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Internet Relationships
So, a few months ago I met a guy off here and we started talking on msn and have been ever since and we talk on the phone alot. And we say we love eachother.
Now I know I have very strong feelings for him. But I want to hear if other people think you can fall for someone you haven't met or have you ever had a relationship over the internet?
I was always weary of them, but they seem to be coming alot more often nowadays and I have feeling strong feelings for this guy
What are your thoughts people?
Now I know I have very strong feelings for him. But I want to hear if other people think you can fall for someone you haven't met or have you ever had a relationship over the internet?
I was always weary of them, but they seem to be coming alot more often nowadays and I have feeling strong feelings for this guy
What are your thoughts people?
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Reply 1
I think you can fancy someone from talking online/on the phone but i don't really see how you can love them if you have never met them in person because the whole physically being together thing is so important(if not the most important) in a relationship and i don't get how you can love someone if you haven't met them in person.. are you going to meet him?
Reply 2
Yellowmarshmellow
I think you can fancy someone from talking online/on the phone but i don't really see how you can love them if you have never met them in person because the whole physically being together thing is so important(if not the most important) in a relationship and i don't get how you can love someone if you haven't met them in person.. are you going to meet him?
One day I will, but he lives in a different country...I know silly right!....
Reply 3
they can result in real love. most dont, but a few do. you might love the idea of him that you know right now, maybe not the "real" him if you get me. you'll know if you really love him if you ever meet.
Reply 4
18
i couldnt be with someone i couldnt touch but thats just me
Reply 5
My older sister met her man online and they're now a happy engaged couple living together and starting a life together. I also met my man online and we're also engaged and he's moving in with me in June They can work but you have to be careful. Before i'd even thought about meeting him i'd made sure i'd seen him on webcam and heard him speaking to me. I also took people with me when i met him. These relationships can work aslong as both people are willing to make it work. If both people put in the effort then it can work out. xx<3
They can work but you have to be careful. Before i'd even thought about meeting him i'd made sure i'd seen him on webcam and heard him speaking to me. I also took people with me when i met him. These relationships can work aslong as both people are willing to make it work. If both people put in the effort then it can work out. xx<3Reply 6
14
Surely it's awkward to meet a guy you consider your internet boyfriend in real life when someone else is there? I need to know what it's like!
I am in the same situation and want to meet mine. I know I have to take a friend, but he wants us to go to where he lives, quite a train journey. That bit I don't like anyway- if I needed to get away I'd be lost!
But if I realised that I did actually like him in "that" way I'd feel awkward about showing it in front of my friend or whatever. Help!
I am in the same situation and want to meet mine. I know I have to take a friend, but he wants us to go to where he lives, quite a train journey. That bit I don't like anyway- if I needed to get away I'd be lost!
But if I realised that I did actually like him in "that" way I'd feel awkward about showing it in front of my friend or whatever. Help!
Reply 7
I had my dad and my sis with me, they were there for about 5mins just to check all was ok and then we went off on our own. It was awkward at first i thought he hated me because he wasnt standing too close to me or anything, but after about 20mins we sat down and just relaxed we were talking about random things and then he put his arm around me and kissed me for the first time. That was almost 8months ago You need to take someone with you i can't stress that enough, i've never met anyone off the net without having someone with me to begin with. If you decide you want to go meet him try and get an older sister, an auntie or even your mum to come along with you just to check that all is ok. Make sure your parents know where you're going and make sure you have a phone with you just incase you need to get hold of someone I'd advise you to get him to meet you somewhere you're familiar with too because you need to feel comfortable with your surroundings, and make sure you meet in a public place where theres lots of people, if you have doubts about him when you meet him then get someone to stay with you and don't go off with him alone! Its REALLY important to do things properly and to have someone check him out with you first!!!
You need to take someone with you i can't stress that enough, i've never met anyone off the net without having someone with me to begin with. If you decide you want to go meet him try and get an older sister, an auntie or even your mum to come along with you just to check that all is ok. Make sure your parents know where you're going and make sure you have a phone with you just incase you need to get hold of someone I'd advise you to get him to meet you somewhere you're familiar with too because you need to feel comfortable with your surroundings, and make sure you meet in a public place where theres lots of people, if you have doubts about him when you meet him then get someone to stay with you and don't go off with him alone! Its REALLY important to do things properly and to have someone check him out with you first!!!Reply 8
I suppose there's no reason why the web shouldn't be a good starting place. After all, one is much more likely to find a partner of common interests somewhere like here than in a nightclub. However talking loads on the web and delaying the meet would be weird for when it happened.
