a hypothetical question

if you met a girl/guy when you was 16/17, fell in love with them, went to uni together, got married and lived together until you was 60-70, being totally faithful and completely in love with each other and sharing all the best memories in life together. Then when you're say 70 your partner dies of natural causes, would you see any point in living? or would the pain be too strong and unbearable and you would not want to live anymore? just thought about it today randomly and i don't know what i'd do!

Reply 1

bunthulhu

14

Someone is getting waaaaaaay ahead of themself :rofl:

It's totally not an issue, wait til you're old and wrinkly to worry about stuff like that.

Reply 2

Livethefire

Anonymous

if you met a girl/guy when you was 16/17, fell in love with them, went to uni together, got married and lived together until you was 60-70, being totally faithful and completely in love with each other and sharing all the best memories in life together. Then when you're say 70 your partner dies of natural causes, would you see any point in living? or would the pain be too strong and unbearable and you would not want to live anymore? just thought about it today randomly and i don't know what i'd do!

I think commiting sucide is giving up before the race is over,
something like that is envidable (a person dieing before the other... or simultanoeasly)

I would go all the way to my own natural death.

Reply 3

Fleece

15

Do we have a 70 year old anon poster here?

If not, find something else to worry you.

Reply 4

ForumFreak

9

You do often get married couples who to die with in months of each other of natural causes. Maybe the one left behind does just give up subconciously.

Reply 5

Pony Jack

15

Don't old women outlive their hubbies longer than t'other way round..that's what I heard *shrug*
I guess blokes give up more easily than girls..

Reply 6

urz_4eva

Yeah I understand you. Ofcourse the person would feel like life was not worth living.. I duno what i would do.. but def. not suicide

Reply 7

balloon_parade

14

Dunno though, some widows get a new lease of life and find new partners and get new friends and stuff.

I would just find something to do to occupy my time! Like playing bridge or gardening, lol!

Reply 8

Seoid

I used to work with a woman who'd been with her husband since they were both 14. When they were in their sixties the man fell down the stairs and died. She just could not get over it. A year later she was still crying every day and eventually she lost her job because she couldn't think straight. I talked to her about it once and she said felt like someone had taken half of her away and she didn't know how to live like that. It was really sad. I see her around from time to time and although she has her family to look after her I don't think she'll ever get back to normal.

Reply 9

louisedotcom

13

I understand where your coming from, if you had spent your entire life with someone and for them to suddenly not be there must be the most awful feeling in the world.
I cant imagine what it must be like- although I can totally understand someone at that age just wanting to end it- especially if they have nothing or no one else.

I know that personally I wouldnt want to go on living alone. Some things you can never get over, and for me I think something like that would be something that I couldnt move on from.

Reply 10

ten bob

lol why do you ask are you in this position?

Reply 11

PinkMobilePhone

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22

You'd probably have children and grandchildren by that time. Maybe even great-grandchildren.
You would want to stick around because of them!

Anyway I find that a lot of old people have a different attitude to dying than younger people.

My grandma, for example, when one of her oldest and dearest friends died, you would have expected her to have been upset. Instead she just sort of shrugged and said "well it happens".
A peculiar attitude? Well not really. When you get old, I think you accept that death is probably not far off, and even if somebody you care about dies, you know that you're not far behind them and you've made your peace with that.

Sure enough my grandma died only a year and a half later.

Old people don't seem to fear death as young people do.

But at the same time, for old people, committing suicide is pointless because you're not far off dying anyway!

That's the impression I get from any old people I've spoken to about this sort of subject in the past anyway :smile:

Reply 12

scribble_girl

14

XenaGlamRocker

You'd probably have children and grandchildren by that time. Maybe even great-grandchildren.
You would want to stick around because of them!

Anyway I find that a lot of old people have a different attitude to dying than younger people.

My grandma, for example, when one of her oldest and dearest friends died, you would have expected her to have been upset. Instead she just sort of shrugged and said "well it happens".
A peculiar attitude? Well not really. When you get old, I think you accept that death is probably not far off, and even if somebody you care about dies, you know that you're not far behind them and you've made your peace with that.

Sure enough my grandma died only a year and a half later.

Old people don't seem to fear death as young people do.

But at the same time, for old people, committing suicide is pointless because you're not far off dying anyway!

That's the impression I get from any old people I've spoken to about this sort of subject in the past anyway :smile:

I know what you mean.. every time I go over to my great aunt's, she always gets out her jewellry box etc and asks me what I want when she dies. It's mad, you compliment one thing and she goes 'oh you can have it when I'm dead, dear, if you like!'

It's quite creepy :p:

Nice uplifting topic by the way... :rolleyes:

Reply 13

Andy Peters

marbleblue

Don't old women outlive their hubbies longer than t'other way round..that's what I heard *shrug*
I guess blokes give up more easily than girls..

I think it's because Men do real work and so their bodies give up earlier.

Reply 14

h82think

14

This is a really sad thread- 2bh I don't like thinking about it. I guess by 70, the couple would have had children, and perhaps grand-children, and it will be these family members that make them want to carry on living (basically what XenaGlamRocker said)

Reply 15

Bubblebee

15

scribble_girl

I know what you mean.. every time I go over to my great aunt's, she always gets out her jewellry box etc and asks me what I want when she dies. It's mad, you compliment one thing and she goes 'oh you can have it when I'm dead, dear, if you like!'

It's quite creepy :p:

Nice uplifting topic by the way... :rolleyes:

My nan does that too...and she puts time limits on things, like we were talking about photo albums and she said 'I've got to get all mine arranged before I go', or 'I must get your uncle to put that fence up before I'm down there...' it's bizzare to be honest!

Reply 16

scribble_girl

14

Bubblebee

My nan does that too...and she puts time limits on things, like we were talking about photo albums and she said 'I've got to get all mine arranged before I go', or 'I must get your uncle to put that fence up before I'm down there...' it's bizzare to be honest!

I know! It's as if they're going on holiday or something.... it's strange just how.. well, normal it is for them! I mean, my great aunt's not got any children (she says my mum {her niece} is like a daughter to her so we're like her grandkids, my mum's mum died years ago) so she keeps trying to divide her stuff up. I told her that if she's feeling a bit iffy it'd be easier to just go around with post-it notes and label everything up... my mother didn't get the joke :p:

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Ahh I'm going to miss the old dear when she does pop her clogs. It's only fair though, she's 88 and was 70 when I was born, and she said she didn't expect to see me be a teenager, let alone go off to Uni. She's seen all her friends die and has been quite accepting of it 'it just happens', like XenaGlamRocker said... I don't know, it's annoying to me that she's not full of 'get up and go' but there's something quite nice and calm about the way she's facing the idea.

Reply 17

PinkMobilePhone

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22

cheers to whoever repped me btw - much appreciated :smile:

Reply 18

Anonymous #1

OP

wow, its good to see such varied responses! the reason i asked was because i was watching t.v and this girl could not have children.her and her partner had been together for several years and he learnt to live with it.the thought occured to me that if they both grew old together, and i was that man-what would i do! i found it really hard to get over a 10month relationship and even now i'm finding if hard to stop being so attached to my best friend (a girl, i'm a boy), so i guess that would be something i know i could never get over, not least for a good few years.of course, i don't know how i'd react until it actually happens but i'm fairly confident i'd lose the will to live! interesting though guys, thanks :smile:

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