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Is it normal to have lots of aquaintances but no close friends? watch

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    I have only 2 'friends' that I meet with once a month or so, but we're not close, despite the fact we've known each-other for 10 years. I would go out with colleagues occasionally if we were all going, but any attempts to get to know people would get shut down.
    I've recently started university aged 23 and hope to make friends here, but I have a feeling there's something inherently wrong with me. I've never dated either, despite being slim, turning heads on occasion when out and about and making an effort with my appearance.
    How can I go to socials without friends, and what can I do to change my fate?
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    Dunno... I've never had a close friend. So maybe it is? Then again I'm hardly normal...
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    (Original post by TorpidPhil)
    Dunno... I've never had a close friend. So maybe it is? Then again I'm hardly normal...
    You mean you don't act normal, most apparent normal people have some very strange ways about them I find so dont think of yourself as too abnormal.
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    (Original post by mistyblue~)
    You mean you don't act normal, most apparent normal people have some very strange ways about them I find so dont think of yourself as too abnormal.
    Ughhh. Yeah, I know that. Everyone has some unique traits. But I really am quite the enigma honestly and objectively. You won't find many folks like me. Therefore I'm weird. But I love it.
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    If you're a very social person who is outgoing and stuff, and/or who people like even if you're not that outgoing, yes. Pretty reasonable thing to occur. Like several people like you but you don't have anyone to netflix n chill with or talk to about your emotions
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    (Original post by Maggie_O)
    If you're a very social person who is outgoing and stuff, and/or who people like even if you're not that outgoing, yes. Pretty reasonable thing to occur. Like several people like you but you don't have anyone to netflix n chill with or talk to about your emotions
    But I want that. So much
    I feel I don't have a support network, which I need especially as a girl...
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    But I want that. So much
    I feel I don't have a support network, which I need especially as a girl...
    Even with friends, I leave out 60% of things when discussing personal issues with them. I don't know, I just have the "they were strangers before you were friends, they could easily become a stranger again" mentality. :lol:

    Do you have an older or younger sibling you get along with?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    But I want that. So much
    I feel I don't have a support network, which I need especially as a girl...
    I see, I get that way sometimes too because I used to have a solid group of close trusted mates but moved far away from everyone and now that I'm at Uni I haven't even found time for guys or friends. Maybe you can meet someone on here, tbh; I don't see why you can't open up to people on here at least and meet up, but it takes time too. Are you an introvert?
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    (Original post by thecatwithnohat)
    Even with friends, I leave out 60% of things when discussing personal issues with them. I don't know, I just have the "they were strangers before you were friends, they could easily become a stranger again" mentality. :lol:

    Do you have an older or younger sibling you get along with?
    That's understandable. I've only come to think that after a fight though. Like getting all paranoid that they'd spill my worst secret.
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    (Original post by thecatwithnohat)
    "they were strangers before you were friends, they could easily become a stranger again"
    deep

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    (Original post by thecatwithnohat)
    Even with friends, I leave out 60% of things when discussing personal issues with them. I don't know, I just have the "they were strangers before you were friends, they could easily become a stranger again" mentality. :lol:

    Do you have an older or younger sibling you get along with?
    Omg that's a really good quote. Interesting.

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    But I want that. So much
    I feel I don't have a support network, which I need especially as a girl...
    Trust me.That isn't something girls alone need. There's a reason males are more likely to become addicted to drugs and commit suicide. I think that's one of them.
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    (Original post by Illiberal Liberal)
    deep

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    ty, i tried really hard to think of it x


    (Original post by TorpidPhil)
    Omg that's a really good quote. Interesting.



    Trust me.That isn't something girls alone need. There's a reason males are more likely to become addicted to drugs and commit suicide. I think that's one of them.
    tbh I'm too paranoid for my own good, but with good reason :lol: I do still get the occasional knobs though.
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    (Original post by Maggie_O)
    I see, I get that way sometimes too because I used to have a solid group of close trusted mates but moved far away from everyone and now that I'm at Uni I haven't even found time for guys or friends. Maybe you can meet someone on here, tbh; I don't see why you can't open up to people on here at least and meet up, but it takes time too. Are you an introvert?
    I am somewhat of an introvert, but I can come across as very extroverted at times. Before starting uni, I worked in customer service for 2 years, and am confident talking with people I've just met. I guess socialising and getting to know others is different though.
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    (Original post by thecatwithnohat)
    Even with friends, I leave out 60% of things when discussing personal issues with them. I don't know, I just have the "they were strangers before you were friends, they could easily become a stranger again" mentality. :lol:

    Do you have an older or younger sibling you get along with?
    I have a younger brother I get along with, but we're not close. And we're in different cities.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I have a younger brother I get along with, but we're not close. And we're in different cities.
    It's the same with my sister and I; I'm in London while she's in Dubai. We weren't close at first but the distance brought us closer :yep:

    Why aren't you close, because you're too alike or because your personalities clash?
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    (Original post by thecatwithnohat)
    It's the same with my sister and I; I'm in London while she's in Dubai. We weren't close at first but the distance brought us closer :yep:

    Why aren't you close, because you're too alike or because your personalities clash?
    We just have very little in common I guess. Plus he rarely picks up his phone when I ring. It's not just me though. He doesn't pick up when my parents call either.
    I do have family abroad and skype with them quite often which is nice.
    Pretty cool that you can become closer after one of you has moved away though.
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    This is normal in today's smartphone society.
 
 
 
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