Reply 9
give up. internet people hide things and don't say what they really feel. at least in person you can judge what a person things by their facial expressions and tone of voice.
Reply 10
17
Anonymous
So, a few months ago I met a guy off here and we started talking on msn and have been ever since and we talk on the phone alot. And we say we love eachother.
Now I know I have very strong feelings for him. But I want to hear if other people think you can fall for someone you haven't met or have you ever had a relationship over the internet?
I was always weary of them, but they seem to be coming alot more often nowadays and I have feeling strong feelings for this guy
What are your thoughts people?
Now I know I have very strong feelings for him. But I want to hear if other people think you can fall for someone you haven't met or have you ever had a relationship over the internet?
I was always weary of them, but they seem to be coming alot more often nowadays and I have feeling strong feelings for this guy
What are your thoughts people?
I fail to understand how you can love someone you haven't met? It's almost a mockery to the whole emotion. I mean you don't love the person, you simply love an idea of that person. In that respect, it's simply an ideology.
Reply 11
People are totally different over the internet compared to real life. So you should meet this person first before things like "love" are brought up. Once you get to know each other away from the net...who knows?
Reply 12
theonehitwonder
at least in person you can judge what a person things by their facial expressions and tone of voice.
you can lie in real life as well
Reply 13
Anonymous
So, a few months ago I met a guy off here and we started talking on msn and have been ever since and we talk on the phone alot. And we say we love eachother.
Now I know I have very strong feelings for him. But I want to hear if other people think you can fall for someone you haven't met or have you ever had a relationship over the internet?
I was always weary of them, but they seem to be coming alot more often nowadays and I have feeling strong feelings for this guy
What are your thoughts people?
Now I know I have very strong feelings for him. But I want to hear if other people think you can fall for someone you haven't met or have you ever had a relationship over the internet?
I was always weary of them, but they seem to be coming alot more often nowadays and I have feeling strong feelings for this guy
What are your thoughts people?
What I've bolded makes for fascinating analysis, but I shall spare you the awkwardness.
You need to be getting together for a day out somewhere, anywhere, as soon as possible, before feelings snowball into anything that'd be painful to back out from. Do it now; he'll understand.
Reply 14
Shhhhhh
I met a girl on the net, weve been 'going out' 6 months and 3 days so far, shes coming to stay in the summer (we havent met, SO that will be great fun). All is dandy, I can't express how perfect it is, Its daymn hard and does put pressure on you, but its working thus far, full commitment etc. Time will tell my story.
I am in love with her... Whatever you believe or not, its what we believe, so we will see
(DON'T REBEL againest this post, I know it will turn out a bit outragous, but We will cope)
I met a girl on the net, weve been 'going out' 6 months and 3 days so far, shes coming to stay in the summer (we havent met, SO that will be great fun). All is dandy, I can't express how perfect it is, Its daymn hard and does put pressure on you, but its working thus far, full commitment etc. Time will tell my story.
I am in love with her... Whatever you believe or not, its what we believe, so we will see
(DON'T REBEL againest this post, I know it will turn out a bit outragous, but We will cope)
Reply 15
How do you decide when you are 'going out' with someone...surely you have no idea what that person is actually like? Do you refer to them as your boy/girlfriend?
I can't help but not like the idea of internet relationships...it all sounds a little dodgy and reminds me of being 12/13 when everyone had an internet **** buddy!
I can't help but not like the idea of internet relationships...it all sounds a little dodgy and reminds me of being 12/13 when everyone had an internet **** buddy!
Reply 16
Bubblebee
How do you decide when you are 'going out' with someone...surely you have no idea what that person is actually like? Do you refer to them as your boy/girlfriend?
I can't help but not like the idea of internet relationships...it all sounds a little dodgy and reminds me of being 12/13 when everyone had an internet **** buddy!
I can't help but not like the idea of internet relationships...it all sounds a little dodgy and reminds me of being 12/13 when everyone had an internet **** buddy!
Ill answer that even if it wasnt ment for me.
