his phone book apparently. Yeah it sounds like i'm being played, so I've said he has to think of a way to make it up with me - lets see what he comes up?

You're kidding! :rolleyes:

That's really odd...what's she doing messing around with his phone anyway? I know that this is beside the point but I just don't get why some people feel that because they are or have been in a relationship with someone that they have the right to be so controlling. Going through his phone deleting numbers! How rude (rant over..lol). Back to the issue, it does sound a bit fishy with the ex thing. Hmm, 7/8 weeks is a long time not to reply to someone's messages no matter how busy they are! At least he came up with an explanation I guess... :smile:

. Let's see how he'll make this up :rolleyes:

Good Luck is all I can say OP and be careful :smile:

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Reply 14

JustJam2006

9

Wonder what happened?

Reply 15

PhilMc

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I could probably predict what did.

Reply 16

Anthonyjm71

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Anonymous

well the guy in question txted last night saying he missed me and that his ex was around so she deletes any female name is his phone book apparently. Yeah it sounds like i'm being played, so I've said he has to think of a way to make it up with me - lets see what he comes up?

this does seem rather odd.. to me , why doing somethung as that!..

Does this mean he's done with me?

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