1) What that person is actually like comes in two forms, inside and outside (not how they look, how they interact)
The internet covers the inside and some of the outside (with only physical interaction left to figure when you meet, but its not as if you can't make good projections on what they are like, its still gonna be fun to find out)
2) I asked my gf out over the internet, but it had to be done and she didnt hesitate to say yes. And we do refer to each other as bf and gf.
3) yeahh it is a bit childish eh? Or maybe not....
From my point, I think whats more childish is just going out on the 'pull' to relieve sexual desires, mindless really. So I don't think this is drasticly different in that sence, its more mature.
May just be hard to accept... but it is posible.
Im a comitment typa guy, and I have all I want with her(almost, apart from her here atm...), so I cant wait to spend summer with her.
Of course there is a risk there, but Im taking it. We're taking, it will work out somehow.
Reply 17
Once upon a time I had an "internet relationship" where I hadn't met the guy. It was all lovely and smiles online, and he said he loved me (I didn't say it back 
) and we intended to meet up and see how things went. But it never happened, because I realised that it was too easy to say these things and so on online and wish you were in a real relationship, but without really knowing the person (and I really believe you CAN'T fully know someone without meeting them) it's not right. So no, I don't think that you can have a bf/gf you've never met. At least, the relationship is nowhere near as real.
On the other hand, I actually met my current boyfriend on TSR, but nothing at all happened until we met and then got together. That's all good.
) and we intended to meet up and see how things went. But it never happened, because I realised that it was too easy to say these things and so on online and wish you were in a real relationship, but without really knowing the person (and I really believe you CAN'T fully know someone without meeting them) it's not right. So no, I don't think that you can have a bf/gf you've never met. At least, the relationship is nowhere near as real.On the other hand, I actually met my current boyfriend on TSR, but nothing at all happened until we met and then got together. That's all good.
Reply 18
Anonymous
Once upon a time I had an "internet relationship" where I hadn't met the guy. It was all lovely and smiles online, and he said he loved me (I didn't say it back ) and we intended to meet up and see how things went. But it never happened, because I realised that it was too easy to say these things and so on online and wish you were in a real relationship, but without really knowing the person (and I really believe you CAN'T fully know someone without meeting them) it's not right. So no, I don't think that you can have a bf/gf you've never met. At least, the relationship is nowhere near as real.
On the other hand, I actually met my current boyfriend on TSR, but nothing at all happened until we met and then got together. That's all good.
) and we intended to meet up and see how things went. But it never happened, because I realised that it was too easy to say these things and so on online and wish you were in a real relationship, but without really knowing the person (and I really believe you CAN'T fully know someone without meeting them) it's not right. So no, I don't think that you can have a bf/gf you've never met. At least, the relationship is nowhere near as real.On the other hand, I actually met my current boyfriend on TSR, but nothing at all happened until we met and then got together. That's all good.
Yeah I'd agree with most of that,
its the logistics thats killing us atm, But once we meet, and see how it goes it will all be good, I have faith
Everyone has different personal experiences,
Everyone has different personal opinions on them
Hence any topic like this, is highly subjective.
However anon... can you REALLY make that conclusion with the first relationship if you didn't bother to meet?
It reminds me of some highly philosophical or religious arguement, notably how can we prove anything? Like God for example if we've never seen him, and all that cliche stuff...
Reply 19
Livethefire
Yeah I'd agree with most of that,
its the logistics thats killing us atm, But once we meet, and see how it goes it will all be good, I have faith
Everyone has different personal experiences,
Everyone has different personal opinions on them
Hence any topic like this, is highly subjective.
However anon... can you REALLY make that conclusion with the first relationship if you didn't bother to meet?
It reminds me of some highly philosophical or religious arguement, notably how can we prove anything? Like God for example if we've never seen him, and all that cliche stuff...
its the logistics thats killing us atm, But once we meet, and see how it goes it will all be good, I have faith
Everyone has different personal experiences,
Everyone has different personal opinions on them
Hence any topic like this, is highly subjective.
However anon... can you REALLY make that conclusion with the first relationship if you didn't bother to meet?
It reminds me of some highly philosophical or religious arguement, notably how can we prove anything? Like God for example if we've never seen him, and all that cliche stuff...
Yes - I met him several months after I ended it all and was proved utterly right (and he agreed, despite having taken it REALLY badly at the time). We got on OK but were totally different people. It's only too easy to fall for someone when all you see is the persona they project on here. Especially if you're lonely or whatever. And you can fall in love with the idea of being in love which eventually I realised isn't the same thing at all.
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